My advice for ANY teenager, boy or girl.
Do not worry about a relationship as in a boyfriend or girlfriend. To much temptation in today's world. Focus on your relationship with God. Focus on school. Find good christian friends to help encourage you. I have missed SOOO much out of life as a teen because of my choices. I WANTED a girl. God knows girls are my weakness. As a teenager hormones are going crazy and with what the world is telling you, yeah its normal to want someone to "love" and someone to "love" you back. It makes you feel important. I think through praying to God to provide you with only what you need, praying for HIS will in your life to done, not YOUR will. So instead of saying God give me this because I want it, say God i want what you want for me, whatever you want for me I know it will be enough. Once you seek what God wants then everything will start to fall in place. Look very closely to see if what you want is a want of the flesh or a will from God. We all seek for relationship, it is in us. That is relationship with God. Satan can decieve us and make us think its relationship with others. But by working on your relationship with God, he will bring people in your life. Test the spirits. When someone comes into your life, are they trying to help you with God, or break you from God? In all that you do, do it to glorify God. I was born into a christian home. I grew up knowing God, and knowing he loves me. It wasn't till after I seeked drugs and girls that my life turned upside down. I used either drugs or girls to make me happy, not that I thought I was seeking those to be happy but i was. Even while i roasted a bowl of meth I would be talking about God. As I slept with girl I would speak of love from God...as i was rolling on e I preached Gods message. But the message was distorted. I dropped out of highschool because I got depressed over a girl. I seeked girls first..when the relationship ended I seeked drugs. Then meet another girl and think this girl must be true cuz she is helping me get off drugs..then she left me, bringing me back to drugs. This pattern continued in my life until I had a son. and I thought what am I doing. What happened to me, I was the little goody two shoe christian boy how did i become what I am. I see it has a perfect example of the Prodigal Son story. I use to defend drug use as in, I would to say if people take tylonal for a headache why cant I smoke pot or take anyother drug, just cuz man made a drug "illegal" or "legal" its still a drug. I was not seeeing the spirit behind things. If i could go back ot my teanage years I would stay away from girls and drugs. And focus on God not careing anything what they said about what I was doing, because I know now all that matters is God, and all I have and will have is because of God. Not saying everyone that goes into a relationship or even do drugs will end up as crazy as I got, but the possiblity is there. And i never once WILLED for it, I never once decided to become that it just creeped up on me. Now I am 28 years old and I have not graduated high school and i have no college, and even thought it was my actions that brought me here, it was my actions with drugs and girls that got me here. I think for for teanagers, even christian teanagers, to get into a relationship is like playing with fire. You may not get burned at first but keep playing with it and the chances get greater. I SUGGEST TO EVERYONE DO NOT HAVE SEX UNTIL MARRIAGE...IT WILL BREAK YOU. This is from a former candy kid raver wou loved sex. who liked to do anything that was kinky. but now because I came back to God...my old ways have died I no longer desire drugs or sex. I know desire all that God wills for my life. and it is AWESOME. I wish i would have listened to God when I was yonger, I would probably have a college degree and a good job by now in my life, not to say I cant get a college degree and good job but satan has robbed me of over 10 years of my life. 10 years of the most important part of you life i think. that 15-25 year rage is SO important for your future. but at the same time it could be the most tempted part too.
Well lol I think i have said enought. but I would love to talk to anyone that wants to talk. I am here for you!!!! To help encourage anyone and everyone in there walk in the Lord. I have done some crazy things, I would NEVER judge one person for I honestly have broken EVERY commandment in some way or form. But God restored me, and continues to restore me. I know his work in me is NEVER complete until the day I am at home, in heaven.
God bless you all!!!!
with Love from our Father,
Donald A. Dean
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