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what do you do when you are as nice as you can be, polite as you can be to a person and they are very condescending and rude to the point that you want to smack them. instead all you do is smile and bite your tongue knowing that the christian thing to do is turn the other cheek but you are fuming inside. how do you handle it??? i have to deal w/one particular lady on a regular daily basis because shes the secretary at my daughters school...i have tried very hard to be nice. when i tried to make conversation with her she rolls her eyes and goes ok ok ok ok ive heard it before..and im like oh my i cant believe she just said that....my oldself would have turned on her and ripped right into her good....but not sure what else i can do. so any suggestion on this one would help....shes really snobby..nice to some and snobby to the rest of us...blessings
 
Maybe just calmly say to her that you've really tried not to let it get to you and ask her if she has a problem with you? But just be calm with whatever reply she gives you.
 
Secretary are typically grouchy, especially at a school. All the trouble maker kids have to sit with them for awhile. You would be grouchy too. Although, she should try as hard to be polite and nice, as you are.
 
hi,
wow i know how u feel. the best thing to do is just be polite and not try too hard. because if you do, you'll only frustrate yourself. pray for her and take any opportunity there is to be kind to her and do just that. people who behave the way she does dont really know better, so continue to let your light shine.
 
artistic_dreams said:
what do you do when you are as nice as you can be, polite as you can be to a person and they are very condescending and rude to the point that you want to smack them. instead all you do is smile and bite your tongue knowing that the christian thing to do is turn the other cheek but you are fuming inside. how do you handle it??? i have to deal w/one particular lady on a regular daily basis because shes the secretary at my daughters school...i have tried very hard to be nice. when i tried to make conversation with her she rolls her eyes and goes ok ok ok ok ive heard it before..and im like oh my i cant believe she just said that....my oldself would have turned on her and ripped right into her good....but not sure what else i can do. so any suggestion on this one would help....shes really snobby..nice to some and snobby to the rest of us...blessings
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Try to see things from her side of the desk. Not everyone she deals with is calm and polite; quite the contrary, most of them are there in a stressful situation and she has to be nice to them as she is cursed at and made to feel incompetent. It takes a very strong individual to deal with stressed people on a daily basis. I would reccomend that you take her a small gift like a flower arrangement to show your appreciation for her work. Pray for her as she strives to make it day by day.
 
artistic_dreams said:
what do you do when you are as nice as you can be, polite as you can be to a person and they are very condescending and rude to the point that you want to smack them. instead all you do is smile and bite your tongue knowing that the christian thing to do is turn the other cheek but you are fuming inside. how do you handle it??? i have to deal w/one particular lady on a regular daily basis because shes the secretary at my daughters school...i have tried very hard to be nice. when i tried to make conversation with her she rolls her eyes and goes ok ok ok ok ive heard it before..and im like oh my i cant believe she just said that....my oldself would have turned on her and ripped right into her good....but not sure what else i can do. so any suggestion on this one would help....shes really snobby..nice to some and snobby to the rest of us...blessings
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A man told me once that the way he dealt with rude people was to be all the nicer, more polite and charming to them. I think he really laid it on thick. He seemed to think it worked in his case
 
Have you ever heard the term, kill them with kindness? It's hard to be mean to someone who has just done something nice for you! Have you ever thought about buying some inexpensive flowers or some other small token and bring it to her with a kind smile and tell her something like, "I know you have to put up with a lot in your job, and I just wanted you to know, I appreciate you!" Even if that doesn't get the desired response, be consistant with a kind attitude everyday. Unless she has absolutely no heart at all, I imagine she will back off of you. :-) What have you got to lose?
 
Like all things spiritual you need to equip yourself with prayer before you go into this situation. You seem to already have the right idea: be kind.

Situations like these is a great example of spiritual warefare and growth! She obviously has a spirit contrary to Godliness so bind it in the name of Jesus! Before you get to school pray for things like her hurts, worries,finances, relationships, and spiritual walk (or salvation). Pray that she would be unable to be unkind to you, negative, degrading, or uncoroperative.

The darkness in her has to yield to the light in you. Thats biblical. You have to claim it and proclaim it. Also, this woman hurts people because she's a hurt person. Try not to take her mannerisms so seriously- chances are she treats everyone that way.
 
artistic_dreams said:
what do you do when you are as nice as you can be, polite as you can be to a person and they are very condescending and rude to the point that you want to smack them. instead all you do is smile and bite your tongue knowing that the christian thing to do is turn the other cheek but you are fuming inside. how do you handle it??? i have to deal w/one particular lady on a regular daily basis because shes the secretary at my daughters school...i have tried very hard to be nice. when i tried to make conversation with her she rolls her eyes and goes ok ok ok ok ive heard it before..and im like oh my i cant believe she just said that....my oldself would have turned on her and ripped right into her good....but not sure what else i can do. so any suggestion on this one would help....shes really snobby..nice to some and snobby to the rest of us...blessings
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i know how you feel! ideal with the same things all the time. you just have to brush it off, and if it keeps bugging you confront the person in the nicest way posiible! pray that God shows you something positive about them. its happened to me before its a tough spot to be in, but if you pray God will help you deal with it!
 
ty all very much.....the advice is wonderful....blessings to you
 
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