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†. Gen 27:46 . . And Rebecca said to Isaac: I am weary of living
because of the daughters of Heth. If Jacob take a wife of the
daughters of Heth, such as these which are of the daughters of the
land, I might as well die.
Abraham purchased a cemetery plot from Heth's clan back in chapter 23.
I think Rebecca was becoming very lonely for the company of daughters-in
law of a kindred spirit. Christians considering marriage should really give
some serious thought to how their parents feel about a prospective spouse.
It's just not fair to force your choice down there throat with the haughty
protest: It's MY life!
No man is an island, entire of itself;
Every man is a piece of the continent:
A part of the main.
(John Donne, 1624)
All that people do, everything they say, every decision they make; has a
ripple effect.
You know, Isaac really wasn't a bad man. But something happened to him
that made him lose interest in his patriarchal duties. I really do think the
man was having problems with depression; which may have been associated
somehow with his eyesight.
What if you could never again see Orion and the Milky Way, nor a sunset,
nor the colors of the rainbow, nor watch the flight of migrating geese or a
buzzing humming bird, nor see the bees busily collecting their pollen, nor
the wind shaking the trees, nor the fluorescent colors of Autumn foliage, nor
the splendor of the Grand Canyon, nor a spider's web illuminated from
behind by morning sunlight, nor the ocean's waves, nor fireworks on the 4th
of July? And what about all the things you haven't seen yet? Defective
eyesight would prevent you from ever seeing the things that you missed.
There is a well known syndrome that occurs in men called male menopause;
and also known by it's other name: andropause. Although male menopause
is related to the aging process-- with resultant hormonal reductions --men's
problems aren't caused by the very same kinds of changes that occur in
women. Women's menopausal difficulties are chiefly chemical. But with men,
it's mostly psychological.
One of the primary symptoms of andropause is depression. Not just bouts of
depression that come and go, but the chronic kind. Every day, every night:
feelings of inadequacy and worthlessness plague men afflicted with chronic
depression. They feel useless, they feel they'll never be any good again,
they feel expendable; and they feel unnecessary. But worse, they feel
unlovable; viz: not only do they feel like no one cares whether they live or
die, but they feel it is impossible for anyone to care about them at all.
It isn't unusual for men to rapidly deteriorate and die during the first
eighteen months of their retirement years. Why? Because their jobs, and
their careers, made their lives meaningful and worthwhile. It gave them a
reason to live. It gave them strong feelings of value, it made them creative
and gave them feelings of self worth and self esteem, and feelings of
belonging in a man's world. At career's end, they feel expended and
expendable; actually losing interest in living and it's almost as if they will
themselves to pass away because there's nothing left to live for, and people
begin treating them like children instead of mature adults.
When we're young and spry, we look forward to the future with optimism
and anticipation. But when we're older, there is nothing in life to look
forward to anymore but falling apart and leaving it. All the good stuff is over.
And it doesn't help having our bodies deteriorate along the way.
I really think that Isaac's handicap robbed him of all reasonable optimism;
and he saw no reason to go on living; especially at his age. Because of that,
he had no spirit for patriarchal duties. When the boys brought him food that
day, both of them asked their dad to sit up and eat. Sit up!? What the heck
was he doing lying down? Well, I think he was lying around all day feeling
sorry for himself, that's what. Life had become uninteresting to Isaac, and
he was no longer one tough cookie; but rather, one whipped puppy.
But not so Rebecca. No, No; not that quick-legged Aquarian. She was a
fighter, she was a Rocky Balboa. Becky had a head on her shoulders. Ever
the strong decisive woman, she put a bug in Isaac's ear to send Jacob away
to find a spouse. Yes, she was being cunning again; but in the right of it too:
as usual. It was a whole lot better for Jacob to depart with his dad's good
will than running away from home without saying good-bye.
Now that the blessing had actually been dispensed, and it was very clear to
Isaac that Jacob was God's choice to perpetuate Abraham's covenant, there
was no excuse to delay any longer in the matter of finding his son a suitable
wife because men don't live forever, Their children have to take up the flame
and carry it forward. Jacob was a virile man at this point in his life; but
that's getting ready to change. This fact, combined with the immediate
danger of another Cain-and-Abel episode, was more than enough reason for
Isaac to send Jacob away.
Rebecca's personal desire for Jacob to have a wife from her own people, one
with whom she could have fellowship rather than the continual friction she
experienced with Esau's Hittite wives, compelled her to convince Isaac that
her own life wouldn't be worth living anymore if Jacob married the same
kinds of impious women as his brother's.
Was Rebecca a good wife? Even though she tricked her husband? And even
though she was strong and decisive? I really believe she was because even
in the US Navy, sometimes a captain needs his first officer to take over and
run the ship till he's better.
"The Lord God said; It is not good for man to be alone; I will make a fitting
helper for him." (Gen 2:18)
Isaac benefited from his dad Abraham's wisdom; and he had the providence
of God to thank in the selection of his wife. Rebecca really saved the day,
and got Isaac back up on his patriarchal feet. If it wasn't for her, nothing
would have turned out right. She was indeed the perfect mate for that
particular man. Unlike Eve who brought her man down; Becky propped her
man up.
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†. Gen 27:46 . . And Rebecca said to Isaac: I am weary of living
because of the daughters of Heth. If Jacob take a wife of the
daughters of Heth, such as these which are of the daughters of the
land, I might as well die.
Abraham purchased a cemetery plot from Heth's clan back in chapter 23.
I think Rebecca was becoming very lonely for the company of daughters-in
law of a kindred spirit. Christians considering marriage should really give
some serious thought to how their parents feel about a prospective spouse.
It's just not fair to force your choice down there throat with the haughty
protest: It's MY life!
No man is an island, entire of itself;
Every man is a piece of the continent:
A part of the main.
(John Donne, 1624)
All that people do, everything they say, every decision they make; has a
ripple effect.
You know, Isaac really wasn't a bad man. But something happened to him
that made him lose interest in his patriarchal duties. I really do think the
man was having problems with depression; which may have been associated
somehow with his eyesight.
What if you could never again see Orion and the Milky Way, nor a sunset,
nor the colors of the rainbow, nor watch the flight of migrating geese or a
buzzing humming bird, nor see the bees busily collecting their pollen, nor
the wind shaking the trees, nor the fluorescent colors of Autumn foliage, nor
the splendor of the Grand Canyon, nor a spider's web illuminated from
behind by morning sunlight, nor the ocean's waves, nor fireworks on the 4th
of July? And what about all the things you haven't seen yet? Defective
eyesight would prevent you from ever seeing the things that you missed.
There is a well known syndrome that occurs in men called male menopause;
and also known by it's other name: andropause. Although male menopause
is related to the aging process-- with resultant hormonal reductions --men's
problems aren't caused by the very same kinds of changes that occur in
women. Women's menopausal difficulties are chiefly chemical. But with men,
it's mostly psychological.
One of the primary symptoms of andropause is depression. Not just bouts of
depression that come and go, but the chronic kind. Every day, every night:
feelings of inadequacy and worthlessness plague men afflicted with chronic
depression. They feel useless, they feel they'll never be any good again,
they feel expendable; and they feel unnecessary. But worse, they feel
unlovable; viz: not only do they feel like no one cares whether they live or
die, but they feel it is impossible for anyone to care about them at all.
It isn't unusual for men to rapidly deteriorate and die during the first
eighteen months of their retirement years. Why? Because their jobs, and
their careers, made their lives meaningful and worthwhile. It gave them a
reason to live. It gave them strong feelings of value, it made them creative
and gave them feelings of self worth and self esteem, and feelings of
belonging in a man's world. At career's end, they feel expended and
expendable; actually losing interest in living and it's almost as if they will
themselves to pass away because there's nothing left to live for, and people
begin treating them like children instead of mature adults.
When we're young and spry, we look forward to the future with optimism
and anticipation. But when we're older, there is nothing in life to look
forward to anymore but falling apart and leaving it. All the good stuff is over.
And it doesn't help having our bodies deteriorate along the way.
I really think that Isaac's handicap robbed him of all reasonable optimism;
and he saw no reason to go on living; especially at his age. Because of that,
he had no spirit for patriarchal duties. When the boys brought him food that
day, both of them asked their dad to sit up and eat. Sit up!? What the heck
was he doing lying down? Well, I think he was lying around all day feeling
sorry for himself, that's what. Life had become uninteresting to Isaac, and
he was no longer one tough cookie; but rather, one whipped puppy.
But not so Rebecca. No, No; not that quick-legged Aquarian. She was a
fighter, she was a Rocky Balboa. Becky had a head on her shoulders. Ever
the strong decisive woman, she put a bug in Isaac's ear to send Jacob away
to find a spouse. Yes, she was being cunning again; but in the right of it too:
as usual. It was a whole lot better for Jacob to depart with his dad's good
will than running away from home without saying good-bye.
Now that the blessing had actually been dispensed, and it was very clear to
Isaac that Jacob was God's choice to perpetuate Abraham's covenant, there
was no excuse to delay any longer in the matter of finding his son a suitable
wife because men don't live forever, Their children have to take up the flame
and carry it forward. Jacob was a virile man at this point in his life; but
that's getting ready to change. This fact, combined with the immediate
danger of another Cain-and-Abel episode, was more than enough reason for
Isaac to send Jacob away.
Rebecca's personal desire for Jacob to have a wife from her own people, one
with whom she could have fellowship rather than the continual friction she
experienced with Esau's Hittite wives, compelled her to convince Isaac that
her own life wouldn't be worth living anymore if Jacob married the same
kinds of impious women as his brother's.
Was Rebecca a good wife? Even though she tricked her husband? And even
though she was strong and decisive? I really believe she was because even
in the US Navy, sometimes a captain needs his first officer to take over and
run the ship till he's better.
"The Lord God said; It is not good for man to be alone; I will make a fitting
helper for him." (Gen 2:18)
Isaac benefited from his dad Abraham's wisdom; and he had the providence
of God to thank in the selection of his wife. Rebecca really saved the day,
and got Isaac back up on his patriarchal feet. If it wasn't for her, nothing
would have turned out right. She was indeed the perfect mate for that
particular man. Unlike Eve who brought her man down; Becky propped her
man up.
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