God can heal your broken heart.

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I was raised up in a christian home but only a year ago that I really do have a personal relationship with Christ. I was brought up to believe that God death is the only means to reliese one from one's marriage vow. Less than one year after I got married, my husband started playing around with other ladies. For 21 years he has been unfaithful, and I knew that he is sleeping around with other women, both married and sigles but I made up my mind that only death will do us part and that I will remain faithful to him but most importantly that I remain faithful to God. I stayed with my husband for 21 years and we have 6 children. Their age, 21, 20, 18 (all boys) 15, 8 (girls) 2year old boy.
About two years ago, our two elder sons caught my husband fooling around with another lady (who has been married for more than 25 years and she had 6 children with a few grandchildren) they told my husband to go and be with the other lady and leave me alone and he did. My husband left and is now living with the other lady. (I can not even begin to imagine what her husband and kids went through when she left them to be with my husband.
For almost one year, I went through a period of mourning, selfpitied, feeling betrayed and neglected, feeling ugly and unwanted, hurt, angry, bitter and unforgiving etc, etc. Despite the way I felt, I still find myself, loving and missing my husband and I longs for him to come home. It has always been my prayer that God will bring him home to me and our kids. I email and tell him that I love him still despite the fact that he told me so many times that he does not love me anymore and that he loves the women that he is with now. I told my husband that I know that he does not love me anymore and It is fine with me but as for me I will continue to love him and continue to be fathful to him until the day that he died. I know that it iis God's only way of undoing my marriage vow.
It was more than a months ago, that God set my heart free. I went to pick up my kids from birthday party that my husband and partner hosted and when I went in I saw both of them and I went up and talk to my husband and I find myself sitting around in their party amazed to find that I no longer holds any ill feelings towards my husband. I saw him as he is just another human being that Christ died for and my husband and his partner both needed to be set free just the way I was set free by the blood of Christ.
A week went past, I went to the place where my husband lives and his partner and tell them that I have forgiven them of all that they have done in the past that hurt me and my children. I also told them if they could find it in their heart to forgive me for whatever that I have done, said or written about that have hurt them and their families. My husband did not say much but his partner said that she accepted my apology and she do also ask for my forgiveness for being part of the reason that breaks my family up.
I have experieced the unspeakable joy that the bible talks about and the peace that passes understanding. What I realized is that I treasure the things of above more than the things of this world. I am grateful that God set me free from the bondage of all the ill feelings that I have towards my husband and his partner. Now I pray for them that they too, one day experience God's love and forgiveness and be willing to surrender their lives to God. Who knows they maybe be used for noble purposes once they allow their lives to be instrument for God's glory.

I praise God daily that He has blessed me with 6 wonderful children and that for the rest of my life, it is my desire to live life to the full and just be submerge in His love, provision and protection. I believe that God can make a way where there seems to be no way. He can draw waters out of rocks. He can turn what the devil ment for evil in your life into your advantage. Each and everyday, I draw near to Him knowing that He will draw near to me too.

I thank God that He has given me a new heart not someone else heart or a recondition heart but a brand new heart. So I embrace each new day as a gift from God and I live it as God intends me to!!!!!!

Bless you all
 
Wow, what a story of forgiveness! Amazing! You are truly an inspiration :) .
 
When i feel like crying regarding my own situation,i'll remember you and be strong.
 
I know, that we have been through many tough times and am sure many more to come, in our lives especially when it comes to our kids. I did not allow our kids to go visits their dad because I thought that they are still very young and they can be easily manipulated by the other women. My 20 year old son one day asked me if I can allow him to take the three young ones to see their dad and I allowed them to go with him. I felt very uncomfortable allowing them to go and visit him but after the day that I told him and his partner that I have forgiven them, I prayed and said to God that He knows my heart and that I was just trying to protect my kids from seeing and living in an ungodly environment, after all we are living in and amongst ungodly people and it is only God's love and mercy that protects us from harm. No wonder why the bible encourages us not to forsake our regular meetings and fellowship with fellow believers in Him. I also prayed and asked Him to help me continue to forgive them in days, weeks and years to come and that I trust Him that He will protect me and my children from all harm. I prayed and ask God for strength to trust Him completely that whatever happens in our lives it will be to our advantage for I know that He always have my best interest at heart. I also know that if I continue to have God's best interest in my heart I will have no problems in continuing to let go and let God. Forgiving and loving your enemy is not a one moment or one day incident of declaration but it is a life long process that becomes a habit and a lifestyle. Whenever I hear Satan knocking at my door I have to send Jesus to open it and all will be well.
 
:) i found these words very touching:

" Forgiving and loving your enemy is not a one moment or one day incident of declaration but it is a life long process that becomes a habit and a lifestyle. Whenever I hear Satan knocking at my door I have to send Jesus to open it and all will be well."
 
interesting, I am surprised you didn't find another man when your heart was hurt, I know i would have:P

This marriage thing anyway, where in the bible does it say "till death do us part"?
or any other words the pastor says during marriage?

because I am completely tired of man made rules man!
till death do us part my foot! I will dump the woman if I find out she was cheating and also file divorce. Because the bible does say when you know your partner is cheating, is THEN you can divorce.

Why should I wait till death!? O_o
 
Hi Xino
I tried looking for another man on the net one sometimes later and I did come across 5 of them and each one profess to be a born again christian but it did not take long before I discovered that they weren't. I no longer look for another man. I know that it will be really hard to find another man that truely loves and honour God like the way I do. I learnt to appreciate all that I have and make the most of every opportunity to praise God in all that I do. With God's help I was able to survived and lived without a man in my life for the last 2 years and I believe that His grace will continue to carry me through lilfe until the day that of His return to take me home.

I must admit that there were times where I longed to be hold and to be loved by a male sweet heart, but my desire to love and honour God with my all overrides the longing that I have for a companion here on earth.
 
Wow sounds like a great testimony XD I am happy that God did that for you! ps. just incase you didnt realize it does say: “What God has joined together, let man not separate . . . I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery” (Matthew 19:6, 9). So in fact it is a great blessing that God has healed your heart and I am glad that he does, but have peace because you are free from the bounds of that marriage, but I also will be praying and hoping that your childrens hearts are fixed by God as well because that is very important!
 
My eldest son is still struggling with forgiving his dad. I am grateful that the rest have forgiven their dad and we are praying that He will be saved one day.
 
wow , that's amazing :) When you Forgive , God will also forgive you for all the things you've done wrong . and that's a good thing you do , you forgave them :) Godbless you !
 
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