Guys + Commitment = 'uhm...where did he go?'

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^^0 Lol...Arwen, your new avi... X3

In response to the thread: Um, no. Just no...

Actually though, I've found over my relationship history that guys and girls seem to have issues with this.

Me? I date (from the git go) with the end goal of marriage, 'weighing' whether or not I could spend my entire life with this person, ext...

Others? ...seem not to so much... They start as friends...maybe date casually...don't even think about marriage (which you in the picture) til pretty far down the road. In fact, I once scared off a girl by mentioning/talking about marriage (not asking her, but the general frame-work of 'let's talk about marriage, what you think, want, ext...) ...she seemed fine in the moment, but told me later it freaked her out... -_-0 Seriously? Say that up front, girl...

Anyway, I couldn't say whether or not guys or girls by gender have commitment issues, but other factors like age, mindset, experience, and so on play into the mix as well, I'm sure...
 
Title of yer' book...
"Catlynn & The Hearts I've Broken :A Tell All Guide To This Tall Drink Of Water Known As ME"
 
Catlynn said:
Just so that everyone is clear.....

I'm not the horse girl.
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LOL...no you are the horse "Woman". LOL or whisperer. I'd think you more the type to be the chick who dumped him after the water ski tragedy of 1999. LOL
 
Oh geez!

I don't think that I could break up with someone for accidentally breaking my leg. You take a risk when you get on a jet ski, everyone knows this! ^_^
 
It's almost a metaphor,for how love in & of itself is a risk. ohhhhh how romantic . lol
 
........just call me the expert thread derailer. -_-

On the subject of commitment, I think that since I have a daughter it's a much bigger deal to commit to someone than it used to be to me. I don't trust as readily as I used to and there are certain character qualities that I won't compromise on. Just the way it is. But when I do commit, I am loyal almost to a fault. I have no problem giving someone my all if I know that it is right to do so. ^_^
 
Catlynn said:
........just call me the expert thread derailer. -_-

On the subject of commitment, I think that since I have a daughter it's a much bigger deal to commit to someone than it used to be to me. I don't trust as readily as I used to and there are certain character qualities that I won't compromise on. Just the way it is. But when I do commit, I am loyal almost to a fault. I have no problem giving someone my all if I know that it is right to do so. ^_^
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Yer' not derailing..lol I think that's great though. Yer' daughter is yer' top priority,you don't need some wishy-washy dude in the picture. I'm not a parent & even I get that!
 
who are we calling Wishy Washy?

I'm Responsibly Reckless....

Methodically Spontaneous....

Expeditiously Expedient....

Painstakingly Carefree....

Adventurously Uninhibited....



And I've never changed a Diaper in my life ;)
 
You assisted though.

Also, for clarity's sake, we did not break up because he refused to change my daughter's diaper. lol
 
I think Catlynn, iTore and Myself have Derailed this thread enough. So... I'm quoting myself.....

Liamson said:
I think in different stages of relationships people are anxious about Overcommitment, Acceptance at that Level, and Future Orientation.

-Friend
-Attraction
-Extra-Friendly Friend

-Pseudo Relationship
-Introduction of Relationship
-New Relationship Energy Phase

-Comfortable Relationship
-Optimistic Relationship
-Pre Engagement Relationship

-Engagement
-Post Engagement Planning Phase
-Pre Wedding
-Marriage

*For this Phase Exclusivity is not an expectation but, attention and flirting are normal and accepted.
*For this Phase Attention and Affection is Exclusive and it is the beginning of officially being in a relationship.
*For this Phase Both Parties are Open Trusting and eventually become Understood Fixtures in each other's Lives.
*At this point both Parties are looking Forward and Planning out the rest of their lives together.

For Different stages people have Expectations in accordance with the direction they see the relationship heading.

Different stages also come with rites of Passage, like meeting parents, opening diaries, explaining pasts, leaving toothbrushes, Facebook statuses etc.


Other reason's I've left:
-They were Blonde
-They love horses
-They took themselves too seriously
-Country Music
-BurningMan
-They had our life planned out before we said the "L" word.
-They had no way of expressing themselves.
-Vegetarian
-Weed
-Alchoholic
-Irrational Fears (Like the dark, open windows, being touched)

Reason's They left Me
-Pushing for too much Commitment
-I broke their leg Jet Skiing
-I was not Attractive Enough
-Too much Distance
-Too Prideful or Arrogant
-Too Irrespective of the Law
-Too Adventurous (Reckless)



I apologize if this is too indepth.
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Good Points Liamson old Chap!
 
T_Laurich said:
According to a new study, 70 per cent of the time it is men who are the first to say 'I love you'
The research conducted at the MIT Sloan School of Management in Cambridge, Massachusetts, studied people aged from their mid-twenties to their sixties






Boom...

oh by the way,,,

​FIRST!
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yea men might say I love you first but how many of them actually mean it when they say it... because im sure most men say it first to get something or because they r up to no good
 
prettyinpink22 said:
yea men might say I love you first but how many of them actually mean it when they say it... because im sure most men say it first to get something or because they r up to no good
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That's such a lovely christian outlook to have. lol
 
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