Guys, help us understand this...

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BarlyGurl said:
1still_waters said:
yet once married they put him on the couch if he takes a "stand" and won't bend to her will...

Seriously... NO CHRISTIAN WOMAN should ever do that... EVER... unless he just confessed to infidelity and then he oughta be smart enough to take the couch by his own volition.
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Unfortunately there are many Christian women who think what Stilly has suggested is perfectly okay. And it's entirely possible that those women are saved... Should they kick their husbands out of bed short of adultery? No, but many do, and they get off on having that kind of control over someone.
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DuchessAimee said:
BarlyGurl said:
Unfortunately there are many Christian women who think what Stilly has suggested is perfectly okay. And it's entirely possible that those women are saved... Should they kick their husbands out of bed short of adultery? No, but many do, and they get off on having that kind of control over someone.
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Also, I was using on the couch as more of a metaphor.
I should have used in the dog house.
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I'd be fine with a girl showing that she'd actually have an interest in me. And I'd make the moves from there.
 
Well God says the mans the leader ..
Going to reserve His spot as such ... HOWEVER , when the ball is served ..it's about eb am flow
.. Edification
And validation on both ends .. Give and take ... Compromise and team players ... I have your back you've got mine..
I
Knew this awesome married couple who were drug reps in the hospital I worked in .. he told me stories of how when he and His wife are working they come to each others rescue.. I was like " what do you mean?". he said that as drug reps you take clients out to dinner .. Some want a little more than dinner .. So what he and his wife do is a text rescue ... when the text comes it's an automatic emergency and I've got to run... This is probably one of the coolest couples stories I've heard in a while.. Any way I think it's got to be a well rounded team in order for it to work.. Both partners willing to give it their all..
 
Here's a question, if you're really in love with a girl, and convinced she is one of a kind, would you really just want to sit around and wait for her to express interest? Are you really THAT willing to allow another guy to come along and snatch her up? Rejection is an unavoidable fact of life, sitting there and waiting for a girl to make her move is not going to keep it out. Buck up, be a man, tell her you're interested and if she's not, who cares? Either be insistent until she at least gives you a chance or find another girl, there are only a few million more on the planet.
 
I also think the fruits of the spirit come into play as well .. Love is patient love is
Kind , never overbearing , never rude or self seeking .. A lot of things go into this thing called "love"
It's what we are to be to someone else .. I'm so busy trying to ficus in what I'm suppose to be .. All I can pray is that god makes me a suitable partner
 
Stilly and Ritter have valid points. It does seem like a game to a lot of people, much of the time with double standards. It shouldn't be that complicated.

If a guy approaches and you're interested, volley. If not, smile politely...and don't.
 
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Jullianna said:
Stilly and Ritter have valid points. It does seem like a game to a lot of people, much of the time with double standards. It shouldn't be that complicated.
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Most definitely agree with Ritter on this one
 
Hey... good for liamson's "great date" but honestly the details about scenario #2 are just NOT things I would ever do... me thinks that gal was pursuing HIM. As for scenario #1... I would have been inclined to ... Ummm... ASK... specifically if the interest was a friendly endeavor or intended to lead somewhere...? As I have actually had nice fella's bring me treats at work, because they like me and appreciate women.. Ya know?

Ladies? what would you do? Is scenario #2 TOO much like pursuing HIM for you?
 
zaoman32 said:
Here's a question, if you're really in love with a girl, and convinced she is one of a kind, would you really just want to sit around and wait for her to express interest? Are you really THAT willing to allow another guy to come along and snatch her up? Rejection is an unavoidable fact of life, sitting there and waiting for a girl to make her move is not going to keep it out. Buck up, be a man, tell her you're interested and if she's not, who cares? Either be insistent until she at least gives you a chance or find another girl, there are only a few million more on the planet.
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Bravo... and you might discover she needs a little more courting before she is willing to accept. Some ladies have been hurt by being genuinely interested in a fella who was just adding notches to his belt.
 
ever watch how a female
Eagle choses her mate? Females
Are the weaker sex... Play hard to get for a very good reason ... there are also
Males (who's heads are attached to God (alpha males )
there
Are also bachelor males "learning" to attach their head to God) same goes for the women guys .. people are surprised when a member of their own body starts abusing them.. Perhaps looking closer at the attachment of their head will solve a lot of this
Problem .. if the head is attachéd to the god head properly.. The head will know how to attach other members to it's body... So women , look at who the head is attached to..if it isn't attached to god? Be careful.. Guys if the woman's head isn't attached to god ? Be prepared for the arm to start slapping the face .. I wish I
Could perfect the words the way
I see tjos
Picture in my head... if we look in the world at relationships.. How
Many bodies look
Crippled? Head and body attachment problems all over the
Place .. No wonder so
Many crippled bodies (relationships) are running around every where .. And I'm talking crippled ... either the guys head is not attached to god and leads the rest of the body off..literally dragging it around ... Or you see the arm (woman) who's head o's not attached to god .. Slapping the head in the face (the man) I'm telling you ion the body it starts out with heart problem with god first .. With each individual... It's a Head and heart problem ... god is the psychologist who can fix it if man would simply return to Him..
Okay that's my two cents in the matter ..
 
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Is it worth it to keep pursuing when she has a cadre of gentleman all performing the similar acts of fealty?

There comes a point where its just one person stringing another person along. There has to come a point where not everyone is special.

To answer your question, I did ask girl #1 out and she said yes, but kept delaying.
 
Liamson said:
Is it worth it to keep pursuing when she has a cadre of gentleman all performing the similar acts of fealty?

There comes a point where its just one person stringing another person along. There has to come a point where not everyone is special.

To answer your question, I did ask girl #1 out and she said yes, but kept delaying.
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If she keeps stringing you along, then decide whether or not she's worth it, and if she's not, again, you only have a few million more girls to choose from, don't waste your time.
 
"But in the world nothing can be said to be certain except death and taxes." -Ben Franklin
 
I feel like if, "She needs a little more courting" she's probably "A waste of time."

I think its simply a matter of self respect.

Like Frankie Valley and the Four Seasons taught me.

Oh how you tried
To cut me down to size
by telling dirty lies to my friends
But my own father
Said give her up, don't bother
The world isn't coming to an end

He said walk like a man
Talk like a man
Walk like a man my son​
No woman's worth
Crawling on the earth​
So walk like a man my son​
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That's because he's not a Democrat... lol.

gene77 said:
Naive? Somehow "naive" and "Ritter" does not seem to sound right to me. XD You're like a 22 year old body with a 52 year old mind. JK. =D
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Liamson said:
I feel like if, "She needs a little more courting" she's probably "A waste of time."

I think its simply a matter of self respect.

Like Frankie Valley and the Four Seasons taught me.
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I don't think women ever want to see a man crawl. At least I sure don't. I appreciate a man who knows who he is and won't be a doormat, but...as Barly was saying...women are hit on by a lot of guys who have only one thing in mind. Sometimes women just need to know it's more than that before they respond...they are looking for sincerity :)
 
The reason I would want the male to pursue me is because it shows courage, strength, and leadership which are things I think are important in a godly man. If you're going to sit back and wait from the very start, is that all I can expect throughout the entire relationship?

The reason I would not play hard to get is because that shows respect and honesty. Women who play hard to get are likely trying to have an ego boost to see how long a man will pursue her and it's just messing with his heart, and it's just cruel. Playing hard to get could also, in a sense, even be done in a relationship, where the woman just beats around the bush on what she wants or expects the guy to figure it all out for himself on what she wants. Not cool.
 
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