Ha haaa, Liamson. Wow, that was funny about the Bible study!
I checked the 'after about 20 minutes' button. Most girls I know aren't Christian. I hate to say it, but I don't do much church (*braces for a hail of Christian stones*) Yeah, I don't go to the regular church meetings right now. It seems they have people so confused in churches... I usually won't tell a girl I'm a Christian until I have to (it's not like I can tell them I go to church since I don't now). Not that I don't want them to know, but I think being Christian is ho hum to so many people today. If they can spot a difference and ask because of that, I feel more comfortable that way. I think being sincerely gracious to everyone (old, young, rich, poor, etc.) and not distinguishing between people due to race, religion, social status, etc. always makes them curious-- some hate it and some like it. (When I worked with mostly Catholic and Christian women, they didn't know what to make of me. They were all married but saw flirting as an intramural sport. They asked me why I didn't flirt. I do flirt! Just not with married women!) I think I find it easier to talk to non-religious girls who aren't confused by religion, stuck between how they should live and how they really are... So, it often takes a while to have to say anything about God because most people don't care about God, and I won't push anything on them; but in time, they'll ask a question that relates to God... then I can answer
Great , imallin. I think earlier than after 20 minutes is best because it strikesaccountability immediately into the meeting. And, guys (and gals, miladies
) , this is not assuming you are on a date , it usually is not a date set up already where you meet . Typically, BEFORE an actual date, we , the guy, meet the girl through some coincilidence, see her at grocery line and she's just right by you a couple, three, five minutes, or, maybe you both just sit by each other in a library (and, guys, IF she sits 1,or even 2 chairs from you, it's probably a sign, so don't be clueless
) at college or just the public lib.
Yes, imallin, sometimes church is not the best place for us for a 'season' of our life, the Lord leads, keep your eyes on Him and all will be well
I didn't answer the poll or written questions, because I don't date people which lack an already established relationship with me, so we would both know each others beliefs before that point.
Hey, HI ASIF, I really should have PM'd you to just say 'Hi' last month, my good dog, bro, cuz not seen you on here but my green brains... I ALWAYS blame things on that stringy thing of mine upstairs, so to speak. That's what comes to mind ,
anyway.
But good to hear from you, AsIf, I do think of you and pray all is well when I do, you are the man with the beagle-smart intelligence of Snoopy , and, THAT, is very, very smart, folks, by the way
.
Yeah, I say above that the situation is not usually a appointed 'date' that the guy will mention to the girl he is a Christian, in a subtle , or, indiscreet, way, shape, or, form . But, however the Lord leads, AsIf, that is how you (and me, and, everybody
) should want to do 'it,' with 'it,' being everything in your life, Gbu, Christ bro.
I have to agree with Liam about church, Green. If a guy meets up with me at church, and considers it a date, then to me, is he going to church because of God, or is he going to church to meet single women?
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However, a lot of single women are hesitant to sit with someone they have just started seeing, simply because they do not want to be known as a couple, when they are not.
Vkat, if you just meet at church by chance, I think that place is an EXCEPTION to the rule. In that case, it can be assumed you are both seeking Christ
.
However, as I said to my good buddy Asif, the Lord leads. I just want to be saying in my posts of this thread that THE GUY needs to be the INITIATOR of the relationship. And, that relationship should quickly become God's . Doing that, means getting God involved in the 'game,' that way you will be much more apt (accountable) to play it right.
and YES! meeting a girl and selling yourself is a GAME, not to mention , a business. And, you should model your 'game' guys with the business of God's ways the forefront of your mind. The lady is not to be MADE to take the lead about spiriitual things, YOU are.
