How can I start finding women unattractive?

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I have a question.I would like to know how I can no longer be attracted to women.I've never dated,or had a relationship with one.The thing I don't see is how they can be personally attractive.I have not known any that well but don't see why I should.I think they are attractive in how they look,but not at all in their personalitites.I don't want to be gay,but how can I no longer find them attractive in their looks.
 
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Do you mean less attracted to them,or not attracted to them at all? I ask this because a few times in my life I found myself too attracted to women and wished I could make them less attractive to me because they were all I could think about night and day. I'll tell you right now though that not being so attracted to them is even worse.
 
notevangelical said:
I have a question.I would like to know how I can no longer be attracted to women.I've never dated,or had a relationship with one.The thing I don't see is how they can be personally attractive.I have not known any that well but don't see why I should.I think they are attractive in how they look,but not at all in their personalitites.I don't want to be gay,but how can I no longer find them attractive in their looks.
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It happens with age. We start to appreciate the personality more than the physical. after all we are starting to break down too.
 
The majority of women and men are unappealing in their personalities in this age of rebellion against God generally speaking. But there are always exceptions. First work on yourself and seek God, then look for the exceptions :). Just by the way, you'll never find the perfect woman. The best thing to do is find one that is holy according to Biblical standards. I stress again, search for God before women and then the right one will be attractive to you because she is also seeking after God like you.
 
Brandon777 said:
The majority of women and men are unappealing in their personalities in this age of rebellion against God generally speaking. But there are always exceptions. First work on yourself and seek God, then look for the exceptions :). Just by the way, you'll never find the perfect woman. The best thing to do is find one that is holy according to Biblical standards. I stress again, search for God before women and then the right one will be attractive to you because she is also seeking after God like you.
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I second that. There are some woman out there with GREAT personalities, but if you dig long enough or if you're hypercritical you WILL eventually find something that you don't like. I would say the best thing for you to do is to get involved in the Lord's work, that way you will be busy and not able to think about them as much. You don't have the gift of celebacy obviously so you won't be as unattracted to the opposite sex as those Christians.
 
Sexual immorality amongst Christian men is a serious issue. Honestly what you are describing doesn't seem like it would be an issue for most men unless they had reprogrammed their brains through garbage input.
 
Brandon777 said:
The majority of women and men are unappealing in their personalities in this age of rebellion against God generally speaking. But there are always exceptions. First work on yourself and seek God, then look for the exceptions :). Just by the way, you'll never find the perfect woman. The best thing to do is find one that is holy according to Biblical standards. I stress again, search for God before women and then the right one will be attractive to you because she is also seeking after God like you.
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Yes ^

djness said:
Sexual immorality amongst Christian men is a serious issue. Honestly what you are describing doesn't seem like it would be an issue for most men unless they had reprogrammed their brains through garbage input.
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Assuming you mean internet smut, deej, YES!!
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The best way to figure out why you are finding girls less attrative is to talk with your maker. I am assuming you are a christian since you are on this site. Ask God.

Seek Him and YOU will find your answer :)

God bless you, young man
 
I don't think it's possible to stop finding women physically attractive completely. Men are visual creatures by nature. Its normal for us to find the physical woman attractive. I'm more curious why you have such a reaction to women to think, what seems to me, so lowly of them. Basically you said you've never met a woman worth knowing because they all have such tremendous faults in their personalities. I think thats the bigger issue to look into.
 
I'm not sure why I didn't see this before, but I wonder why you ask the question. Perhaps because you think lusting after a woman is the same thing as being attracted to one. And you're looking for some validation that it's impractical to try to stop lusting? Just in case that's the case I'll say. They're not the same. The difference can be worded different ways but I'll give it a go. Being attracted the admiration of beauty or other qualities that give you that weak in the knees feeling, lusting is spiritually evil in that you covet that person--you want that person for yourself in your mind instead of letting her be free as God's child. Remember, the stronger your connection with God the more alive and sharp your concious is and that should tell you the difference.
 
notevangelical said:
I have a question.I would like to know how I can no longer be attracted to women.I've never dated,or had a relationship with one.The thing I don't see is how they can be personally attractive.I have not known any that well but don't see why I should.I think they are attractive in how they look,but not at all in their personalitites.I don't want to be gay,but how can I no longer find them attractive in their looks.
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Remember, God made them. Also think of them as a member of that huge divine family member that goes back to Adam and Eve.
 


You've got to learn to desire God more than you desire women. The only way to do so is to cancel your internet / cable tv and , if at all possible, stop going to places where there could possibly be women dressed provocatively. Basically you want to starve your flesh. This is what the bible calls 'consecration' and it is the first step of overcoming ones own flesh.

Now here's the thing, consecration in and of itself will not deliver you from your problem. Just because you have separated yourself from those things which you have an unhealthy desire for does not mean that you will be delivered from them in time. This is why you must seek God very aggressively during this time because it is only through the power of God's presence that you will be delivered.

Stay in the bible, stay in prayer, fast if you must however, I strongly suggest fasting more than food. Do not sit around and play video games! *lol* This is about walking closer to God and leaning to lean on his strength, not our own abilities. The goal here is to receive a level of sanctification, which is a gift from God and not a work of man. However, God can not deliver you from something that you are not willing to let go of.

 
The best way I can think of...

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Well You should be attracted to the persons heart and mind rather then physical beauty. That will fade with time, I have dated some smoking hot girls with no brains and they was very shallow, Then with some plain jane type and I was begging to see them every chance I could! They was a lot better, If you don't know many girls that well be friends with a few. Quite awesome friends imo
 
Watch a marathon seession of the View Rosie Odonnel and the Oprah Winfrey Network follwed by Lifetime.......works every time.
 
NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
by keeping your eyes closed
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hahaha, if your eye offend thee!
It's not about not being attracted to them. Your trying to fight a nature that God gave us. When used the right way it leads to good things, marriage, appreciation of women, etc. But there's a fine line that you have to make sure not to cross. It pretty much boils down to self-control. Refusing to lust after anyone, regardless of how beautiful they are.
 
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