How can you tell if a guy likes you?

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Some guys are obvious that they like a girl. Some guys really aren't, but I see all these sites about what girls want in a guy or first date ideas. So I want some ideas from a guys percpective about these issues. First being how do you show you like a girl?
 
Haha I dont know either! Some are really shy and dont say anything. What I do is try to send some ''I like you signals" and if they dont respond after a while it's a lost cause...I dont want to have to wonder if you want to pursue me. Dont play mind games! The best is when a man is honest with you because you can move on without wasting your time.
 
Yep I agree with taht completly, the was one good thing about my ex. He did straight out tell me he liked me...BUt i know shyer guys sometimes don't do that kind of stuff. I also wonder with guys that flirt alot, how do they flirt with the girl they like more than other girls?
 
Oh he might act overly shy around you or come off as awkward. He WILL call you, email you, text you or in any other way, try to contact you!

Now, if the guy isn't trying to contact you, like if he avoids you like the plague, then he isn't interested. I don't care what crazy female reasons you can conjure up in your head for him not at least calling for ten months, just trust me on this, he's not interested. Really!
 
So question with the ignoring thing. What if he's not ignoring you, but you are the one that says hey, and then he keeps the conversation going. I've had that many times.
 
How do I show that I like a girl? Tough question...it's never really come up in my experience.
 
Asking a girl out is usually a sign that he likes you. :p


Alot of guys will hide their whole card till they get a good sign that they won't be turned down.

As for subtle signs, if the guy is shy, or trying to hide the fact that he likes you, he might avoid making alot of eye contact. If you notice that when your eyes meet, he breaks eye contact pretty fast then that could mean that he is really interested in you but is nervous that his brain will stop working if he keeps looking into those hypnotising eyes of yours lol. Ofcourse it could also be coincidence or if you have just said something too forward. This is if you are in a conversation ofcourse.

Now if you don't know the guy and your across the room and he holds the eye contact for longer then acouple seconds then ofcourse that is usually a sign also, but all women know that don't they?

As a general rule, a guy might just consider you a friend but would become interested if you gave him extra attention and threw him some signs yourself. We guys can think a woman is attractive and interesting without automatically jumping to the "I must chase her" mode.
 
Some guys are obvious that they like a girl. Some guys really aren't, but I see all these sites about what girls want in a guy or first date ideas. So I want some ideas from a guys percpective about these issues. First being how do you show you like a girl?

Hey. I would just like to tell you that when the right guy comes around, everything will work out and you'll know for sure that he likes you and everything will be smooth :) I know you probably asked out of curiosity, but I just want to reassure you that you don't need to actively look for these things because God has all of the details figured out!
 
Does he talk to you about you? Does he listen to everything you say? If i was as young as you are i would be more direct because this life is way too short to To be waiting to see if the other is serious about you. You deserve to have happiness in your life and you don't have to have him talk to you first you can be just as direct as us guys are!
 
Look,i was one of the shy ones who wanted the girl to make the first move, so when you like someone and you sense that he's shy , speak to him about things that maybe you both have in common if he likes you he'll want to get to know you , if he's talking about himself ,get as far away from him as possible because he will never put you first.
 
if he's talking about himself ,get as far away from him as possible because he will never put you first.

Not necessarily, especially if he's not comfortable talking to women and is nervous. It's more likely that he just doesn't know what to say so talks about something he knows best.
 
I like hearing from the guys about this. Gives me some food for thought... :o)
 
Hey. I would just like to tell you that when the right guy comes around, everything will work out and you'll know for sure that he likes you and everything will be smooth :) I know you probably asked out of curiosity, but I just want to reassure you that you don't need to actively look for these things because God has all of the details figured out!

Lol yes im treally trying to trust God in this area right now. BUt I like to not guess about these types of things and then be wrong haha, it happens alot haha. And yes my main reason was for curioustity and because I know other girls want to know.
 
This is where women benefit from being a little open-minded, some men will be clear and pursue you and do all that a man 'should' do in letting you know how he feels, but some men are shy, nervous, inexperienced and often they will not be too proficent at making clear how they feel, at least not right away.

Sometimes you might need to give it a bit more time or be prepared to reach out in some small way to give a little encouragement that will help steady the nerves...we may be meant to pursue but we still need a little help now and then.;)

For me, I go with the smiles and brief non-creepy looks, if she smiles back I'll try and start a conversation and make a few sarcastic jokes, mainly because that's all I'm capable of in that scenario, and if by some miracle she laughs and seems to be enjoying our conversation I'll consider myself as having entered the fifth dimension.
 
For me, I go with the smiles and brief non-creepy looks, if she smiles back I'll try and start a conversation and make a few sarcastic jokes, mainly because that's all I'm capable of in that scenario, and if by some miracle she laughs and seems to be enjoying our conversation I'll consider myself as having entered the fifth dimension.

Wow! Good on you for mastering the 'non-creepy smile'. I've never quite been able to manage that one...(though I have got a couple of teeth missing, think that has owt to do with it?)
 
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If the guy picks his nose with his left hand on his left nostril, you know he likes you. If it's the left hand on the right nostril, it's probably an itch. If it's right hand on left nostril you know he's serious about you. If it's right hand on right nostril he's not interested at all. This information comes from the way the male brain left and right hemispheres work.
 
he hits you and runs OR shows you his chewed up lunch when no one else is looking
there ya go
 
Do guy brains really work that different than girls? Because if I have a crush on someone, I don't treat them any different than others. In high school, I had a crush on a guy for my senior year and part of my junior year, and not even my friends knew until I told them after we had graduated. lol

Maybe guys can do that to? Just hide the fact that they like a girl, and act completely normal?
 
I'm one of those nervous types, mostly because I didn't get out among strangers much as a kid. I've had exactly 1 girlfriend in 15 years and none in almost 9. So add to that nervous a state of rusty and you have me. I've been shot down by every other female I've shown an interest in including one whom I wasn't interested in and didn't even ask out. So needless to say I've got some issues. I have yet to find anything that works and the older I get the less interested I'm becomming in trying to pursue anyone. It just seems a waste of time. I don't do subtle and I'm a terrible mind reader. I'd prefer a woman to tell me she's interested in some way other than batting her eyelashes at me. I have no time or interest in games and the my ex got burned trying to play them. As far as I'm concerned, be honest and tell the guy, don't flirt. That in itself is a game that I tend to ignore.