How do we stop Bullys?

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angelpie

angelpie

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This is a Problem..THere are to many Kids & Teens getting hurt by Bullys

Stand Up & Make a Change

No more being abuised
No More Crying alone
No more feeling Left out
No more
I pray For a Change, No one should be abuised & Left alone.
May this be heard, amen
 
This is such a Problem & a Stressfull Situation for all People & young kids to go threw, it's to the point where they feel Left out & feel lonelyness. I have heard some don't go to school & are home schooled cause of this Bullying, or casue its safer. Please talk to Someone about being Bullied & Stop this from Happening to your kids.
 
This has happened to me in HS: THeses so called Bullys would make there way down the hall in my school THey always called me a name & teaseed me be casue of my Disablity.What Helped me I had to think " im better then them, there not going to make me scared anymore..so I told someone & Got advice from alot of people. So one day there was group of bullys they came to me But I Stood in frount of them & told them off in a good way & they walked away.
God Bless those who are hurting
 
That's kind of why I don't have a huge problem with bullies, in one respect.

They are a reality of life. Adversity and challenges don't stop once you leave school.

Learning how to stick up for yourself and have self-respect and stand up for what you believe in is really valuable! Dealing with bullies as a child prepares you for the real world. There are so many lessons that are learned. Kids who were bullied will often have a better life than the kids who do the bullying.

Hurt people hurt people, and bullies haven't learned how to deal with their emotions. They haven't learned how to work with others. They haven't learned empathy and compassion. They haven't learned how to effectively solve problems. Their lives will reflect this well into adulthood.

Pray for the bullies. They aren't coming from good families and they're being set up for failure.We can't just treat them like little tiny super villains. They are lost. They need Jesus.
 
Maybe the bully problem we are having is a direct result of the united states foreign policies in which the usa bullies the rest of the planet. Our kids are just repeating what they see and hear
 
Amen

Society should;
1 If at school: Move those who bully others out of the school rather than those who are bullied!

2 If kids: Find out if they are just being jerks, or if they are having problems at home
2.1 Even if they do have problems at home, they should be thaught that nothing excuses causing pain to others

3 Depending on the age of the ones doing it, and the severity, as has been said: Court
- Bullying IS psychological torture.... And as far as I know torture is illegal in most countries
 
I disagree with putting kids into the criminal system at such a young age just for bullying (like teasing others incessantly). It's annoying and can be traumatizing when taken too far, but placing kids in the system is basically leaving them to die in a cell. It may take a few decades and cost tax payers millions of dollars, but there aren't very many children that are actually rehabilitated. They just learn how to be prisoners and look down on themselves more than they already did.

That doesn't strike me as an especially loving response to kids with bad home lives and trauma taking it out on other kids.

I know it's a difficult issue and I can't control anything really beyond my own household, but we shouldn't really be looking at any children as lost causes, should we? We shouldn't look at bullies as evil kids and dream up ways to remove them from society entirely, or at the very least our little bubble of existence. Although it's easy, I don't think banishment is the answer.
 
I keep forgetting how your criminal system works :p

In Norway there is no way you would end up in jail for bullying, at worst you would have to pay a fine, most likely, if anything happened at all, you would just be "registered" and told "shame on you".

Also, bullying IS traumatizing (to be strictly differenciated from teasing)

My point was just that it is clear that saying "no" doesnt work at all :(
 
Some parents have resorted to suing the schools for their children being bullied. Perhaps this will be a solution. Maybe when the schools start to se bullies as a lawsuit liabilty, they will stop being so lax in dealing with the problem.
 
They're all just spineless, gutless pieces of effluent. I'm sorry for this but our 15 year old daughter has endured such a horrendous time @ High School in the UK, it really does take all your strength of character not to take the matter into my own hands.
Of course it doesn't help having teachers & Heads who are as thick as pig shit & won't admit to a problem as it reflects on the school, future intakes & therefore future funding.
But Facebook is a wonderful tool don't you think?!!
 
jimsun said:
They're all just spineless, gutless pieces of effluent. I'm sorry for this but our 15 year old daughter has endured such a horrendous time @ High School in the UK, it really does take all your strength of character not to take the matter into my own hands.
Of course it doesn't help having teachers & Heads who are as thick as pig **** & won't admit to a problem as it reflects on the school, future intakes & therefore future funding.
But Facebook is a wonderful tool don't you think?!!
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Uhh,,,you do realize that profanity is against the rules here
 
Oops! Apologies Duden!
However I trust you may be able to accept that, seeing one's own flesh & blood being forced to endure the most extremes of harassment, causing them distress, anxiety & alarm, such "profanities", as you put it are, arguably, totally understandable & justified.
J+
 
Dude653 said:
Some parents have resorted to suing the schools for their children being bullied. Perhaps this will be a solution. Maybe when the schools start to se bullies as a lawsuit liabilty, they will stop being so lax in dealing with the problem.
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Has the taking of legal action against a local education authority, in your State, enjoyed any success? If so, what was the authority charged with & what was the conviction & penalty imposed?
 
You like to think you're never wrong , You want someone to hurt like you ,You want to share what you've been through one of my fav songs by linkin park btw

hurt people like to hurt other people they are usually angry and bitter on the inside so they take all of there anger and frustration out on other people

on American Dad i once saw this episode where steve went to his bullies house and he saw that his bully was giving him the wedgies that he wish he could give to his father so if you want to stop bullies you'd have to get

them out of there hell and away from their abusers because hurt people will always want to hurt others i became friends with my bully when i found out that she was moving away she broke down a day before moving away and she spilled the

beans to me about her abuse ,rape and molestations that she suffered daily at home from her own father and his friends and she begged me not to tell anyone or else he would kill her i kept silent

and after sharing all with me she also told me why she hated and bulled me so much and it made me forgive her instantly and we became friends the next day and it kinda of hurt me when she left after learning all the

disturbing traumas that shes suffered now id be more than glad to let her kick my blank anyday because she has endured hell and walked out the flames a survivor.

 
we dont hurt others just because we hurt all though it is a common factor in abuse core to everyone its guilt and and how we hit out at others is due to guilt we condem others for what we know we are sin its a accuser we end up doing the very wrong done to us we have lost knowing we are loved we need to understand both love and sin and the ways they inpact our life if you have a person you knowign being a bully tell them about how they can feel different about them selfs and that they are loved regardless of there sin if you tell them it was just because you where hard done by they will only cover the guilt with a lie not get reconciliation with the person he wronged whichshould come when he knows his is loved
 
I talk to my kids about this often. Ask if they've ever been bullied, if they see others doing it, or know of anyone who's been bullied. I bring it up often enough that they roll their eyes at me now. But I keep bringing it up. Tomorrow may be the first time one of them witness something and it should be fresh in their minds what I expect. I'm just as repetitive on drinking, drugs, smoking and inappropriate touching or sex. My kids know I will NOT tolerate any of this wrong behavior, nor will I tolerate them not doing something about it on someone else's behalf.

Evil can only continue if no one does anything to stop it!
 
Bullying happens in work environments too....Nevertheless, usually a bully is being bullied themself or have issues and this is a form of power on their part...External and internal forces are the key to eradicate this and peer pressure too helps because peers can prevent this from happening by showing strength through not tolerating this form of behaviour...Forgiving the bully is important too and hopefully they will learn from this...However, it can be difficult to change another's thinking until they are ready or are aware of their bullying behaviour. Another thing to consider is that some people despite all attempts to find a reason to their behaviour simply like doing what they do...I will pray for those who are bullied because it is not nice to be bullied in any situation...Sending those in pain, love and peace.....
 
seiler62 said:
we dont hurt others just because we hurt all though it is a common factor in abuse core to everyone its guilt and and how we hit out at others is due to guilt we condem others for what we know we are sin its a accuser we end up doing the very wrong done to us we have lost knowing we are loved we need to understand both love and sin and the ways they inpact our life if you have a person you knowign being a bully tell them about how they can feel different about them selfs and that they are loved regardless of there sin if you tell them it was just because you where hard done by they will only cover the guilt with a lie not get reconciliation with the person he wronged whichshould come when he knows his is loved
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I tried that with one of my bullies, he threathened to hurt me badly if I ever did it again....
 
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