How do you deal with major offences?

[jo_ptrp]

if someone did something bad to me...what i do is...inhale...exhale...and pray "Lord i hate this person,but i need to forgive him/her...You demonstrated this in my life, You forgave all my sins...this is hard for me to do, i need your grace so i can do it, don't let the devil nourish the thought of taking the revenge in my mind bec.you said Lord ' vengeance is mine"..let your peace overflows me so i can sleep tonight and start my day right.in Jesus name amen

 

[dmdave17]

But I have to agree with strong1...feelings and truth are often not at all the same.

I believe that the above statement highlights one of the biggest problems we face, today. We are constantly being bombarded by many sources with variations of the same theme; "go with your gut". This delights the enemy because he realizes that we are fallen, fallible humans, and our "gut instaincts" are probably wrong 2/3 of the time. The best way, I think, to deal with any problem is to consult scripture, Often, God's way is not the easy way, forgiveness for example. But Jesus never promised his disciples a rose garden in this life.

God bless you all.

 

[VikkiKate89]

Ever get so offended, you try to forgive and you think youve forgiven but when the thought of the offence comes back, you begin to get angry? How do you deal with a major offence that cuts to the core? How do you forgive the right way?

The way I handle it is I first take the time to calm down, I have a journal I write in specifically for moments like that, and I find the more I write about what's happened and how it's upset me the more I begin to break it down and find what specifically bothered me about it and what I need to do to help myself move past it (and I find it best to not hold back, just let out every single thought going through your head no matter how enraged, violent, or even irrational. It's a safe vent and gets it out of your system. Eventually everything does start to calm down and fall into place).

And finally, once I know I'm calm enough that I can approach whoever hurt me in a sane and rational manner, I set aside time to talk to them one on one, tell them exactly everything I feel they need to know about what they did and why it effected me to negatively, and after that, whether or not they apologize, I know everything's been laid out in the open and I forgive them by letting it go and putting an effort into thinking about something else. And whether or not I continue my friendship with them really depends on the level of the offense and if I trust them enough to continue calling them my friend, but I do what I need to to let the hurt go so their actions can't have that hold on me anymore.

 

[Jemuel]

Ever get so offended, you try to forgive and you think youve forgiven but when the thought of the offence comes back, you begin to get angry? How do you deal with a major offence that cuts to the core? How do you forgive the right way?

I totally understand where you are coming from. I have been dealing with the same issue for over ten years until the present time. I have been offended by my younger brotha. I was driven away from home. I was humiliated along the streets but not a single word came out from my mouth. If my younger brotha would do a mistake and I correct him in a diplomatic way, even the best that I could the result is conflict. So I moved away I will always find a way to diffuse anger. I adjust to the situation making sure no conflict arises again. You know what I am saying. It does hurt. It is like an excruciating pain. The bottom line is I have to understand. " Understand" is an abused word i have heard from anyone. There are things beyond my control. So I live the rest to God.

Retaliate, resent? These are a no no. It will just hurt us all over again. I try to live with it. I learned the art of losing myself in giving HIM praise. I may be a loser in the eyes of my brother but glory is to the LORD that I was able to show the right attitude that is to control my emotions. It is very hard .

I pray to God. I lift up my brother to the hands of God. God is able to turn hatred into compassion. We do not wrestle against flesh and blood.


My prayer is very simpe. " Lord rise up and depend me"



Try to check this video. This is actually the song of my heart with my present situation

His light will shine when all else fails

[video]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9j7ZdKtGcSo[/video]


Glory to the risen king

 

[DiscipleDave]

My prayer is very simpe. " Lord rise up and depend me"

Please explain "Lord rise up and depend me" lol

Pretty sure you mean defend me. You made me smile, my friend.

^i^

 

[Jemuel]

Please explain "Lord rise up and depend me" lol

Pretty sure you mean defend me. You made me smile, my friend.

^i^

When I say " Lord rise up and depend me " I say that in an excruciating pain. Where you are helpless to depend yourself because you know for a fact that we are Christ's ambassador. Whatever the result of our action is reflects Christ. To defend us from giving into hate and turning into the dark side.. Anger and hate leads to the dark side...... We will know when we are at the good side when we are at at peace and calm with such situation. we do not give in to hate. That is really difficult. That is why I ask the Lord to rise up and depend me not against my brother but against giving into hate... Powerful is our ally....the
Holy Spirit......... With Jesus it is possible to turn hate into compassion

Made His force be with you.............

Glory to the risen king