I am sorry that some people say hurtful stuff. I'm not sure they realize that they do because they are just being themselves. Pray on it buddy. When its right it comes natural and easy. Its after you get in the relationship that it requires work. Be honest, be yourself, just flow with it. And do not ever give the girl you are with (my life at the moment coloring what I'm about to say) any inkling that you are unfaithful. Honor and respect and cherish her and treat her with those things and you'll keep her for a life time. Its the really simple stuff that keeps a woman in love with you. Its the picked flower, a little one line note by the coffee pot, a surprise picnick, fun dates, DEEP conversation, laughter, and most of all a mutual love and passion for our God & King where you put him FIRST in your life and your relationship. I am currently going through some hellish moments in my relationship because the man I have spent 6 yrs of my life with isn't a follower of our God and King. Do not date unsaved girls!!! It is a painful road to travel, trust me I know first hand. You will do fine if you just be you, live for God, and pray for his will to be done in your life.