I really started to take control of my emotions when I made the conscious decision to cut off certain avenues that led to depression.
In the past, I have let myself become immediately overwhelmed with emotion when I see a girl I am attracted to. If I believed the girl to actually be a girl I could be with, the attachment was great.
In the past, I let myself become negative towards women in general, God, and the notion of being with someone else. This was before I began cutting off myself from places where I would see girls I would be attracted to.
Now, I first notice an attraction to a girl, but if I consciously catch it, I can contain it and do away with it. I can honestly say that now there is nearly no depression and nearly no anger towards women. As simple as it sounds, all I had to do was cut myself off from places where I might run into attractive girls. I also had to immediately put away from myself any attachment or attraction to a girl.
Cutting off means just not looking at certain things or going certain places. If you think an attractive girl is going to be at a certain place, then ignore it. There is nothing wrong with this. There is nothing negative about looking away. However, there is that old anger and depression with looking.
So what we have is this point where I stopped opening myself up to encountering attractive girls. Then we have what followed, which was the noticeable lack of depression, anger, and every negative feeling I noticed before I started ignoring attractive women.
The simple solution for me was to stop looking, stop thinking, and just move away. It may not be that simple for others, but I think I am typical of this kind of male.
So that is my experience and advice for people who are single and are dealing with depression and anger that can be dealt with by just turning away.
In the past, I have let myself become immediately overwhelmed with emotion when I see a girl I am attracted to. If I believed the girl to actually be a girl I could be with, the attachment was great.
In the past, I let myself become negative towards women in general, God, and the notion of being with someone else. This was before I began cutting off myself from places where I would see girls I would be attracted to.
Now, I first notice an attraction to a girl, but if I consciously catch it, I can contain it and do away with it. I can honestly say that now there is nearly no depression and nearly no anger towards women. As simple as it sounds, all I had to do was cut myself off from places where I might run into attractive girls. I also had to immediately put away from myself any attachment or attraction to a girl.
Cutting off means just not looking at certain things or going certain places. If you think an attractive girl is going to be at a certain place, then ignore it. There is nothing wrong with this. There is nothing negative about looking away. However, there is that old anger and depression with looking.
So what we have is this point where I stopped opening myself up to encountering attractive girls. Then we have what followed, which was the noticeable lack of depression, anger, and every negative feeling I noticed before I started ignoring attractive women.
The simple solution for me was to stop looking, stop thinking, and just move away. It may not be that simple for others, but I think I am typical of this kind of male.
So that is my experience and advice for people who are single and are dealing with depression and anger that can be dealt with by just turning away.