if I may I want to know what control means to you. When you ask how much control we have over our lives you have to consider all the factors that come with it especially the idea of free will abd if our lives were ever really ours to begin with"I returned, and saw under the sun, that the race is not to the swift, not the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise, nor yet riches to men of understanding, nor yet favour to men of skill; but time and chance happeneth to them all."
Ecclesiastes 9:11,