How to deal with heart break?

[ChristianTonyB]

I get what you are saying but I still think I need to pray for him.Maybe you are right but I don't give up on those I care about.I guess I worrie about his soul but at the same time my own soul needs saving.Thank you

It's not about giving up on anyone you care about, it's more about securing your own relationship with God. You've come from a very messy past, and it seems that was when you were already Christian? If you still have heartstrings attached to that messy past, Satan will not miss any opportunity to tug on those to pull you back into that past, and he can do that slowly and in a way that you may not see it happening. Consider what happened to Lot's wife, which is a kind of metaphor for us.

 

[Lanolin]

How about we pray for this guy so you dont have to.

We just lift him up to the Lord and the bad memories etc and for healing for your heart Kait. You dont need this anymore. IN Jesus name. Amen

 

[BrotherMike]

This topic is going to get a LOT of very different answers. Just so you know.

For me, I'd refocus on something else in my life. It happened, it's over, move on. But I'm a guy. And that doesn't even work for all guys, much less for girls.

This would be my answer too, and yes I’m a guy. Long story short… know your worth! Don’t settle for less than a man fully devoted to Jesus first and then you. It’s worth the wait. Pray for guidance and wisdom as you figure this out to move on. It’s not easy to deal with. If need be seek a counselor.

 

[Subhumanoidal]

I get what you are saying but I still think I need to pray for him.Maybe you are right but I don't give up on those I care about.I guess I worrie about his soul but at the same time my own soul needs saving.Thank you

This is just an excuse to find some way to keep any sort of connection to him. If you're Really interested in healing and moving on you leave that person in your past, not hold them in your present. As long as you insist on holding onto your past you will never fully recover. If God needs him to be prayed over your prayers are not more special than anyone elses for him. God can get it done without you.

 

[kinda]

I'm not sure if this is allowed.But I was in a relationship for 7 years.I still love and care about him and I ask myself why? He has moved onto somebody else.My relationship was not good so I've been told.He cheated and yet I came back to him only for him to leave me for good.I can say I dealt with verbal abuse.My question is how do you deal with the hurt it's like a death but he is living and it still is effecting me after a year. I would say I always felt guilty and didn't agree with some of the things we did and I didn't think it was godly.I worrie about his salvation and have ALOT of fear Thank you.

This topic is going to get a LOT of very different answers. Just so you know.

For me, I'd refocus on something else in my life. It happened, it's over, move on. But I'm a guy. And that doesn't even work for all guys, much less for girls.

I agree with the kitty. lol

Another way of saying what Lynx said, is to concentrate on things in life you still have. I will post a video, since it's really good.

Also, God has a plan in your life, so a boyfriend left.....BIG DEAL. Look at the blessings God has given you over the years, plus all the future years God can work in your life. Don't let depression sink into long, give yourself a date, when your gonna get over it, and stick to it. Remind yourself on this certain date, you are officially over it....Even if your not, pretend your over it, and eventually you will be.

Best of luck. I will also post a video I made just for this circumstance.

Take care and remember Jesus is waiting for your prayers every day. God bless you Kate! One day you will turn that frown upside down and the world will once again be in balance. Think on good things. Go for walks or bike rides and clear your mind.