i´m still being single

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i have 19 years old and i don't have a boyfriend, i have boy friends but any christian and as god said we can not be with someone who dosen't shared our beliefs. but is too hard for me to find the right one and i don't want to make a mistake, for that i´m still being single and my friends who are not christians can´t believe that i´m still bing single and tha annoys me. i always pray to god shows me the right one but nothing happen. sometimes i feel depressed. someone can help me i really need good advices.


 

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Well I can tell you several things the most important being that time is that thing that fills the space between events, how much or how little is beyond our control but never should it be measured against an even happening.

The other thing that's important to tell you is your a beautiful girl and at 19 the real question should be "are these boys right for me" as I imagine you're fighting the non-christian ones off with a stick :P

Look I'm full well prepared to get told off for this next statement but the most important thing is finding some one who loves you, that you're all that matters to them in the world and if they aren't christian at the time if they loved you enough they would see how much it means to you and set aside some time in their lives to see whats so important to you and hopefully then they can see the fellow love in god you get to experience.

But faith is no man or woman's role to judge another by, there's only one person fit to do that and thankfully none of us have to worry so much about it.
When you find that love you've been blessed.

*prepares for the onslaught of people ready to harass him for even suggesting some one christian can even look at some one who isn't*

If you believe by their faith they are measured then I assure you not every one on this earth has even graced the concept of our good lord, they will be judged solely by their own merits :)
 
I know how you feel. I sometimes want to post a picture and ask, is there anything wrong with me? Why does nobody care ? But you know what I stop and don't do it because looks don't define who I am. They don't define who you are either. You want to find a guy who cares about the you who is on the inside, or else it wont lead to anything good. Anyway thats about you posting your picture like that. Try not to do that.

As I said I sometimes get the urge to do likewise. Because this society pushes a certain thing down our throats. Its what you look like and how much money you make that makes you a person. Don't listen to them. They do not represent God.

There is nothing wrong with you, there is everything wrong with society and most people. Its very hard to find good Christian people who share your beliefs. You are not alone. We are striving for something better than the ordinary. Nobody said it would be easy. And yes it is hard. And I'm depressed like 98% of the time because of it.
 
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Its hard for me to find a good christian girl too, being 19 and worrying whether or not somebodies out their for me, but we just have to rely in God, because he knows what is to come, and we need to lean on him when those times come and we feel depressed and saddened because we don't have someone their besides us that shares our same faith. Remember to live each day out by faith and not by sight, and discouragement will slowly disappear. those friends that wonder why your still single just might not understand. You are a very beautiful woman, and that guy has picked out for you will be very lucky, and the wait will be far more than worth it :)
 
Forget about what your friends think. Dont be in such a rush. Do you think your friends are totally happy with their relationships? I'll bet that some of them are having relationship problems that you would be happy to avoid (boyfriend is too needy, too clingy, too emotional, too nice, too sensitive,too jealous, too busy, too stupid, too lazy, too insensitive, too obsessive..etc..etc...). What you have right now is FREEDOM. Your friends probably have to get their boyfriends approval whenever they want to do something or go somewhere, and they have to work out their differences and compromise to make the relationship work.

Is this what you really want? How important is it that you are in a relationship? Is it because your heart aches for love, or is it because you dont want to be the only one in your group of friends who is single? Either one of those reasons is the wrong reason. Love is something that happens after you get to know someone. Love is not like an accessory that you add to your life because everyone else seems to have it. If you REALLY want to find the right one you need to be very patient. God is not a genie, but he IS trustworthy. It took the Isrealites 40 years to inherit the promised land. It may take years before God feels you are ready to meet your man...but who's will is more important to you? God's will or your own?

By the way, you're pretty
 
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I KISSED DATING GOOD BYE!!
my best advice get this book by JOSHUA HARRIS.
OMG!! such a blessing when it comes to not just dating, but courtship, or dating wth a purpose, anyways
i was in the exact same situation. i would really encourage you to find this book, good reading, good chrisitans
 
thank a lot! i really need that someone give me advices yes there are somethings in my life i need to change, first time is not to worry about what people said, and also find friends who doesn't talk about their girlfriends or boyfriends all the time. i need to focus on my life in jesus christ, but sometimes is really hard i'm so weak i need to work on that too. again thank a lot.
 
You are still young so take your time and let God takes control of your love life.
 
Carli, I can't really add anything that other people did not say already :) You are still young, don't listen to people who think they know what you should do with your life. Make your own (God honering) choices, don't let other people make them for you. Let God choose your mate for life, wait on Him, be patient. Please join us in our chats here also, make friends ... I for one would love to chat with you, simply because you know Spanish!! :D please teach me :p Cuidate y Dios te bendiga!
 
thanks! and kaitlin cuando quieras te puedo enseñar un poco de español
 
carli said:
i have 19 years old and i don't have a boyfriend, i have boy friends but any christian and as god said we can not be with someone who dosen't shared our beliefs. but is too hard for me to find the right one and i don't want to make a mistake, for that i´m still being single and my friends who are not christians can´t believe that i´m still bing single and tha annoys me. i always pray to god shows me the right one but nothing happen. sometimes i feel depressed. someone can help me i really need good advices.
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What’s wrong with being single? I’m 57 years old and I enjoy being single. I don’t think you should be in a hurry to get married.
 
there are some of us who are looked upon as being fortunate for being single for such a long time. Those people are strengthened to see ones like us still living and being happy.. Just keep relying on God, and he'll put everything in order
 
todo con calma Dios tiene alguien especial para ti, try to become the woman God means for you to be, in that process he'll prepare the perfect man for you ;D
 
carli said:
thank a lot! i really need that someone give me advices yes there are somethings in my life i need to change, first time is not to worry about what people said, and also find friends who doesn't talk about their girlfriends or boyfriends all the time. i need to focus on my life in jesus christ, but sometimes is really hard i'm so weak i need to work on that too. again thank a lot.
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a quote for you Carli.. Don't mind what they say.. we have a lot of things to do for Our Lord..
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I was 25 before I had my first boyfriend, I thought he believed in God, I married him and we have two children, he fell away from God and doesn't want to know Him any more. I was real unhappy and after a long, tough time I asked for divorce. We are still friends, but divorce is nearly through.
You don't know what's gonna happen. I know of women with non christian husbands, who accept their faith.
Don't fall in love with any christian guy you meet - wait for Mr.Right.
Best of luck. Go to christian events to meet guys :)
 
Azul said:
todo con calma Dios tiene alguien especial para ti, try to become the woman God means for you to be, in that process he'll prepare the perfect man for you ;D
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Umm.. Azul this post is from March 2010. The OP is no longer registered on the site.
 
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Forget about what your friends think. Dont be in such a rush. Do you think your friends are totally happy with their relationships? I'll bet that some of them are having relationship problems that you would be happy to avoid (boyfriend is too needy, too clingy, too emotional, too nice, too sensitive,too jealous, too busy, too stupid, too lazy, too insensitive, too obsessive..etc..etc...). What you have right now is FREEDOM. Your friends probably have to get their boyfriends approval whenever they want to do something or go somewhere, and they have to work out their differences and compromise to make the relationship work.

Is this what you really want? How important is it that you are in a relationship? Is it because your heart aches for love, or is it because you dont want to be the only one in your group of friends who is single? Either one of those reasons is the wrong reason. Love is something that happens after you get to know someone. Love is not like an accessory that you add to your life because everyone else seems to have it. If you REALLY want to find the right one you need to be very patient. God is not a genie, but he IS trustworthy. It took the Isrealites 40 years to inherit the promised land. It may take years before God feels you are ready to meet your man...but who's will is more important to you? God's will or your own?
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Very, VERY well said, ZeroTurbulence. I LOVE this - You took the words right out of my mouth. You see, my friends also thought that I was "weird" because I still don't have a boyfriend at 21 years old. Even the ones that are Christians are constantly trying to set me up - I am biding my time and being happy single until God shows me the one that is right for me. It doesn't hurt to do some looking (I check online every once in a while), but if nothing clicks I move on and keep waiting - Give it time - My dear friend is 68, and she JUST NOW found her mate three years ago and they are happy as teenagers - the time will be right in God's time :)
 
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Very, VERY well said, ZeroTurbulence. I LOVE this - You took the words right out of my mouth. You see, my friends also thought that I was "weird" because I still don't have a boyfriend at 21 years old. Even the ones that are Christians are constantly trying to set me up - I am biding my time and being happy single until God shows me the one that is right for me. It doesn't hurt to do some looking (I check online every once in a while), but if nothing clicks I move on and keep waiting - Give it time - My dear friend is 68, and she JUST NOW found her mate three years ago and they are happy as teenagers - the time will be right in God's time :)
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Thank you, CHCSurvivor. :) I do believe that we should both work on ourselves and look at the same time, but not make looking for a mate a great priority because we feel we need a mate right now. Its an inspiration to hear about your friend! God bless.

gabriel
 
Hey , God knows the best ...i bet there is some one get trained by god just for you believe me and when the right time comes girl you are gonna flip.....
 
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