i am a christian and my boyfriend isnt?

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I love God and I am a believer, I also love my boyfriend and do not plan to lose him for hes the most amazing guy ever, except for the fact that hes not a believer, yet. Hes really smart and has very big interest in religions, science and evolution. My boyfriend is really supportive about my faith and trys to understand it, he doesn't reject God he just is really confused and has a lot of questions. He always asks me questions about God and I tend to find myself not having or knowing the answer, which sometimes leads me doubt. I love god but I dont understand the Bible sometimes and it makes me sad because i feel so lost :/ I want to help my Boyfriend believe but how can I when k m so weak?
 
I'm in a relationship just like this... even thought my faith in God is at the strongest point it's ever been... I still can't help him.
I love my Bf. Been with him for a while. But with that being said it kills me to hear him say "I love god and I wanna be close to god"
It kills me because I know in my heart he may never really give his life over. I should have waited until he already had a relationship with God before I said yes to being with him but I didn't..now I fight with him all the time because he doesn't like that I'm always doing things for God.
Being with someone who has no relationship with God is hard. And the honest thing I could say is..
Not a day goes by that I don't wonder if I should leave him until he gives his life to God.
See we can pray all the time for the person we love to come to God but nothing we say or do will make that person give his life over. Its up to him. PRAY for your bf. Leave it in Gods hands.. but remember if him not having a relationship with God starts to cause problems then you might have to make that hard decision most people can't make... the one I might have to someday make..
Him or GOD?

I'll be praying for you and your boyfriend.
 
At the end of the day, you have to ask yourself one question: "Does this person bring me closer to God or take me away from God?"

If the person detracts from your relationship with God then you should not be a couple.

It all comes down to who do you love more? Jesus or yourself?

It is very difficult, I know, but choosing Christ above all else is essential.
 
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I think, in the end, your boyfriend is bringing a lot of doubts into your mind and It is harming you spiritually.

However, you may feel very emotionally attached to him and the idea of letting him go may be too painful to bear. But God has not called you to be matched up with anyone who would hurt you spiritually.
 
Hi gbu,the answer 2 this is very easy,although satan wants u 2 think its so hard.The solution 2 any situation is God and the Word=Bible>first the bible states ,when we r weak he=God is strong ,he works through us.So I encourage u 2 buy a good Study Bible,so u can learn and understand Gods word,also so that your boyfriends questions can be answered.Also the Bible says faith comes by hearing,and hearing from Gods Word=Bible,so when u get one u and your boyfriend can read it out loud so u can hear the Words together and learn and increase in faith.Its that simple,Amen.So act on this info quick before satan tells u something different. Hope 2 meet u in the rooms also.
 
Perhaps I'll answer your question with another question - normally I wouldn't but in this case it makes sense to.

Provided you're not being tempted by this person, how long will you wait to make a decision?


If you do not feel tempted, and this person is not pushing you towards sin, then theoretically you could stay with them as long as you wanted. But it seems you already know it can't cross into the marriage threshold until they are saved. If not 2 Corinthians 6 has something to say about it. It doesn't say you cannot be friends with an unbeliever. You could theoretically date this person your entire life as long as sin wasn't involved, but I doubt you'll want to do that.

[SUP]14 [/SUP]Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?



I strongly advise you do not issue an ultimatum to an unsaved boyfriend that he has to get saved or you're moving on, because that tends to create non genuine conversions. The answer is to continue being a witness for Christ and to patiently wait things out if that's the road you want to go down. But ultimately, if there isn't a genuine conversion, this is a road that must end if you ever wish to marry down the line.


So again, how much time are you willing to spend on this. As long as your unsaved boyfriend respects the tenets of our faith and isn't pushing you to break them, then you could stay where you are for quite some time, but ultimately I would bet you want to get married.


Whatever you do, do not compromise and marry an unbeliever. Not only is it specifically against God's Word, you'll be in for a lifetime of heartache. Every morning you wake up next to this person, you'll know they aren't going where you're going. And if you have children, it's confusing to them which religion (or lack of religion) they will follow (and here's a hint, they pick the easier path 9 times out of 10).
 
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