I am not a Virgin but in God's word I know better to be one until Marriage

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KatyGirl1994

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Well hello everyone,

So here I am putting myself out there.I am 22 years old and I am not married. And I am not a virgin. But I know better. I know to be saving myself for marriage. I go in stages where I am all about God and I am reading books and studying the Bible. Then I kind of stray away and go my own way of life.

I think me not being a virgin is because of low self esteem. I don't respect myself enough. I don't think I could ever find a man to truly love me. So I go and date the losers and sleep with them that say they love me but don't respect me. My ex boyfriend and I just broke up again after being on and off for 2 in half years. I want marriage and children and he really kind of doesn't. He says he loves me but isn't ready for those things and if we had a kid when he wasn't ready for it he would bail on me. My love for being a mother and a wife someday is my much greater than my love for him.

Now it would be very wonderful to find a Godly man that loves Jesus. As I did get baptized on July 14, 2013. But since I am not a virgin and I have slept with multiple partners, I feel like I won't be able to find a Godly man to accept this about me. Now I know God still loves me and forgives me, I have had these conversations with God many times. But I just have the low self esteem part of not being able to find the right man to love me for all of me. All of who I am as a person inside and outside. For my faults as I am not perfect, from past mistakes.

Anyone care to help a girl out with some advice?

Much appreciated and Thank you
 
Lean on Jesus Christ to take it one day at a time to be content and try not to think about those things of this life in wanting them.

Mark 10:
[SUP]28 [/SUP]Then Peter began to say unto him, Lo, we have left all, and have followed thee.[SUP] 29 [/SUP]And Jesus answered and said, Verily I say unto you, There is no man that hath left house, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my sake, and the gospel's,[SUP] 30 [/SUP]But he shall receive an hundredfold now in this time, houses, and brethren, and sisters, and mothers, and children, and lands, with persecutions; and in the world to come eternal life.

I day dream about playing with children in the kingdom of Heaven where I am sure I will have a hundredfold mothers too.

So imagine yourself being one of them mothers.

Psalm 113:1
Praise ye the Lord. Praise, O ye servants of the Lord, praise the name of the Lord.[SUP] 2 [/SUP]Blessed be the name of the Lord from this time forth and for evermore.[SUP] 3 [/SUP]From the rising of the sun unto the going down of the same the Lord's name is to be praised.[SUP] 4 [/SUP]The Lord is high above all nations, and his glory above the heavens.[SUP] 5 [/SUP]Who is like unto the Lord our God, who dwelleth on high,[SUP] 6 [/SUP]Who humbleth himself to behold the things that are in heaven, and in the earth![SUP] 7 [/SUP]He raiseth up the poor out of the dust, and lifteth the needy out of the dunghill;[SUP] 8 [/SUP]That he may set him with princes, even with the princes of his people.[SUP] 9 [/SUP]He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the Lord.

I really believe that the contrast here is revealing what Heaven will be like for how a barren woman can become one to keep house to be a joyful mother of children above for why she would praise Him above.

Course, you are not barren, but suffering from not having a godly christian husband and a family as a result. When the signs of the times hints that the Bridegroom is coming soon, I find it comforting when He helps me to set my treasure & my heart on the things above.

Romans 8:
[SUP]18 [/SUP]For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.

 
I read through your post and I will tell you something. To some he gave 1 silver and to some he gave bronze and to some he gave gold. What am trying to say is that, no one has the same gift in life, no one has the same opportunities of life as another person. You will be what GOD has destined you to be, you will be great as GOD as said you would, you will be successful as GOD has said you would, you will be a wife to a man and a mother to children has GOD said you would. Do not let yourself down by thinking you are not fine, beautiful enough to have the right man, do not let yourself down by thinking you don't worth being, successful, rich or wealthy because that isn't what GOD says about you. Be bold, be Beautiful, be upright, be radiant, be strong, be courageous and lastly be for GOD. One last thing, Patient is a Value you must have, it doesn't matter time, or how far or long the journey, just be patient for you shall be there.