I have a friend that is struggling with addiction, meth, possibly heroine. I have been bringing him to church, letting him stay with me 4-5 days a week, feeding him and anything I can do to help with his struggles.
His family all live here in town, but none of them want him to stay with them for a number of reasons. My problems lays in the fact that I live on disability and I receive a little help on my rent, not much, but every little bit helps.
I am now on the verge of losing my place because people have said that he is living here with me, also I get no help from any of his family in this (been 6 months so far). I mention something to his dad about my struggles but my pride won't allow me to ask for help. (I know, I don't need lessons on pride). So the other day, when he was supposed to come for church, he shows up with about 75.00 worth of food from the most expensive store in town, over half of it are things I don't eat, and tells me we can work out a trade, I go do some work around his house in trade for the "help" he gave me. I have no problem with helping him as I have already told him many times, I would just ask, because I didn't know what he wanted and didn't want done.
The thing is, on the "farm" where my friend lives (his dad has moved into town) there are about 8 - 12 people living there, i don't go because I am sure the police are watching it already and don't want my car seen there or caught up in it if they raid the place while I am there. My friends dad pays for utilities, internet, food, gas, cigarettes, for pretty much everyone there most of the time. I mention something the other day about him enabling and of course I get turned into the bad guy.
I would like some thoughts on how to handle this situation without causing conflict and stress on his dad as he has cancer an is afraid to lose his son in the process. I think his son should be helping him around the house, he should be giving his son a place to stay, he should be buying his food, he should not be buying his cigarettes, (if you can't afford them then you don't need them).
His family all live here in town, but none of them want him to stay with them for a number of reasons. My problems lays in the fact that I live on disability and I receive a little help on my rent, not much, but every little bit helps.
I am now on the verge of losing my place because people have said that he is living here with me, also I get no help from any of his family in this (been 6 months so far). I mention something to his dad about my struggles but my pride won't allow me to ask for help. (I know, I don't need lessons on pride). So the other day, when he was supposed to come for church, he shows up with about 75.00 worth of food from the most expensive store in town, over half of it are things I don't eat, and tells me we can work out a trade, I go do some work around his house in trade for the "help" he gave me. I have no problem with helping him as I have already told him many times, I would just ask, because I didn't know what he wanted and didn't want done.
The thing is, on the "farm" where my friend lives (his dad has moved into town) there are about 8 - 12 people living there, i don't go because I am sure the police are watching it already and don't want my car seen there or caught up in it if they raid the place while I am there. My friends dad pays for utilities, internet, food, gas, cigarettes, for pretty much everyone there most of the time. I mention something the other day about him enabling and of course I get turned into the bad guy.
I would like some thoughts on how to handle this situation without causing conflict and stress on his dad as he has cancer an is afraid to lose his son in the process. I think his son should be helping him around the house, he should be giving his son a place to stay, he should be buying his food, he should not be buying his cigarettes, (if you can't afford them then you don't need them).
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