It doesn't matter how much liquor you fill your stomach up with, or smoke in your lungs, you have been duped. Many wives have ruined their marriages, because they make their business everyone else, instead of dealing with it, with the Holy Spirit. Many people, many, many women, and many, many men - fall into drugs and alcohol, because they think it will get them more friends.
Friends are not forever. Life is not a popularity contest. It does not matter how popular you think you are, when you face off with the real ebb and flow of the Spirit of God, you are a loser. We are all losers. Jesus is the winner.
Church is not on a Sunday, it is every day, all day.
Self-motivation and dating do not work. You can't lie to yourself and call that the truth. Many people say they are great, but they are not. Many people go around dating, and they will definitely live with poor results.
This whole culture of partying and going out and getting hammered is dumb, because we have the Bible to party with and the Spirit to get drunk upon. Get high on Jesus. Jesus!
Worldly dating and drug and drunk culture robs everyone of their identity. Our ancestors were strong people. They built their own houses. You've heard it in history class, but it makes sense. We all have ancient heritage... farming communities... builders... masons... and so on.
When you wanted to get a wife or husband you met someone in the district or local community, you didn't travel to a place where you knew nobody. That is security. You married someone trustworthy, not some bad-girl, bad boy.
People had less exposure to the civilized way of thinking. In civilization we have every sin under the sun. Civilization is Sodom and Gomorrah. Civilization is what is primitive.
Family values, getting to know the people in your community. Making a name for yourself, for Jesus. Being strong and courageous. Dedicating your life to Jesus. That is what life is about.
The 21st century has brought technology into the palm of our hands. Now we have Sodom and Gomorrah in our headphones.
If you want to be cool, strong, popular and loved, be all those things for the right reasons, not for the wrong.
If you want to experience a trip and get supper high, read the Bible and worship Jesus. Call upon Him, be filled with the Holy Spirit.
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If you want a wife/hubby, family, heritage and good life, then follow Jesus. Sin destroys lives, it does not create. You can lie to yourself as much as you like, use special self-confidence boosting techniques to get chicks or whatever lol... that does not work. You take, someone else will take away. You give, someone else will give. You give and God returns. We are made winners in Christ Jesus.