I just gotta know...

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K so I am a little lady who believes in waiting for marriage for sex... and I just want to get some things straightened out.

Are there actually guys who feel the same way? Young guys? I feel as though it'll be incredibly hard for me to find people to go out with because I think that relationships are usually a waste of time for me because I cant give guys what they really want.

I don't know I just want somebody to tell me if my expectations are too high if I want to marry a virgin.

Will anyone even want me if I can't do what they want me to?

Anybody on here wait for marriage?
 
Whilst I speak from opposite, I imagine even for those who didn't not believe in sex after marriage as being a cast iron rule, would be willing to make concessions as a respect for your wishes.
 
let me tell you. I am a firm beliver in waiting till marriage... the girl I was with told me about her past experiences and at first that didn't matter. but when I fell for her deeply than her experiences hurt me because I pictured it nd these guys just left her afterwards.. wich killed me on the inside. I am a vergin and to be honest In all the relationships I've been with its been hard not to have sex. I love the lord and I won't lie I do want to have sex. but I will wait for an awesome girl. XD its worth it. I know that If I marry I can safely say my past won't affect her. I be done things I'm not proud of. but when I do have sex I want it to be with the girl God saved for me. the true passionate sex that is in the bible. right now I trying to become the awesome man God wants me to be and some sweet girl out there deserves and has been waiting for. so yeah I firmly beloved in waiting till marrige cos sex without love is just meaningless lust.
 
Take your time and wait for the right guy. Anyone who will not want to be with you solely based on sex is not a guy who is worthy of your time.

Your expectations are NOT too high to want to wait for marriage, and want to marry someone who also waited.

I know I'm not in the 'young guy' category any more, but I'm still waiting. I refuse to settle on someone who isn't God's best. Don't ever settle. You are a Daughter of the Most High God. There are some guys out there who are perfect for you...take your time and you'll find one.
 
Though I confess that I did not wait for marriage, sex was never done out of lust, desire, or necessity, but rather love in the sense that I wanted to show my partner how I felt.

This of course, was an error of wisdom on my part, seeing as how I am no longer with said individual(s) for one reason or another.

No doubt, sex before marriage is wrong, no matter what the reasons of engaging in it. With that said, I am in agreement with the other members here that believe you should wait, and be patient for the one God is to deliver to you. Had I of done the same, I am sure, I would have suffered less heart ache.

As for marrying a virgin. I think it would be great if your hearts desires could be fulfilled. Just please keep in mind, your heart can be deceitful, and God may deliver you a man who may not be a virgin. You could very well miss out on a great blessing if you aren't careful.
 
way to go girl! I'm waiting too! I always wondered the same thing (part of my reason for my answer in my thread), but I know one man who has helped me believe that there are guys out there who are waiting, my dad. He waited till he was married and I couldn't be prouder of him!
 
Lecrae said:
I am waiting until marriage. Don't lose hope - there are virgin guys out there yet and they're not all creeps.
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Same here, But like it's the same story for us guys really, But we just gotta give it all in the Lords hands and trust him he knows whats best for us =)
 
Biblical marriage is awesome. Most young Christians from our area are going through courtship in order to enter marriage pure and with and understanding of the role of a husband and wife.

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well done

it's not easy taking your stand and expect people to understand why. The best thing is to let them know you are decided to stay a virgin till marriage, so you can give your gOD given hubby the best you can offer. YOu know, you have and will continue to escape very many heartaches just by that decision. Don't let anyone impose themselves on you or arm twist you to compromising. One of these days, God will shine on you so mightily and give you the best hubby from HIS Able Hand. Already, you have overcome the media and environmental frenzy about sex before marriage thereby becoming wiser in GOD"s eyes, so rest assured HE will guide you all the more. Just continue trusting HIM and give that deaf ear to those who wanna make you lose track.Well done. am proud of you. God rain on you HIS grace.
 
I am 19 and a virgin. I was actually raised in a worldly Atmosphere that encouraged me to have sex but I kept clean for marriage.
It is not impossible but as time goes on it becomes more rare. you are not asking for to much. Don't lower your standards!
 
Yes I'm waiting for marrige... I think its good to wait. A better reward later on :)

Also... be VERY picky on you your bf/gf will be... Make sure they know Christ and are giving their life for him.
 
I thinks is great to waitt...and you're right when you say there aren't a lot of men who wait till marriage..actually the ones i know is because they're reall christian guys and i think thats great and very admirable on them..and on woman too of coursee cause it's not easy to wait...specially if you are already in a deep relationship and you can get easily dominated by your emotionss so is easier when both KNOW WHAT THEY WANTT and actually make an effort to not falling in those emotionsss...I'd recomend you to look for a guy with the same vision as youu in this

and congratsss i think is a great decission , hold onn there! :)
 
My ex boyfriend slept around a lot before we got together, he had had multiple sex partners and very much disagreed with the no sex before marriage rule I followed. (Later in our relationship) he told me that he asked me out because I was a challenge to him, because he was so confident that he could convince me to sleep with him. He eventually fell in love with me, and one night, full of lust, I told him I didn't want to wait anymore and I was ready. He left the room. When I calmed down I asked him why and he said that he loved me and that he knew waiting was important to me and he wasn't going to let me throw that away.
If a man loves you he will wait, even if he doesn't believe in waiting until marriage, he will wait because it is what you want and therefore what he wants.
 
My ex boyfriend slept around a lot before we got together, he had had multiple sex partners and very much disagreed with the no sex before marriage rule I followed. (Later in our relationship) he told me that he asked me out because I was a challenge to him, because he was so confident that he could convince me to sleep with him. He eventually fell in love with me, and one night, full of lust, I told him I didn't want to wait anymore and I was ready. He left the room. When I calmed down I asked him why and he said that he loved me and that he knew waiting was important to me and he wasn't going to let me throw that away.
If a man loves you he will wait, even if he doesn't believe in waiting until marriage, he will wait because it is what you want and therefore what he wants.
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awwww thats soo romantic, and soo sweet he put your interests before his, you renewed my hope lol andd is truee...a man who loves you will respect your decission
 
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