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Hi im only 19 years old and i have an 8 month old son and im pregnant but i dont want this pregnacy idk wat to do ive thought about abortion but i dont want to go to hell. The problem is i dnt have a job and i can barely support my son i need advice
 
What about the childrens father ?
What about your parents ?
What do they think about all that ?
How much support do you have ?
 
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Well the father lives in mexico we dont talk at all he doesnt even worry about my son my mom and i have a bad relationship and my dad is in jail its just so hard i dont kno wat to do
 
Honey First off your not going to hell! Second please do not have an abortion pray about it God well make a way for you I promise! As long as u stay true to him worship and praise him daily God well make a way and well give the answers you need. There are other options to take here, one being adoption I was adopted and can honestly say I'm glad I was. I don't know you but I'm proud of you for being so strong. Sister in Christ Jesus loves you never give up. May God bless you.
 
I'm pretty sure these are the ones my wife and I worked with in New York. They were young back then. They can refer you to someone locally by now. The CT one is the only website I can find. Home
 
Dont lose faith sister, i can't even begin to imagine your situation but i can assure you i will be praying along with others for you. Stay strong and keep praying.

There are some really good comments on the thread already that can help you :) God Bless!!
 
I'm sorry to hear about your predicament :(. Please do not consider an abortion...this would be terminating the life of an innocent person. There are lots of pregnancy crisis centers around. Look in the phone book, there should be one near you. They can help you. There are many couples who cannot have children themselves and would love to adopt your baby if you can't look after him/her yourself. Please consider this option....choose life :).

Praying for you! Don't give up, there is help out there.
 
I totally agree with everything everyone has said on the thread so far. There are other options and places to give you help and guidance. But the main thing is to keep praying and talk with someone at church if possible. I really cannot add anything more than what has already been said here.

Sorry that you find yourself in this situation. Will be praying for you and your baby.

God bless you (((HUGS)))
 
You need to put things into perspective. You are 19. 1 child and one on the way. You are still young and have your whole life ahead of you. You have not made good choices up until now, much like a lot of us out there, myself included. You need to have a real talk with yourself and see where you want your life and the life of your children to go. What do you want for them, since now your wants and needs are no longer your priority. Do you want your children to have a better life? I think you do because I can feel the pain in your words. You need to become a strong role model for them. A strong woman in Christ first and foremost.

I hope you have your diploma or GED, if not, GET IT! NOW!!!
Get a skill or trade. Lots of programs out there to help with that and daycare. The medical field is a great place to begin such as MA, LVN, or so many other technical positions out there.

Don't beat yourself now over what has happened, just move forward for your children's sake. Swallow your pride if you have to get on government assistance for a little while but MOVE forward. Trust me, you can do it.
 
Do not abort. Please do not abort.


For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. II Tim.
1:7
 
yesii0829 said:
Hi im only 19 years old and i have an 8 month old son and im pregnant but i dont want this pregnacy idk wat to do ive thought about abortion but i dont want to go to hell. The problem is i dnt have a job and i can barely support my son i need advice
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Dear Sister,

Please, please do not abort this life. No matter how hard things get in this life or what trials you face, none of it will compare to what you will put yourself through is you abort this child. The effect might not be immediate but it is long lasting and even though the Lord will forgive you, you may find it very hard to forgive yourself.

Speaking as a man that dearly loves a woman that can never have children due to infertility, I can tell your there are literally millions of families that would adopt your baby. Myself included.

You should know there are many programs offered by every state to assist you and many more that can be received through the church. At least a good one. Know that every follower of Christ in this forum, whether they post here or not will be praying for you and your children, both born and unborn.

If you need to talk one on one please feel free to email me directly. I am willing to be a listening ear or to give godly counsel or whatever you need to weather this trial in you your life. You do not exist in a vacuum so please reach out in every direction especially to heaven.

You can see by the responses so far, that even though we do not know you directly, we already love you and your children and best of all the Lord Jesus loves you and is there with you always just as He promised. You are not alone even if, at times, it feels like it. Be strong and courageous. The Lord is not done with you yet.

In Christ,

Bishop SEH
 
Sister in Christ...i know how hard it is for you. I am a woman too. I have seen a lot of similar situations in other people's lives, and i can say that those who have aborted regretted it so much, that they truly couldn't forgive themselves...knowing they've killed an innocent life...and never knowing how that child might've turned out if they didn't give up on them.

Be strong in the Lord, dear sister...this is truly a huge burden on your shoulders. But if you trust God wholeheartedly, you will overcome, for He will make a way for you. If you cannot keep the baby, give him/her up for adoption. He/she will be such a blessing to a childless couple. And yes, please finish schooling! You have a better chance for more working opportunities that way. Bear with the shame and the difficulty for awhile, for the rewards will be well worth it, for you and your children.

I'll be praying for you. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6

God bless you and your children, dear sister in Christ!!! Stand boldly in righteousness, resting upon His perfect love!! :)
 
yesii0829 said:
Hi im only 19 years old and i have an 8 month old son and im pregnant but i dont want this pregnacy idk wat to do ive thought about abortion but i dont want to go to hell. The problem is i dnt have a job and i can barely support my son i need advice
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I think you may be doing a "Peter"?

Peter sank into the water when he took his eyes off of Jesus and saw how big and scary the waves were. You are looking at the waves of life. You trust in God and He will take care of you. It may not be easy, but faith, hope and courage are always the best choices.
 
Everyone has been very nice and supportative. which is great.

However, I'm going to be honest and blunt with you.

1. don't get an abortation, you will regret it for the rest of your life. Many of the women I know how have done so, tell me that they wished they had kept the baby and some of them are trying very hard to have a baby now and are having trouble conceiving or carrying their baby to full term.

2. Have you thought about giving the baby up for adoption?

3. STOP having sex outside of marriage. you are worth more than that.
 
yesii0829 said:
Hi im only 19 years old and i have an 8 month old son and im pregnant but i dont want this pregnacy idk wat to do ive thought about abortion but i dont want to go to hell. The problem is i dnt have a job and i can barely support my son i need advice
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Trust in God. Abortion and murder do not directly affect one's salvation, but they can affect one's faith and life in profound ways. Your child is depending on you. You are going to give this child life. You are going to protect this fragile being in its most vulnerable moment and when it relies upon you to step up and provide for them. You should be proud of yourself. And you should also not try to do it alone. Seek out local churches. Explain your situation to them. Search for government programs. Single mothers often can receive a lot of help. You are not alone. And neither is your son.

In short, my first step would be going to a local church. There are people older and wiser there who can give you advice and will be more than willing to help you get to where you are going and receive the help you need.
 
Please in all that is right, have this baby. We have all made mistakes. Here is the moment of truth-from this point on you change the past and make good choices. What do you think God would say to you right now? What would be His first concern-that you got pregnant or that you keep this baby alive? God is a loving forgiving God. He want us to learn from our mistakes, but He doesn't want us to take a situation and make it so much worse. God will reward you for keeping this baby by giving you help and support. You are 19, do you get a second chance ? Yes God will give you one. There are so many loving people that want a baby and are ready to raise and provide for them. I have read so many stories of women that got rid of their babies and they could not live with the guilt. Please try to see this is a moment in time where you stand tall, have the baby, and then move forward to change your life. You can do anything, go to school, get a job, you have your whole life. This baby has one chance to be born and you are it. You can do this-be STRONG. God will help you. God bless you-I'm praying for you.
 
Well I'm actually pro-choice so I'm not going to tell you not to get an abortion because that is entirely up to you. However, if you will feel guilty or if you see it as wrong then, as many lovely people here have suggested, adoption is definitely an option. Have you heard of open adoptions? My friend considered this when she got pregnant junior year (decided to keep the kid instead but it's definitely taken it's toll). It allows you to stay in contact with the child and family while allowing someone who has the means to better raise your kid.

If you have anything you want to say or ask, please message me. I will not judge ANY decision you make.
 
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yesii0829 said:
Well the father lives in mexico we dont talk at all he doesnt even worry about my son my mom and i have a bad relationship and my dad is in jail its just so hard i dont kno wat to do
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Yesii, let me tell you about my sister in law. She and her husband can't have children. They went through foster care and waiting lists just begging to have a child of their own. There are waiting lists of people desperate to adopt a child. They go as far as China or Russia to adopt children. Now my sister-in-law has a beautiful baby boy they adopted. They threw a party on the day the adoption was finalized bigger than any birthday party you've ever seen.

If you give your child up for adoption, don't think that child won't be loved. There are families just waiting to make your child a very loved member of that family.

If you don't think you can properly care for that child, then consider adoption. Give your child life and the chance to have a great child hood. It's the best thing to do, in my opinion.

I will pray you have the right decision, in Jesus' name.
 
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