if parents say no, trust them. they are here to protect you. I am sure others will give better advice than me 
but here is my bit.
but here is my bit.
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Great advice. Honor your mother and father that your days may be long upon the earth.
you say you are a Christian. are you a born again Christian? because that's what Jesus taught, to be a born again Christian. every time you are invited to a party, ask what kind & if there will drug use & alcoholic drinking there. if there will be, you aren't missing out on anything. in fact, you are gaining by not attending these kinds of parties. there is such a thing as a Christian party which is food, non alcoholic drinking, Bible talk, games, testimony sharing, even a time for a single person to meet someone, etc.
Hello and God bless, first, if going would place you in the hot seat with Mom or Dad or both, you should stay home and not go. Knowing that your parents would say no and you KNOW that they are against it, respect and honor you parents decision. Spend time doing something more productive during that time. Scripture says not to be envious of those who are sinning. I say this not because they are sinning[ they may have permission to have the party], but what sort of atmosphere would be present? What sort of music? Will drugs and/or alcohol be present there? Overall, I would advise you not to go. Stay home, spend time in the Word and do some studying, watch a Christian movie, or something that is more productive with your time. Do you know what your career goal is yet? If so, why not read up on literature on the subject? Do something that adds value towards your future is all I am saying.
I would say avoid all non christian events, if you are old enough and desire to meet men then make sure they are christian and attending church on an ongoing basis.
If you are in a good church then put a group together to discuss this, organize your own events.
Nothing good comes from clubs bars or meet ups of any kind with non Christians at your age, you will be flattered by people who just want sex, its what most of them are there for.
Stick to christian groups, organize days out, walks, fishing, riding atv's, charity work, clean up the old man or woman's home who no longer can, organize music evenings, get together for evening lunches, bring non Christians into the mix showing them what they would not otherwise see, where you are in a safe place amongst other Christians.
If you are in a good church then put a group together to discuss this, organize your own events.
Nothing good comes from clubs bars or meet ups of any kind with non Christians at your age, you will be flattered by people who just want sex, its what most of them are there for.
Stick to christian groups, organize days out, walks, fishing, riding atv's, charity work, clean up the old man or woman's home who no longer can, organize music evenings, get together for evening lunches, bring non Christians into the mix showing them what they would not otherwise see, where you are in a safe place amongst other Christians.
Whenever I found myself asking that, it was sinful. Here's a good rule from Romans 13 to apply when you are invited.
" 13Let us walk honestly, as in the day; not in rioting and drunkenness, not in chambering and wantonness, not in strife and envying. 14But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof."
Making provisions for the flesh, I think of it as putting myself in a place or circumstance where I'm likely to be tempted.
On the other hand, A church can have a wholesome party .
I attended many with no regrets.
However, I attended parties with older friends when I was very young. I was surprised at first what I was exposed to... nothing good. When you don't know, it's best to err on the side of politely turning down the invitation. It will save you much regret and grief.
Just some friendly advice from an older friend who's been there.
" 13Let us walk honestly, as in the day; not in rioting and drunkenness, not in chambering and wantonness, not in strife and envying. 14But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof."
Making provisions for the flesh, I think of it as putting myself in a place or circumstance where I'm likely to be tempted.
On the other hand, A church can have a wholesome party .
I attended many with no regrets.
However, I attended parties with older friends when I was very young. I was surprised at first what I was exposed to... nothing good. When you don't know, it's best to err on the side of politely turning down the invitation. It will save you much regret and grief.
Just some friendly advice from an older friend who's been there.