I need someone to save me.

[Brasspen]

I tried going to christian dating sites, but they don't work. It will not even let me look at anything after I am done with the profile. And it's the same problem with the disabled dating sites. So right now I have decided that Dating sites don't work. I have no way to try and connect with anyone.

I can't stop thinking about sex and it has disrupted my daily life. I can't do anything because of the fantasies. I can't even get my cloths on when I need to because I can't stop thinking about it.

It has been over 12 years and I need someone really bad.

So I have this one question for a women who wants to move in with me. What Does God want. What does God say about it. Does he want you too?
I don't know if I would be able to find anyone here, but you can send me PM. If you can't send pm tell me you want to talk to me and I will send you a pm.

 

[cinder]

A woman to have sex with won't save you or solve your problems. And God's word is pretty clear that he want people to get married before they start having sex, so he's not calling any woman to move in with you without marrying you first.

Reading some of your previous posts from a couple weeks ago, if the drive is that overwhelming you might want to talk to your doctor about adjusting your meds.

 

[Krumbeard]

I tried going to christian dating sites, but they don't work. It will not even let me look at anything after I am done with the profile. And it's the same problem with the disabled dating sites. So right now I have decided that Dating sites don't work. I have no way to try and connect with anyone.

I can't stop thinking about sex and it has disrupted my daily life. I can't do anything because of the fantasies. I can't even get my cloths on when I need to because I can't stop thinking about it.

It has been over 12 years and I need someone really bad.

So I have this one question for a women who wants to move in with me. What Does God want. What does God say about it. Does he want you too?
I don't know if I would be able to find anyone here, but you can send me PM. If you can't send pm tell me you want to talk to me and I will send you a pm.

 

[OneOfHis]

God says no sex outside of marriage. God says to not be found wanting.
God says not to lean on your own understanding but to seek Him to direct you.


The pain you're feeling is natural of the flesh and understandable but your "solution" would only make everything worse and separate you from God. (if it is just for "someone to save you and move in")

It's like if you were starving and decided to take drugs so you didn't have to feel hunger.


What you need is true sustenance. You need to hold those thoughts captive and seek the Lord to fill any of these desires that are hindering your walk.

Sex isn't some vice, it is meant to be sacred and shared between husband and wife and sanctified by God.

If there is a woman for you, she isn't meant to "save" you. Our Lord is our Savior and He is enough.

You may very well have someone for you but in your words you don't consider her at all. How would she feel to see you put this out in such a public way?

 

[Suze]

I tried going to christian dating sites, but they don't work. It will not even let me look at anything after I am done with the profile. And it's the same problem with the disabled dating sites. So right now I have decided that Dating sites don't work. I have no way to try and connect with anyone.

I can't stop thinking about sex and it has disrupted my daily life. I can't do anything because of the fantasies. I can't even get my cloths on when I need to because I can't stop thinking about it.

It has been over 12 years and I need someone really bad.

So I have this one question for a women who wants to move in with me. What Does God want. What does God say about it. Does he want you too?
I don't know if I would be able to find anyone here, but you can send me PM. If you can't send pm tell me you want to talk to me and I will send you a pm.

Dear Brother , I'm very sorry for u as u r obviously lonely and loneliness is a terrible pain .
U r much more likely to attract people to u if u r a cheerful and stable person and I know that u r on a journey of weight loss and getting yourself physically healthy . Your mood will improve once u get yourself into a healthy routine and , this improvement in your mood and increased health will attract people to u . R u going to any exercise classes ? Or even a walking group ? Have u found yourself a congregation yet ? Do they do exercise or walking groups ? If they don't , maybe u could help them to set these things up ?
Women r not sex objects , I'm sure that u already know this as u seem to me to b an intelligent , sensitive guy . Women want companionship too , some one who can b a good friend to them , that's always a good place to start . Get to know women , Christian , single women , as friends . Maybe there is a Christian lady who is also trying to get healthy and u could help support each other ? It's very hard to put yourself out there if your confidence and self esteem r low . But u must try , u must push yourself to get out amongst your local Christian community and start getting to know people . Your social skills will improve and this will boost your confidence . Then maybe u will meet that special someone . All this is going to take a bit of time , do , the sooner u start the better !
U have to push yourself , with God's help u can do this . Keep talking to Him and reading His Word . Open your heart to Him and tell Him how u feel . U cannot shock Him , He is very much used to us humans and He already knows how we feel and what we need in life . U have to b determined and get out there and get yourself a life and some good Christian companionship . May God bless u with everything that u need to b healthy and happy in Christ .

 

[Suze]

You

R avatar made me laugh out loud !

 

[Lanolin]

Um
Sex workers/prostitutes do not move in with their clients. You pay them by the hour.

What does God want. He wants to save you through his son Jesus Christ. Then you will learn to control your desire and be satisfied with the helper/comforter He will give you - clue, like a dove, it comes from above. Don't ask us...ask Him.

 

[Kainos]

I tried going to christian dating sites, but they don't work. It will not even let me look at anything after I am done with the profile. And it's the same problem with the disabled dating sites. So right now I have decided that Dating sites don't work. I have no way to try and connect with anyone.

I can't stop thinking about sex and it has disrupted my daily life. I can't do anything because of the fantasies. I can't even get my cloths on when I need to because I can't stop thinking about it.

It has been over 12 years and I need someone really bad.

So I have this one question for a women who wants to move in with me. What Does God want. What does God say about it. Does he want you too?
I don't know if I would be able to find anyone here, but you can send me PM. If you can't send pm tell me you want to talk to me and I will send you a pm.

You're misapplying a fertile imagination by fantasising.

If you hungered for God's intervention with the same thirst you have for a woman's touch, you'd be moving mountains without lifting a finger.

And why are you searching for a Christian woman to indulge in defilement? Would you visit a whore to encounter holiness?

 

[welsh79]

This might sound straight and unloving but there isn't really another of putting this:

If you're struggling with this kind of thing...

1.) Join a church and engage with as many groups and activities as possible.

2.) Invest in other people and get to know them. To have a friend you need to be a friend. Hopefully this blossoms into something more.

3.) Be careful of porn and it's dangers. If you're thinking about sex so much, then stick a filter on your phone and don't sit around dwelling on sex. Instead, focus your free time into giving...get involved in a ministry. By serving others and focussing on other people's needs, you stop focussing on you.

4.) Be consistent in your reading and praying. And don't kid yourself. The bible will keep you from sin or sin will keep you from the Bible.

Keep going in your walk. The Lord is with you.

 

[welsh79]

If you feel sexual sin is a struggle for you...I'd recommend checking out Pure Life Ministries in Dry Ridge, Kentucky.

Steve Gallagher is a very good writer. His life was a total mess due to sexual sin and God has used him in a way I have rarely seen. Their ministry is very, very hard hitting. However their counselling at home programme is brilliant. They now have a YouTube channel and podcast.

I did the course myself many years ago.

God bless.

 

[Pinewood]

I tried going to christian dating sites, but they don't work. It will not even let me look at anything after I am done with the profile. And it's the same problem with the disabled dating sites. So right now I have decided that Dating sites don't work. I have no way to try and connect with anyone.

I can't stop thinking about sex and it has disrupted my daily life. I can't do anything because of the fantasies. I can't even get my cloths on when I need to because I can't stop thinking about it.

It has been over 12 years and I need someone really bad.

So I have this one question for a women who wants to move in with me. What Does God want. What does God say about it. Does he want you too?
I don't know if I would be able to find anyone here, but you can send me PM. If you can't send pm tell me you want to talk to me and I will send you a pm.

It sounds like you are really having a difficult time - for that I am sorry. However, may I please lovingly give you some Godly counsel.

First, sex is not a need. It is not something a person must have to survive. A person can live without sex. Jesus did, the apostle Paul did, and many others who have not found someone to marry or whose spouse died. It can be; however, a real temptation and for this reason the apostle Paul says to marry. But I must warn you, a burning desire is different from lust out of control. Which from what you are describing is what is happening if you can't even put your clothes on. As a woman, I can tell you I would not want to marry someone who has not learned how to control his lust. This would put undue expectations on the wife and could end in sexual sin such as pornography and an affair. Before you start dating, you need to gain control of this. As a Godly man who is called to provide, protect, honor, and lead his wife - you have to have your stuff figured out. In fact, this could be why the Lord has not provided a wife yet?

Having said all of this, have you thought about reaching out for help from a Christian counselor or joining a program that helps with sexual addiction? I believe this would be a good first step for you. Freedom from this yoke of bondage can be attained. There is help out there.

 

[Edith]

I tried going to christian dating sites, but they don't work. It will not even let me look at anything after I am done with the profile. And it's the same problem with the disabled dating sites. So right now I have decided that Dating sites don't work. I have no way to try and connect with anyone.

I can't stop thinking about sex and it has disrupted my daily life. I can't do anything because of the fantasies. I can't even get my cloths on when I need to because I can't stop thinking about it.

It has been over 12 years and I need someone really bad.

So I have this one question for a women who wants to move in with me. What Does God want. What does God say about it. Does he want you too?
I don't know if I would be able to find anyone here, but you can send me PM. If you can't send pm tell me you want to talk to me and I will send you a pm.

Dear brother,
i love you and the Christ does more, but i think you have a great issue.
this is not the path He wants for you.
focus on Him and all else will grow Dim
and you will soon want a wife not someone to move in to fornication.

hope you reason it out again
with much love

 

[JohnDB]

Just as a thought....
Every time I see this thread I think of the television series "Smallville" and the intro song "Saaaavvvveee me, somebody needs to save me, don't care how you do it but saaaaave saaaave me."

 

[Lanolin]

I wouldn't mock OP this is a serious problem. I hope he finds good counsel.
Because most women don't appreciate being made to feel like they someone's call girl all the time.

 

[Cat545]

I tried going to christian dating sites, but they don't work. It will not even let me look at anything after I am done with the profile. And it's the same problem with the disabled dating sites. So right now I have decided that Dating sites don't work. I have no way to try and connect with anyone.

I can't stop thinking about sex and it has disrupted my daily life. I can't do anything because of the fantasies. I can't even get my cloths on when I need to because I can't stop thinking about it.

It has been over 12 years and I need someone really bad.

So I have this one question for a women who wants to move in with me. What Does God want. What does God say about it. Does he want you too?
I don't know if I would be able to find anyone here, but you can send me PM. If you can't send pm tell me you want to talk to me and I will send you a pm.

We know sex outside of marriage is not God’s will. And if you have lust in heart then you have commited the act in your heart.

Matthew 5:28: "But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart"

We are supposed to guard our hearts. Your problem is spiritual first and foremost. If you put yourself in a situation that tempts you (like moving in with a woman before marriage) that is a door for stumbling.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting physical intimacy, however, if your main reason for wanting a relationship is sex, that is not healthy. I suggest seeking guidance from men in the church because before you can healthily pursue someone you must tackle the heart issue. Don’t be ashamed, we all have human desires and feelings, but you must learn how to control them and give them to God so they do not control you.

After that, I’ve found the best way to meet others my age that are Christian is church itself, or also finding official Christian meetups and events in your area.

 

[JohnDB]

I wouldn't mock OP this is a serious problem. I hope he finds good counsel.
Because most women don't appreciate being made to feel like they someone's call girl all the time.

I'm not mocking the op...

Just saying it reminded me of the song from that show.

 

[Lovette]

Follow the 1 Cor. 7:27 rule - maintain the status quo in regard of marriage. If you're baptised into the body of Christ as a single, remain single. (Romantic) relationship is a distraction and an illusion.

Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife.

 

[2ndTimeIsTheCharm]

I tried going to christian dating sites, but they don't work. It will not even let me look at anything after I am done with the profile. And it's the same problem with the disabled dating sites. So right now I have decided that Dating sites don't work. I have no way to try and connect with anyone.

I can't stop thinking about sex and it has disrupted my daily life. I can't do anything because of the fantasies. I can't even get my cloths on when I need to because I can't stop thinking about it.

It has been over 12 years and I need someone really bad.

So I have this one question for a women who wants to move in with me. What Does God want. What does God say about it. Does he want you too?
I don't know if I would be able to find anyone here, but you can send me PM. If you can't send pm tell me you want to talk to me and I will send you a pm.

You are scaring me.

God will not give any of His daughters to you in your current spiritual state. That's why none of those Christian dating sites work.

I'll pray for you, but you've got to really want God to clean you up. You must submit to His Holy Spirit and do it continually. It is the only way you can conquer the sleaziness that has overpowered you - through HIS power.

 

[Brasspen]

So what happen to me after hurt me with what you said to me when I was suffering from serious problem. I was then attacked the devil and now I have a hurting, broken, bleeding heart. Thanks for your help.

 

[Brasspen]

I blame you all, because I think you all prayed against me.