Hi Everybody!
MusicalMe's thread made me think of something: how many of you out there have been dating someone or in a relationship and was called the name of person's's ex? Or, have you made that mistake yourself? (Calling someone by the name of one of your ex's.) And how did you react to it? (What did you do or say?)
I know some of these threads might seem silly, but I always try to think of real-life situations... and am wondering how other Christians have dealt with them from the viewpoint of their faith.
To my knowledge, I have never called someone by an ex's name (I don't have that many to name, Praise God!)
But I was dating someone once who very distinctly called me "Linda" (the name of his kids' mother) and caught himself right afterwords... he didn't even apologize, just said something like, "I can't believe I called you that..." (Um, thanks for stating the obvious...) I think I had just fed the kids lunch at my house and was washing dishes or something, so I didn't take too much offense to it.
But if it would have been constant... then there would have been some problems (well, there were plenty of other problems, but that's another story.)
People also refer to me as "---------'s (my dad's name) kid" quite often, thinking nothing of it... and I want to tell them, "Um, I have my own name... I don't need a title or description." For some reason, people also call me Amy (even bosses have done this)--I guess I just "look" like an "Amy" to them? It's kind of strange. (Though one did say it's because my last name has an "A" sound in it.)
I also have a (white) friend with two (adopted Korean) sisters... I look NOTHING like either of his sisters... but people always call me by their names and assume I'm one of them anyway.
*sigh* Oh, to have my own identity!
What about you?
MusicalMe's thread made me think of something: how many of you out there have been dating someone or in a relationship and was called the name of person's's ex? Or, have you made that mistake yourself? (Calling someone by the name of one of your ex's.) And how did you react to it? (What did you do or say?)
I know some of these threads might seem silly, but I always try to think of real-life situations... and am wondering how other Christians have dealt with them from the viewpoint of their faith.
To my knowledge, I have never called someone by an ex's name (I don't have that many to name, Praise God!)
But I was dating someone once who very distinctly called me "Linda" (the name of his kids' mother) and caught himself right afterwords... he didn't even apologize, just said something like, "I can't believe I called you that..." (Um, thanks for stating the obvious...) I think I had just fed the kids lunch at my house and was washing dishes or something, so I didn't take too much offense to it.
But if it would have been constant... then there would have been some problems (well, there were plenty of other problems, but that's another story.)
People also refer to me as "---------'s (my dad's name) kid" quite often, thinking nothing of it... and I want to tell them, "Um, I have my own name... I don't need a title or description." For some reason, people also call me Amy (even bosses have done this)--I guess I just "look" like an "Amy" to them? It's kind of strange. (Though one did say it's because my last name has an "A" sound in it.)
I also have a (white) friend with two (adopted Korean) sisters... I look NOTHING like either of his sisters... but people always call me by their names and assume I'm one of them anyway.
*sigh* Oh, to have my own identity!
What about you?
