I don't feel comfortable talking to anybody I know so I came here for advice. There's another girl that I talked to some and I couldn't stop thinking about her. I think about how she acts, talks, and everything. I have been thinking about her non-stop for a long time. I'm not really sure how to handle this.
I think I am attracted to females a bit
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Quantrill
The way you word it causes me to wonder. Let me ask you, Do you believe Jesus Christ is the Son of God and the Saviour, and have you prayed to God that you want His sacrifice for your sins and want to accept Him as your Lord and Saviour?
Quantrill
Very well, then I consider you to be a Christian. I will say this much, and then let some of the women here who are Christians address your situation. As a believer in Christ you know homosexuality is an abomination. A great sin. So, any attraction you have towards another women in that manner is not from God. And it is wrong. No matter how good you think it feels or appears, it is not from God.
Pleasure meeting you. I am sure others will have more to say concerning your situation.
Quantrill
All of us have minds that wander but we are asked to cast 'down imaginations' and "...bring into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ" (2 Cor 10:5). So resist these thoughts and never act on them. "...resist the devil, and he will flee from you." (James 4:7)
It's not just about what you think. It is an emotional connection as well. That is the most difficult part. I don't know how to stop thinking about the person as an individual.
We are designed to be emotional beings, just reign in any unnatural thoughts and don't go there. Emotional connections are ok but as a lady you were designed to forge your strongest emotional bonds with a gentleman.
How old are you? Some people make more of an impression than others. There is so much biology and psychology that drives our urges. Thinking about someone doesn’t mean sexual attraction. The problem is, today the media brainwashes us into believing that we should act on every urge and to sexually explore. Since society not only removes the guilt, but encourages sin, we are truly in dire times.
The mind will focus on one thing at a time. It will also gravitate towards excitement and entertainment. If you really don’t want to think about this person then pick something else exciting to focus on. If you are concerned about being attracted to this individual then don’t masterbate while thinking about them. The chemicals released will pretty much cause a sexual addiction to those thoughts. Maybe not the advice you want, but good advice regardless.
Yes but I've never had this sort of connection or been so enamored with someone as the girl
I'm really early twenties. I think about her all the time. I have been talking to her. I look at her social media many times a day. Do I have to stop thinking about her and contacting her? I love to talk to her but I don't know.
I've had this with a few different women since I was maybe 13. I had a doctor I was obsessed with. I had a girl I knew later in my teen years who I thought about all the time and thought she was really pretty. The newest girl I've been thinking about has been the most I've thought about anyone before.
Hi Tamina, and welcome!
I'm married but I can tell you between my flesh, and the enemy, I can sometimes find myself thinking too much about other women.
It's just our fleshy sin nature doing what comes natural to it. It's not the same temptation for everyone.
It sounds like you recognize that same sex relationships are wrong. That's a good sign the Holy Spirit is working in you.
The only way I have found success in defeating my flesh, and not listening to the devil, is by walking in the Spirit. I need to take captive every sinful thought and literally pray to Jesus to remove it.
Your flesh and the enemy never gives up, so this is NOT a one and done.
Be blessed sister!