If Jesus is all I need, then why I do I feel like I need to belong to a group of people?

[Amanuensis]

haha whining habits

sooo many people whine and complain about their situation then expect others to empathise with them
thats not the way to make friends

I went to church this Sunday, pentecost
I may only see some people at church and nowhere else because its hard to meet up outside of it
but thats ok, it was nice to see them anyway

I usually find a friend to go with or offer a ride to someone going and that is also a way to make friends.

some people are awkward though, they may ask weird questions like one lady, bless her kept asking are you married are your siblings married, when her own children arent married like all she could think of was marriage and I was like. Ok whatever but you get that

its kind of inane some of the small talk like are you still working cos they cant think of anything else to say

whereas if it was a child it would be like look at that rainbow or whatever. WHo cares if you working (its sunday who wants to talk about work?) or married. (if married youd be with your spouse would you not) Its not important. what matters is you alive breathing. present and youve got the Holy Spirit and praising God!

You should write.

 

[Lanolin]

I think more ppl need to be comfortable with non-verbal communication sometimes and only say things that need to be said.

God will give you the words.

Thats why there's scripture. A lot of what we do say is adlib. In Ireland they have this stone that you kiss upside down and supposedly gives you the 'gift of the gab'.

This is quite unrelated to the gift of tongues that the holy spirit gives, but I supoose it comes in handy for those moments when you have no idea what to say and you really want to connect with someone

it usually ends up not asking what someone does or where they are from or if they are married but something left of field like....can you lick your elbow?
or to be sure, say isnt there a pot of gold at the end of that rainbow?

 

[BrotherMike]

Jesus is all we need, hanging out with other people is optional (but highly recommended) Why? God created us for relationships with Him first and others second.

 

[Lanolin]

There is a popular book called 'my new friend is so fun' by Mo Willems
elephant and piggie are friends, but elephant gets jealous when Piggie makes a NEW friend called Brian the bat

somehow the 3 of them can't all be friends at the same time, so Elephant makes friends with a snake.

This is a common problem with humans as well....

 

[Lanolin]

ok maybe bad example the OP was mentioning people not animals

hes probably going what

I dont want to belong on a farm

or zoo

I have no problems befriending animals myself, Just because they cant talk my language doesnt mean I cant be friends with them. But it takes time to get to know them just as with humans

 

[EnglishChick]

If Jesus is all I need, then why I do I feel like I need to belong to a group of people?

because that quote isn't in the bible even. It's a false doctrine that gets preached .when in reality the bible says "it's not good for man to be alone" and "do not forsake meeting together. "

we are wired to be social and need to be loved and to love. Otherwise our mental health suffers.

the only context where we can truly say Jesus is all we need is regards salvation . Only Jesus is needed for salvation. But we live in a body on planet earth. We need food, sleep, love, water, pleasure, interests, work etc.

 

[EnglishChick]

I had a tough emotional experience as a teen. And when I reached out to all my friends none were available. And at first I was obviously frustrated. But by the end of the night I came to realize it wasn't by chance. God had done it on purpose to teach me a lesson. To trust more in Him and less on others.
Turned out to be an easy night for me in the end. And the weeks following.

I think God doesn't want us to be codependent or idolize people. But that's an extreme thing. We are wired to need and want people to a certain extent.

my childhood teenage years and youth were a living hell. Abuse and rejection broke me utterly. Well !eating Christians told me to stop asking for help. But it was teaching out to others and learning not to be afraid to ask for help that was a huge part of my healing.

so I guess it depends...

 

[EnglishChick]

What holds me back from repetitive church attendance, or just general fellowship, is my shame. I feel like I'm not pure enough to be around other believers. This is a lie of the devil. There's some truth to it though, Paul told the church he established not to tolerate people that live in sin, but I think he meant people that don't see sin as sin, ones who practice it in willful ignorance. Not ones who slip up, knowing it's sin, and repent.

Once I get over my shame and open up to fellowship with other Christians, I find that they are often plagued by the same fears and lies that I am. We comfort and reassure each other in Christ's grace, forgiveness, and his love.

My youth pastor, who I'm friends with now that I'm an adult(24), is not perfect at all, he's fallen just like me, in some of the SAME ways but we repent and we are forgiven constantly. We reassure and encourage each other.

It's a beautiful thing, I pray you will have the courage to humble yourself before God and others and receive his blessings.

I relate so much to this experience too. I think many of us do. Thanks so much for sharing