Ok i dont know how to start. But my issue is that im confused whether is being a stay at home mom bad because some say that the bible says thats what god wants for mother & wife is to not work outside the home and stay at home which is what im doing, my daughter will be two in february and people around me like my family and my husbands family expect me to go out and work besides being a stay at home mom since they think is not good just be a stay at home mom because they feel that i need to do something with my life which makes me feel like a looser and pressured to do what they think is right so i can feel better but at the same time i dont feel like is right because it will hurt me to leave my daughter to be cared by someone else just for a couple of bucks. I just dont know what to think? and i think soon my husband will want me to start working too. but i never have the chance to go to church as much as id like to or do sgomething for god like i want to since my husband doesnt let me use the our car because he complains about the gas but when is something for him like going to car meets or his parents he never has an excuse. I also barely get to visit my stepfather for that reason . Or i never have emergency money like atleast $5 , it makes me feel guilty that i never tithte for that reason too. so i dont know what is the right thing to do at this point. Hopefully im making myself understood. I need christian advice.
Sorry if i dont really make sense with misspellings,etc but im on my phone and is hard to type correctly.
What people think, is not important, what God thinks is important.
I think your doing one of those admirable, WONDERFUL, Beauuftil things any woman can do... be a full time mom for her children. Now that being said... under scripture, you can work still. Just don't let people's influence, make you work.... you going to work, should be based on your families needs not what the neighbors say or mother in law or father in law.
Proverbs 31 woman
The proverbs 31 woman is a model christian women look up to and the proverbs woman does trading and in one translation I remember it says she has a business of some sort so she makes money for the sake of her family. I think a Godly woman is very flexible for the sake of her family, and part of the flexibility involves even making money for her family. So if your family needs it, go for it and look for work, for your family's sake, if not.... then yeah I agree with you, a few bucks isn't worth it. Also remember the proverbs woman doesn't eat the bread of idleness, idleness means doing nothing.
Proverbs 31
New International Version (NIV)
1 The sayings of King Lemuel—an inspired utterance his mother taught him. 2 Listen, my son! Listen, son of my womb!
Listen, my son, the answer to my prayers!
3 Do not spend your strength on women,
your vigor on those who ruin kings.
4 It is not for kings, Lemuel—
it is not for kings to drink wine,
not for rulers to crave beer,
5 lest they drink and forget what has been decreed,
and deprive all the oppressed of their rights.
6 Let beer be for those who are perishing,
wine for those who are in anguish!
7 Let them drink and forget their poverty
and remember their misery no more.
8 Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves,
for the rights of all who are destitute.
9 Speak up and judge fairly;
defend the rights of the poor and needy.
10 A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
Hope it helps.
. But there's pluses and minuses on both sides of the issue!