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OurGodReigns7
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Someone who's heart and life is in God's hands... Who will submit to anything the Lord would have him do. That would melt my heart.
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supersuper
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That brings to mind another point why stay at home boys are better. They often are living under their parents roof, paying little or no rent, and so have more time to spend with the girlfriend, and more money they have saved up.
The bible does teach however that a man and woman should stay at home with their parents until they are married and then make a new home with their wife. The situation of men and women living on their own is not well supported in the bible, because God is all about the family unit.
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penguingal
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Lol so what we're doing here is according to the bible, that's awesome
But if I were a guy I'll make sure I put aside enough each month for some investment purpose or when I need to get married and move out. Always remember to chip in for your kind parents and help around the house while you stay under their roof 
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Kuroko
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sharp, im almost about to give up on women in australia, all they seem to want are boyfriends who put them down and treat them bad.
Let chivalry die if it means these girls have their eyes opened later on (how sad that even I would feel so negative towards the fairer sex in this country)
What happened to love?
Let chivalry die if it means these girls have their eyes opened later on (how sad that even I would feel so negative towards the fairer sex in this country)
What happened to love?
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Love009
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Jordan9
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Oh yeah, chivalry is dying. I'm hoping when I get a little bit older, get out of the party scene that is uni, that people might be a bit more tame. Though I also need to get right with God and expand my Christian circle of friends more. I don't have many Christian friends my age. My Church is great, but everyone is either younger couples with children and what not, or elderly. They're great and interesting people, don't get me wrong, but they aren't my age or anything lol.
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SOLDIEROFCHRIST_22
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I'm waiting on that woman that would give her life to to Christ and would make God her first priority, not for that woman who is worried about the cares of this I'm waiting on that woman that would give her life to to Christ and would make God her first priority, not for that woman who is worried about the cares of this world.... If you're out there please let me know,but until then I'll remain single and give my all to God!!!!!"][/COLOR]
I'm with ya there mate. They're just no good here. I don't know why it is, but women here want to be men.
They want power and status, they want to be managers in the workplace, they want money and investments, they just want to be in control. They want to boast to their friends about how much control they have over they men, and they want to boast to their friends about how much money they have.
You, me and Snail, we'll go on a wife tour of the US, Eastern Europe and South America. That's where the good women are.
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penguingal
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Are they seriously like that over there? A gal I know went there to pursue her education and ended up with a great job and a nice christian guy. My aunt migrated there and she said it's a great place to work and retire. Honestly, I have this great image of australia and the life there
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Blueberry
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Oh I am so affronted now
let me just get started on aussie men....Hmmm....beer, footy, tank tops, caps, grr....and the list could go on and on, but then I would be generalising
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Jennifleur
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Don't you know it.
Seriously, there are women here like that. But in all honesty, I could care less about a career, or power, or status. I just want to follow God, wherever He leads. I've always felt drawn to having a family, but most importantly, I want God's will for my life. As for feminism, I think it has done serious damage. I'm all for fair treatment of women, and an understanding that we are intelligent and capable, and have something of worth to offer this world. But I also think that the differences between men and women should be understood and respected. I'm not a fan of the results of feminism - in fact, I think women get less respect now than they did before. I miss chivalry.
As for what I am looking for, of course, most importantly, is a man that is running after God will all that is in him. If God isn't first place in the guy's life, I don't know that I could trust him to treat me the way men are supposed to treat their wives (just as, in the same way, a woman will probably have a hard time submitting to her husband as the head of the household, if Christ isn't first in her life). Beyond that, there really is no checklist of qualities I look for. I will probably not feel any sort of connection if they are not on a similar level as I am when it comes to maturity (generally speaking, as well as spiritual maturity). The "living at home" issue isn't really a big deal for me, as I live at home as well. There are many reasons a person may choose to continue living at home until they marry. If the person is avoiding personal responsibility, I would assume that much would be evident as you began getting to know the person; I'm sure it would come up that they have no job, and that they sit in their parents' basement and play video games all day (just one example; I'm generalizing here). We would have to have some things in common, or else we'd probably have a rough time trying to think of things to even talk about - there has to be a connection on some level.
But, after following Christ with all of his heart, I would want someone who could be my best friend. The best relationships I've seen are where the couples are best friends. I've heard them all tell me this as well - that friendship is important. There will be times where that romantic "in love" feeling doesn't seem so strong, or you fight and aren't too happy with each other. But that bond of friendship, if you make it strong enough, is what will get you through the hard times. Like I said, no major checklist, just a few very important qualities.
Oh I am so affronted now
let me just get started on aussie men....Hmmm....beer, footy, tank tops, caps, grr....and the list could go on and on, but then I would be generalising
yep, most of them are like that. nothing wrong with a bit of generalising!
Don't you know it.
Seriously, there are women here like that. But in all honesty, I could care less about a career, or power, or status. I just want to follow God, wherever He leads. I've always felt drawn to having a family, but most importantly, I want God's will for my life. As for feminism, I think it has done serious damage. I'm all for fair treatment of women, and an understanding that we are intelligent and capable, and have something of worth to offer this world. But I also think that the differences between men and women should be understood and respected. I'm not a fan of the results of feminism - in fact, I think women get less respect now than they did before. I miss chivalry.
As for what I am looking for, of course, most importantly, is a man that is running after God will all that is in him. If God isn't first place in the guy's life, I don't know that I could trust him to treat me the way men are supposed to treat their wives (just as, in the same way, a woman will probably have a hard time submitting to her husband as the head of the household, if Christ isn't first in her life). Beyond that, there really is no checklist of qualities I look for. I will probably not feel any sort of connection if they are not on a similar level as I am when it comes to maturity (generally speaking, as well as spiritual maturity). The "living at home" issue isn't really a big deal for me, as I live at home as well. There are many reasons a person may choose to continue living at home until they marry. If the person is avoiding personal responsibility, I would assume that much would be evident as you began getting to know the person; I'm sure it would come up that they have no job, and that they sit in their parents' basement and play video games all day (just one example; I'm generalizing here). We would have to have some things in common, or else we'd probably have a rough time trying to think of things to even talk about - there has to be a connection on some level.
But, after following Christ with all of his heart, I would want someone who could be my best friend. The best relationships I've seen are where the couples are best friends. I've heard them all tell me this as well - that friendship is important. There will be times where that romantic "in love" feeling doesn't seem so strong, or you fight and aren't too happy with each other. But that bond of friendship, if you make it strong enough, is what will get you through the hard times. Like I said, no major checklist, just a few very important qualities.
You definitely sound like you have your priorities in the right order!
Australia welcomes you.
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Jennifleur
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Hmm, I've never been to Australia before... 
As for my priorities, thank you, though it is only because of God's grace that I have anything in proper order in my life. I'm definitely still a work in progress.
As for my priorities, thank you, though it is only because of God's grace that I have anything in proper order in my life. I'm definitely still a work in progress.
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supersuper
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The problem is that women fall for the guy with the confidence and that often is the guy who loves himself more than anything else. They fancy themselves over others. Its no wonder they fall for the ones who treat them bad and take them for granted. The guys with pure hearts and wish to treat a woman with love are usually the ones who come across as the shy loner type and that is not attractive to most women. Its really a catch 22 because when a guy learns to be confident he also learns to love himself..
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Blueberry
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Aww Zero, remember its the heart of a man that counts the most! When a heart is pure gold refined by the Lord, then I believe a woman will be attracted to that. Every person has something to offer to another person out there. Give me a man anyday that is loyal, genuine, has depth and warmth over some egotistical dropkick any day.
I think your conundrum works both ways too ...women can be overlooked for the more confident and attractive ones too.