A smile is attractive.
For most of us, it is difficult to feel pretty, but regardless of how one feels, dresses, or the body shape we have, an attractive person can be anyone who walks with confidence and can carry their smile. There’s actually some reasoning behind this too… Other humans aren't just attracted to style, they are attracted to personality and companionship. When they see someone who has confidence and personality, they subconsciously perceive that person could be a good companion, friend, someone to converse with, a potential spouse, etc, and then they are drawn to the attractiveness of companionship
(not necessarily romantic stuff) with an interest to interact. New relationships can occur or good things with current relationships can spark. So long as someone can present themselves to be a friend, then they are attractive in the light of companionship. You might not be looking for companionship, but you would be attractive to anyone who would enjoy your personality.
Also, no mater what a smile looks like everyone is beautiful when they smile. So I hope you can find your smile, because that would be the most beautiful part of any outfit you wear.
Christian Perspective
I don't know what your beliefs are, but if you believe that God loves you, you could try dressing with a mindset of wanting to Honor God, as Honor is a way humans can demonstrate love back to God.
How to know what would honor God? Try reading The Bible and learning about what God likes, what pleases Him or displeases Him. Focus not on just an image for yourself or the approval/attention of other humans, but bring God into what you see in the mirror and reflect on your inner heart, and pray for healthy relationships.
I mention relationships because relationships are why we exist, and they can play a big role in how we want to present ourselves. If we seek for our relationship with God to be the most important, God will enlighten us of goodness and all other necessities will be blessed to us. Love God first and He will bless you with guidance, or prompt you with ideas, you will find good ways to dress or wear your hair, and He will give you peace of being content.
However, it can be difficult to accept what God wants, because what is considered “good” from God’s perspective, isn’t usually the same as what humans would consider “good” or “good looking” from their perspectives. 1 Timothy 2:9-10
(hairstyle isn't the point of the verse, the meaning of it is outwardly appearances aren't more important than being a hard working respectful person)
Christians can still enjoy fashion, hair colors, styles, but appearances simply aren’t supposed to be the focus or priority of where we put our time and worries. Of course we still do, and still will, but the bible says it's not necessary. This verse Matthew 6:25-33 speaks of general needs, but God can provide clothes where even the details are cared about.
And yet, to dress ourselves in ways that would have us be presentable or modest, are still areas of thinking about fashion, and anything we do for God’s sake can be considered good. 1 Corinthians 10:31
If we know we want to dress with God in mind, we can explore and let our creativity flow while trying to have fun with fashion styles that would be cool but still be inclusive of our relationship with God. It can feel good when we have done something for God's sake, or feel He was part of what's been provided to us.
In general, it is understandable that coming up with God-based styles isn't easy. It's part of our nature that what God wants and what people want are different, which can make planning our outfits a challenge. Here are common examples of humans vs God, that other Christians tend to reference…
- Sometimes, a woman's body or style of clothes can unintentionally cause men to stumble in the sin of lust, HOWEVER when a woman has self-awareness and awareness of others, and chooses to dress mindfully, those
considerate choices are pleasing to God.
- The world wants us to dress for ourselves; it trains us that everything is all about what we want or what we like. Or, to an extreme the world advertises that human bodies are for sexual parties. But God says to us and church communities…. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20.
When humans want to come back into God’s Will, He recognizes such a heart and gives them His own Spirit to join them into His family. But, once we have His Spirit, Christians and their days aren’t really for themselves anymore. Life is no longer about only us and figuring out who we want to be, or figuring out what identity we want to create for ourselves, there is a change in that we need to figure out what our identity for fulfilling God’s Will is supposed to be. To Fulfill God’s Will becomes our new purpose and identity. The path can be difficult, but very rewarding when we manage to overcome the difficulties. And, God hears the prays of those who are His children, which can be comforting and we are blessed with enjoyments. Matthew 7:9-11
If you put together an outfit with God in mind and feel you have received a gift from God, reflect on knowing your relationship with God is real, he sees you as a person, and cherishes you. If there's ever a moment where you feel connected to God's love, give Him a smile.
I've splashed some bible verses about involving God, but maybe you want a different direction of help. So here are health thoughts to consider and ponder on….
Looking to improve your image? A New Health Journey could be an answer.
For as much as there is the saying of, "Look-good, Feel-good", there is also a reality of "Feeling good, feels great, and when we feel great, we look great."
If there is something about us that isn't healthy, it can reflect in the mirror, and then no matter how much we want to look good, the underlying issue is that being un-healthy simply does look unhealthy, and that can cause us to feel unattractive. There is a deeper knowledge to what true good health actually is, most people don't have such an awareness, but the more we learn, the more our thoughts might take action on healthy topics. When we focus on trying to be healthier, a side-affect is that feeling better can help us look better.
Some Christians pursue health for comfort, while others carry the bible verses that tell us our bodies are to be treated as a Temple for God’s Holy Spirit, and they want to improve their temple out of Devotion, Honor, and Respect for God’s Spirit. A verse that can give guidance on what a healthy diet for Christians could look like, can be found in Daniel 1:12-15.
If you want to go deeper about over-all body health though, a starting point wouldn't be to just have a weight you like, it would be to gain understand of what a full body health journey really includes. Health journeys aren't easy, they are life changing, but can be incredibly difficult.
From personal knowledge and experiences, I would encourage you to search around on youtube about….
- The importance of sleep.
- Spinal nerves and pinched nerves.
(the nerve system can affect feel great, look great)
- Muscle shaping of lean muscles and abs, but with exercises that won’t be bad for the spine.
- The importance of Organic Foods and potential warnings of chemicals and pesticides
(some cause neural damage, and a body can suffer at a microscopic level).
- Learn about vegetable juicing to revitalize your body and glow.
- Unhealthy cookware is a topic, but not sure if there are healthier cookware options anymore.
None of these things might be of your initial interest, but to be healthy is worth the effort, and the learning experiences can be very enlightening. To become aware of how to be healthy and be provided with opportunities to become healthier, are blessings greater than almost anything else. Because for many people, there is nothing more important than having the comfort of good health and being part of a family, both of which can come from God.
The ideas I have shared might be unique, so take what you want or leave what you don't, but I hope you can find some solutions to feel better.
