I've fallen again..and I'm worried I can't get back up..

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Hey guys...I just need some advice..encouragement I guess. I am one of the biggest boy crazy hopeless romantics in the world. And I know it's not good, because I put this before God, who should be Lord of my life, lover of my soul. But I watch the chick flicks...I listen to the music..and just wish that was me. If you asked me what my number one goal in life is right now, If I were honest with myself, it isn't my career, or being the best person I can be. It's finding that true love, getting engaged, and married. There is nothing wrong with wanting that, but it is really what I want, all I care about sometimes. Because of this, I get hurt alot. I put myself out there...give every one my all because I feel like its the only way I guess. I love being that friend, being there. I have my little crushes, and the littlest thing makes me think that they are interested, and then I am let down again. I know that sounds soo high school, but its just who I am. My emotions are so out of control, the littlest thing eithier makes or breaks my day.

I get upset, I say I wanna pray to God, make my life His, but then the cycle just continues. I see a cute guy, I talk to them..and it all just starts again.
How do I make God Lord of my life and still save the hopeless romantic inside of me.
I get lonely, ok? I sit in my bed wishing someone would be holding me...and then the lust starts.

Please help me guys..thanks and God Bless
-gm
 
I used to go through this a lot and I have had someone who had this to a reallly huge point. The thing is with it, your putting that before God.
It is a addiction so to say. Sometimes people put money, drugs, games, sports or anything like that instead of God. What is the solution?
First of all know that the obsession is Sin when it goes to far. You are addicted to having that feeling from guys. A lot of people have this but just won't admit it. 2nd know that this is caused by something most of the time. Everything like this has its origin in our heart. Why do you need someone there? Why do you need to have this feeling? When you find out why then you need to fight it.
You can get back up. everyone falls but the difference between you and someone else is if you GET BACK UP.
There is a lot of questions and such to be asked but the main ones are
1. Do you know a unhealthy obsession with anything is a sin?
2. When did this start?
3. Why do you need this?
4. What problems does this solve when you get what you want? and which ones start?
5. Does this draw your closer to God?
6. How will you fight it?
The thing is when people seek relationships they want that person to do Gods Job.
I dated someone with this mindset and they were never satisfied with me no matter what I did, but why? Because I am not God.
When someone looks for God in a significant other every relationship will fail.
Look for God in God! The security that you want in that guy look for it in God.
Also eliminate all your day dreaming and thinking about the future. these will give you instant results.
thats what I found to help others struggling with this
 
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No matter how many guys you date or want to date you can never find love. GOD IS LOVE AND LOVE IS GOD. The only reason you have that feeling to love someone is because God is alive and he is Love. So go to the main source. Read the bible. 1 Corinthian chapter 13 talk about Love.
Hebrews 13:5 ESV / 6 helpful votes

Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

Philippians 4:6 ESV / 6 helpful votes

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.

1 Corinthians 13:4-13 ESV / 103 helpful votes

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. ...

LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO WAIT. GOD IS LOOKING AT YOOU RIGHT NOW. JUST WAITING FOR you to ask him. And he will send he angels. ASK HIM TO SHOW YOU HIS LOVE. BELIEVE HIM AND HE WILL BE HAPPY TO SHOW YOU HIS LOVE..
 
glfjb said:
Hey guys...I just need some advice..encouragement I guess. I am one of the biggest boy crazy hopeless romantics in the world. And I know it's not good, because I put this before God, who should be Lord of my life, lover of my soul. But I watch the chick flicks...I listen to the music..and just wish that was me. If you asked me what my number one goal in life is right now, If I were honest with myself, it isn't my career, or being the best person I can be. It's finding that true love, getting engaged, and married. There is nothing wrong with wanting that, but it is really what I want, all I care about sometimes. Because of this, I get hurt alot. I put myself out there...give every one my all because I feel like its the only way I guess. I love being that friend, being there. I have my little crushes, and the littlest thing makes me think that they are interested, and then I am let down again. I know that sounds soo high school, but its just who I am. My emotions are so out of control, the littlest thing eithier makes or breaks my day.

I get upset, I say I wanna pray to God, make my life His, but then the cycle just continues. I see a cute guy, I talk to them..and it all just starts again.
How do I make God Lord of my life and still save the hopeless romantic inside of me.
I get lonely, ok? I sit in my bed wishing someone would be holding me...and then the lust starts.

Please help me guys..thanks and God Bless
-gm
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awwwwwwwww its ok! Its a natrual urg to feel loved and wanted. Even to be boy crazy sometimes i do it too. The thing that helps though is to pray to god about it, and to weight the consiqunces of sin. What would you regret losing more god or a love interst? God is my answer so everytime i get an urg to date someone who isnt in the truth or have sex i pray and read the bible. It helps alot, and dont worry about finding love. I know its hard, and these words add salt to the cut, but it willhappen you just need to wait. Plus the bible says that when we fill our spiritual needs, god will fill the rest! I love you and god does a million times more so dont fret!
 
luckyduck said:
No matter how many guys you date or want to date you can never find love. GOD IS LOVE AND LOVE IS GOD. The only reason you have that feeling to love someone is because God is alive and he is Love. So go to the main source. Read the bible. 1 Corinthian chapter 13 talk about Love.
Hebrews 13:5 ESV / 6 helpful votes

Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said,
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Search yourself for the fruits of the Spirit. Galatians 5
 
I love what xJoe has said...if you're expecting to find satisfaction with anyone, in any relationship, you have a false perception of things--there is no true joy to be found anywhere outside of God!! Ask Him for the desire to want to love Him, and be sincere. For a while I wanted to want to live for God, if you know what I mean, but I didn't truly have the desire, and so no fruit was coming forth. Will be praying for you!!
 
Jesus Loves you more than anyone that you see can. Let Him wrap you in His arms and you will experience a Peace that will pass your understanding. You gotta do something different to get different results. If you keep doing what you are doing you are gonna get what you always got! Fall in Love with Jesus. You must consider yourself dead to your emotions, feelings and flesh and alive to God. So now you must put on the new life God has for you, you have no obligation to live according to the lust of your flesh. If you sow to the flesh, you will reap death and corruption. But if you sow to the Spirit you will reap Life and Peace.
 
glfjb said:
Hey guys...I just need some advice..encouragement I guess. I am one of the biggest boy crazy hopeless romantics in the world. And I know it's not good, because I put this before God, who should be Lord of my life, lover of my soul. But I watch the chick flicks...I listen to the music..and just wish that was me. If you asked me what my number one goal in life is right now, If I were honest with myself, it isn't my career, or being the best person I can be. It's finding that true love, getting engaged, and married. There is nothing wrong with wanting that, but it is really what I want, all I care about sometimes. Because of this, I get hurt alot. I put myself out there...give every one my all because I feel like its the only way I guess. I love being that friend, being there. I have my little crushes, and the littlest thing makes me think that they are interested, and then I am let down again. I know that sounds soo high school, but its just who I am. My emotions are so out of control, the littlest thing eithier makes or breaks my day.

I get upset, I say I wanna pray to God, make my life His, but then the cycle just continues. I see a cute guy, I talk to them..and it all just starts again.
How do I make God Lord of my life and still save the hopeless romantic inside of me.
I get lonely, ok? I sit in my bed wishing someone would be holding me...and then the lust starts.

Please help me guys..thanks and God Bless
-gm
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There's really nothing wrong with what you're doing or what you're feeling and intentions are. You're doing more things right than others who are too afraid to approach or date someone, and better than those who let past hurts stop them from trying. You're actually making progress towards your goal of finding the man you want to marry.

"Keep on seeking, and you will find."
Matthew 7:7 NLT
 
former crack slave NOW saved knows you MUST marry Christ fall in lov ewith Him a mothers love to her chil or two brothers love is of heaven and knows God . The "searching"we will hear the vioces of anti-jesus the Go ahead! Hands OFF ourselves, walking aroung traps of antichrist because oOur Lord DIED for uswhen thats real Him being alive in your heart like departed loved but unlike a departed loved one in our hearts Jesus is the Son of God and now LIVES so we do not only look forward to seeing Him in heaven He is ALIVE in your heart through BELIEVING its fact FIND OUT and so it is-FACT! Love Struggling
 
Try to find more fellowship in community. Community makes us confront reality that other people have needs that we mite be equipped to fill and calls us to action.

Anyone that has a healthy marriage knows its the hardest work you ever have to do. If people saw the truth that marriage is closer to running a 10k then they would be less obsessive about crossing the finish line and start training to deal with the intense pain (self-sacrifice) that will make you want to give up once the new experience buzz wears off.
 
I know it seems cliche for me to say that I know what your going through but I do. One of the things that really helped me is that in the Bible it says that Jesus is our Bridegroom and we are married to him. I don't know if that helps you at all but it worked for me.
 
Sister, God is waiting for you to truly submit your entire will to Him. You see, if we try to do things our way we will end up hurt. First you must know what to look for in a Guy. Yes there are many Good looking guys out there and yes people get lonely and look for ways to fix that, BUT you must know that not all Good Looking Guys are for you, In fact there is one for you, as cliche as it sounds. You must wait on God and pray to Him to reveal to you who this person is, and the key to finding this person will be that the guy will love God more than he loves you, and he will slow you down when you try to speed things up. You will live in joy and peace the day that you realize that God has plans for good for you, he wants to truly bless you. But first you must walk with him seeking to be a doer of his word. So finally, my best advice as a person who's experienced this is to put God first, really. There is no other solution.

P.S. Chick flicks and romantic music is an instrument of the devil, for a relationship shouldn't be based on feelings but rather Values. Feeling are deceiving, but God doesn't deceive so if you have ANY relationship ie.friends, brothers,sisters,even boyfriend. let Christ be the center of your relationships and you will truly be blessed.

God bless you!
 
Really" I guess her name is Carly sid it simplt beuatifully and sincerely Jesus is your Bridegroom and reaaly does wait in the clouds about this time to Call you UP to Himself ABOUT this time and no one knows the day or hour He has been married to His True church(you) for ,well:since He Left To return To Heaven to Prepare an eternal HOME for you All of this He did for you being crucified, going back home, to prepare that home for us for you for we who belive these things (doctrine/gospel)believing IN Him FOR these things bellieve we will have all that cause of what He has done of Love the Love of Gos in the Perfection of His Son Our Bridegroom and yes believing He laid down His Life for you and has returned to heaven believing ONLY in Him for your Salvation is enough and all for your place with Him there a place that He needs to know is HIM in your HEART and what He did/does/planfor you NOT like many boys or philosiphies But a Bridegroom and Lovestory written by our Creator ! There ;the gospel milk and meat An ex male prostitute now Bride or part of The Bride as His Word REALLY eachas though never churches im afraid I Love You in Chist and Thank YOU For the Opportunity to Share About The One We Love Who are Married to Christ and INVITE YOU and all because of Christ of course and CArly too!
 
It is a struggle to put God 1st than our flesh. But he will be with you and train you. Keep praying and don't give up!

"In his heart a man plans his course,
but the LORD determines his steps." Proverbs 16:9
 
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