Ladies: what "guy skills" make him more attractive to you?

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rkmonkey said:
You could ask him if he likes to massage a woman's feet?

After reading this topic, I'm almost wondering if I'm better off keeping my distance from girls... haha. You all seem to have some strange desires. This conversation thing in particular has me confused. I'm a really shy guy, and I tend to be much better at listening rather than talking. I tend to ask too many questions actually because I just love to learn about new people. It gets to the point sometimes where it will essentially be me asking someone questions, them answering, me asking new questions... not really a real conversation. More like an interview.
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but at least you have something to talk about. and if they feel like they're being interrogated then they can ask you questions. but if you dont ask questions, you'll never find anything in common, or get to know each other so that you have something to talk abt later....

listening is good quality. there is nothing wrong with that. you can listen and still be able to have a convo. i think that the main complaint here is when someone comes up and doesnt have anything to talk abt, reference, comment on, or ask abt... it happened to me and my friend last night actually. a guy came up and was like, "hey, how are you?" "good/fine. you?" "good" and he just stood there looking at us expectantly. so we asked a few questions so trry to talk to him, but he barely even answered them, and he got kinda mad that we didnt already know the answers and didnt have anything else to talk abt... it was really awkward... ... thats what we like to avoid
 
rkmonkey said:
You could ask him if he likes to massage a woman's feet?
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Ahaha.

After reading this topic, I'm almost wondering if I'm better off keeping my distance from girls... haha. You all seem to have some strange desires. This conversation thing in particular has me confused. I'm a really shy guy, and I tend to be much better at listening rather than talking. I tend to ask too many questions actually because I just love to learn about new people. It gets to the point sometimes where it will essentially be me asking someone questions, them answering, me asking new questions... not really a real conversation. More like an interview.
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Questions are suitable. I start to feel self-centered after a while, though, when I keep on answering a plethora of questions about myself. At that point, I start redirecting the questions at the person asking them.
 
lil-rush said:
Questions are suitable. I start to feel self-centered after a while, though, when I keep on answering a plethora of questions about myself. At that point, I start redirecting the questions at the person asking them.
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See, that's cool too. I don't mind sharing about myself. I guess my reasons for asking questions are usually actually pretty selfish in nature though. I ask them for me. haha. As I said, I like getting to know a new person a lot. I also tend to remember pretty much everything everyone says to me, which can cause some awkwardness sometimes when I know a ton of information about someone that they don't remember telling me a year or more prior (yes, my memory really is that good when it comes to such things). I try to play it off to the best of my ability so I don't seem too weird about it though x-x
 
lil-rush said:
lol. I hardly want a planned out conversation. I just don't understand why someone would approach me, and then expect me to come up with a point of discussion.

When I'm around people I don't hang out with, I'm not sure what to talk to them about, unless I see a point of interest. For example, if a guy approached me wearing a football shirt I could at least fall back on that if he couldn't find something to say. "So you like [insert team name here]? I'm a Vikings fan myself." If a personally just randomly approaches me, what am I suppose to do?

"Hey." "Hi." "I'm Bob, nice to meet you." "Hi Bob. I'm Hollie." "Just wanted to say hi." "...okay?" Really? What am I supposed to add to that conversation?
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You just gotta be creative :) This is easy!

Let's say you came up to me like that. "Hi, I'm miss Bobette"
I would laugh, then say "Hello, Bobbette, what an interesting name!"
You would say "Thank you, what's yours?"
I would say "My name is Chris, but it doesn't seem to have the same ring as Bobette. I'm quite jealous actually. My parents really must have hated me. Yours is beautiful, while mine is just plain! Your name is so feminine! You must have had very loving parents! Did you ever ask them how they came up with such a gorgeous name?"
You of course would explain the story of how you were born a hermaphrodite at one time, but of course your parents decided you were actually a woman. To commemorate this glorious occasion, they decided to mix their two favorite male/female names together... Bob and Lanette!
This would of course spark up such an interesting conversation that I would become very nervous, and puke in my mouth. You would laugh gleefully of course, seeing as I was very shy around you. As I slowly backed away, you would go in for the kiss. My wonderful puke breath would make you giggle, and you would ask for my number. The end.


Or, I could pretend I'm you. "Hey" "Hi" "I'm Bob, nice to meet you" "Hi Bob. I'm Hollie!" "Just wanted to say hi!" now is your turn to have fun!

You could say: "Hello Bob, so what else did you have to say beyond hi? I find that a great conversation piece, but alas, I am seeming to be having a mind blank at the very moment. Care to think of a topic?"

He would of course say "Uhhhhhhhhhhh" and you would smile at his shyness. He would reply "I think you are really pretty Holly!" You would thank him of course, and then compliment on his... wonderful grammar skills. The conversation would then bloom into very interesting topics from a man with a name such as Bob, such as his collection of golf clubs, power tools, flannel shirts, and how fast he can grow a beard.

Or, we can go the normal route:

I approach you.

Chris: "Hi"
Holly: "Hey"
Chris: "I'm Chris, nice to meet you"
Holly" "Hi Bob. I'm holly"
Chris: "Hi Holly. I just wanted to say hi, but my name is actually Chris!"
Holly: "Oh, well... hello Bob... I mean Chris!"
Chris: "Seeing as this conversation has taken a bad turn, I'd like to start over. My name is Chris, and your name is Holly. Nice to meet you Holly! Can I buy you a drink and entertain you with my wonderfully good looks?"
Holly: "No you may not Bob. I do not believe in alcoholic drinking, and I find you to be somewhat average on the beauty scale"
Chris: "Fair enough. Bartender! 5 shots of tequila please"
Holly: "I thought I told you I didn't drink?"
Chris: "Oh, these aren't for you hun." *Drinks shot after shot*
Chris: "Hey there good lookin, I haven't noticed you before. My names bob, nice to meet you!"
Holly: "Hi bob, my names Holly"
Chris: "Hello Holly. Just wanted to say hi"
Holly: "Hello bob"
Chris: "Uhhhhhhhhhhhh"


See? Easy :)
 
DABEARS85 said:
You just gotta be creative :) This is easy!

Let's say you came up to me like that. "Hi, I'm miss Bobette"
I would laugh, then say "Hello, Bobbette, what an interesting name!"
You would say "Thank you, what's yours?"
I would say "My name is Chris, but it doesn't seem to have the same ring as Bobette. I'm quite jealous actually. My parents really must have hated me. Yours is beautiful, while mine is just plain! Your name is so feminine! You must have had very loving parents! Did you ever ask them how they came up with such a gorgeous name?"
You of course would explain the story of how you were born a hermaphrodite at one time, but of course your parents decided you were actually a woman. To commemorate this glorious occasion, they decided to mix their two favorite male/female names together... Bob and Lanette!
This would of course spark up such an interesting conversation that I would become very nervous, and puke in my mouth. You would laugh gleefully of course, seeing as I was very shy around you. As I slowly backed away, you would go in for the kiss. My wonderful puke breath would make you giggle, and you would ask for my number. The end.
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lol I don't know what kind of girls you've been hanging out with that would laugh at someone puking, or try to kiss someone that just threw up. That's gross, bro.


Or, I could pretend I'm you. "Hey" "Hi" "I'm Bob, nice to meet you" "Hi Bob. I'm Hollie!" "Just wanted to say hi!" now is your turn to have fun!

You could say: "Hello Bob, so what else did you have to say beyond hi? I find that a great conversation piece, but alas, I am seeming to be having a mind blank at the very moment. Care to think of a topic?"

He would of course say "Uhhhhhhhhhhh" and you would smile at his shyness. He would reply "I think you are really pretty Holly!" You would thank him of course, and then compliment on his... wonderful grammar skills. The conversation would then bloom into very interesting topics from a man with a name such as Bob, such as his collection of golf clubs, power tools, flannel shirts, and how fast he can grow a beard.
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I need to meet this Bob.

Or, we can go the normal route:

I approach you.

Chris: "Hi"
Holly: "Hey"
Chris: "I'm Chris, nice to meet you"
Holly" "Hi Bob. I'm holly"
Chris: "Hi Holly. I just wanted to say hi, but my name is actually Chris!"
Holly: "Oh, well... hello Bob... I mean Chris!"
Chris: "Seeing as this conversation has taken a bad turn, I'd like to start over. My name is Chris, and your name is Holly. Nice to meet you Holly! Can I buy you a drink and entertain you with my wonderfully good looks?"
Holly: "No you may not Bob. I do not believe in alcoholic drinking, and I find you to be somewhat average on the beauty scale"
Chris: "Fair enough. Bartender! 5 shots of tequila please"
Holly: "I thought I told you I didn't drink?"
Chris: "Oh, these aren't for you hun." *Drinks shot after shot*
Chris: "Hey there good lookin, I haven't noticed you before. My names bob, nice to meet you!"
Holly: "Hi bob, my names Holly"
Chris: "Hello Holly. Just wanted to say hi"
Holly: "Hello bob"
Chris: "Uhhhhhhhhhhhh"
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or

Hollie: I realize we're talking, so I can't actually see how your brain is spelling my name, but I have a feeling it is misspelling it. It's H-O-L-L-I-E, because names that end in I-E are always cooler than names that end in Y.

Your conversations remind me of cleverbot conversations.


See? Easy :)
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uhm, sure. lol
 
rkmonkey said:
See, that's cool too. I don't mind sharing about myself. I guess my reasons for asking questions are usually actually pretty selfish in nature though. I ask them for me. haha. As I said, I like getting to know a new person a lot. I also tend to remember pretty much everything everyone says to me, which can cause some awkwardness sometimes when I know a ton of information about someone that they don't remember telling me a year or more prior (yes, my memory really is that good when it comes to such things). I try to play it off to the best of my ability so I don't seem too weird about it though x-x
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*note to self* never meet rkmonkey, he will make my poor memory feel bad. ;)

I'm the type of person that forgets a person's name 30 seconds after they tell me. It's pretty bad.
 
lil-rush said:
lol I don't know what kind of girls you've been hanging out with that would laugh at someone puking, or try to kiss someone that just threw up. That's gross, bro.
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Only the best kind: Hermaphrodite women named Bobette




lil-rush said:
I need to meet this Bob.
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When I meet him, I'll send him your way!



lil-rush said:
or

Hollie: I realize we're talking, so I can't actually see how your brain is spelling my name, but I have a feeling it is misspelling it. It's H-O-L-L-I-E, because names that end in I-E are always cooler than names that end in Y.

Your conversations remind me of cleverbot conversations.
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This works too! See, now you're getting the hang of it!




lil-rush said:
uhm, sure. lol
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Glad you agree :) Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

:D
 
I dont like feet either, i pray i dont fall inlove with a man who wants his feet rubbed after work.

Skills... Musicians always seem to catch my attention. it's not a must of course.. but it sure catches my attention, especially if they play the guitar.
 
I like when you run into a problem in a friendship or relationshiip and instead of the guy trying to fix it... or not fix it at all... he'll take the time to say "hey this is something WE need to fix... how shall we go about it?" it's nice to be brought into the problem-solving and it's nice that he knows there's a problem.

I like when he makes his passions known... be they football, fishing, building things, etc.

I like when the person is future-minded... they know what they want in the future and they show obvious ways that they are working toward that goal.

and lotsa other stuff.. haha

i dont know if this is even what the starter of this thread was looking for.. i guess only the first one was a skill?
 
I like a guy who knows as much or more about sports, outdoorsy stuff, cars, and fixing stuff than I do. Otherwise, playing a guitar and singing would be great!
 
Christianrkchk89 said:
I like when you run into a problem in a friendship or relationshiip and instead of the guy trying to fix it... or not fix it at all... he'll take the time to say "hey this is something WE need to fix... how shall we go about it?" it's nice to be brought into the problem-solving and it's nice that he knows there's a problem.

I like when he makes his passions known... be they football, fishing, building things, etc.

I like when the person is future-minded... they know what they want in the future and they show obvious ways that they are working toward that goal.

and lotsa other stuff.. haha

i dont know if this is even what the starter of this thread was looking for.. i guess only the first one was a skill?
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Yes thats the type of answers Im looking for. Thank you...and thanks to all who answered! There are some great answers here. In that one post I was really just addressing the person who said they didnt understand the question.
 
Mulehide said:
I like a guy who knows as much or more about sports, outdoorsy stuff, cars, and fixing stuff than I do. Otherwise, playing a guitar and singing would be great!
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You answer reminds me of that old 70's song that goes "Dont know much about history, don't know much of biology, dont kow much about a science book, dont know much about the French I took..but I do know that I love you, and I know that if you love me too what a wonderful world this would be"
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
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umm... eww. thats a bit over doing it. muscular, strong, in shape - yes. ... body builder, abt the burts at the seams with muscle, veins popping out cuz there's no room for them in ur skin - no. i think its gross. lol
 
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