Leaving Things Behind...

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hello guys, this is my first post here. I am in a complicated situation that I am in. which it made me lose friends & my church, i'll try and make it short. it's confusing I don't understand it myself, but I feel I've been set-up. but, on june 29th 2012, I received a threat from my best friends son (who is 16) on facebook. allen (16) said if I didn't leave them alone they was gonna charge with me harassment. this did get me mad, I copied and pasted it to the dad. they were thinking I was the one that tried to get allen in trouble. the thing is I haven't done a thing or bothered no one before this. I mind my own business. I try and ask about it, they refuse to tell me, they get real hateful with me. I did say allen had better not had done that himself, or I would've asked him about it. about 3 weeks later, I get emails saying from his mom that she's gone to judge to file charges on me for harassment. now, I am all confused here, I can't believe what is going on. I even asked them that, what is up with you guys, no one will talk to me. I was even called mental and needed professional. they are so curtained I need it. they voted to kick me out of everyone's friendship behind my back. I did have to get counseling done at my parent's church. that's what my friends. but, I did go to church with the my friends ex-wife & her hubby. cause they introduced me to it. I loved that church. now, the thing is I don't know what I have done to these people. like I said, I mind my own business. 9 months later, still don't have a clue. I had to ask my pastor that I had to cut ties with them about a month ago. now, I just decided I can't get thru to no one, just decided to cut ties with everyone. everyone is so certain that I am mental and a abuser. I know it's a confusing situation. I hard for me to talk to anyone. decided to cut ties. been friend with these guys for 6 years, never had a problem like this. I've never been treated like this. my oldest friend's dad is a preacher, never did come and help out. wondering if I did the right thing of cutting ties? cause they are so certain that I am just one terrible person cause I got mad about the email. I even told them they started this mess with me. it is confusing situation. I finally had enough, cut ties with them. I told them they was a bunch of religious lyers. cause they are in this situation. but, what do you think? did I do the right thing? [email protected] I feel I was set-up.
 
You had no choice but to cut ties. Have you done anything to merit a charge of harrassment? If not, let them charge you. When they make fools of themselves in court, afterwards you can sue for malicious prosecution. Usually, though, it doesn't come to that. They get an attorney who gets a court order that you have to cut ties (which you will have already done), and nothing further happens. The attorney will likely talk to you about what their complaint is, and usually, if you are right when you tell your side, he and they back down and it does not come to court.

I get a lot of this kind of treatment. It usually comes from talking about God in churches that prefer tradition. No one's threatened legal action yet.
 
hi kenisyes. no have not done anything to them before the boy sent that email on june 29th. it was finally until December I sent my report to Tennessee Department of Childrens Services cause I felt it needed to be reported. I never did hear anything from it, I think the truth did come out. I try to tell my "friends" I have done nothing, all I did was say one little slip about allen, I did apologize for it. I'm just boiling mad over this. if there not gonna tell me anything, why be friends with them. I would be more than happy to talk to there laywer/attorney. I told them in my email I didn't want a bunch lying religious people. but, I just feel this was a deliberate set-up, I would be happy to do a lie detector test. I even told them, if you wanna threaten me with something, don't hide behind a 16 year old. come to me & tell me in front of my face. to them, i'm the most horrible person on the planet. oh, let me see this, the dad is bi-polar & the mom is so full of drama, it's sad. you know I love the kids, I treat them like my own brothers & sister. I told them that. but, this whole thing is in the past now, I just pray the lord will finally make them wake up. my last email I basically told them how I felt on everything on this issue.
 
also, they tried eeverything they could to get me in trouble. but, I don't know what there problem is. the 2 people I mostly blame is amy & paul. they're the ones keeping me from everything. cause they told me shortly after this happened, the was done with me (really hateful) & to stay away from the kids. that's when I decided to go into Christian counseling. I even told i'm not putting with garbage no more. also said, to them, you guys are so certain that I've gone mental and a abuser. but, they ttried everything they could. nothing worked. will see what happens,, told them I would only accept people back if they tell me the truth on this. that's all I want to know, is what did I do. so simple. they're the ones that are lying.
 
are they accusing you of sexually abusing their kids?

Or being a stalker?


I can't tell by your post, but those are two things that would cause most people to act in the manner you are describing towards you.

either way cutting ties and NOT sending anymore emails or trying to make contact with the family is what I would advise.

make new friends, it hurts but if their accusations are untrue then God will reveal it in His time.

forgive them and move on.
 
it was finally until December I sent my report to Tennessee Department of Childrens Services cause I felt it needed to be reported.
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what did you report to child services?

either YOU are telling the truth and you actually had a reason to report them: example they abuse their kids, etc.

or YOU filled a false report that could have gotten their children taken away from them because you got angry that Allen send you a message to leave the family alone. in that case, you need to repent and be forgiven. since the family doesn't want to deal with you, then you should pray and ask God for forgiveness.
 
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I had a reason to report them. they would do everything to lie about it & make me the bad guy. as I stated earlier the only way to get the truth out is to get a lie detector test done. guys, deep in my heart I know they are lying about this whole deal. 9 months ongoing I still don't have a clue what I've done. ariel82 I treat the kids like they were my own brothers & sisters, they're sweet kids, i'm just trying to prevent them to do harm. I would do that if I had kids. I treat people the way they want to be treated. I treat everyone with the most honest respect I can. but, if someone messes with me, as in this case, better stay away from me. all I can say, this is just all a drama show. they're trying to show power. I've been talking to god about this case.
 
you still haven't answer. what did you tell child services that they did wrong?

didn't you imply that Paul (the kids father) was your best friend at one point?

and what do you mean by "but, if someone messes with me, as in this case, better stay away from me."

why do people have to stay away from you if they mess with you?

what do you do to people if you think they are messing with you?

lie detector tests are not 100% reliable and that is not the evidence used most often by child protective services. hospital records, neighbor testimonies, etc are more often used to build a case for the remove of a child.
 
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I'm answering your pm. I came back here to the thread, to find out what it was that you reported. My experience in the MANY times I have been through this kind of thing is JUST WALK AWAY. Pray for them, forgive them, and leave them to God. I know it's hard to put it behind you, because it hurts so much. But it is the only solution.
 
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