Hey everyone,
This is a thread directed towards singles. However if you are married and have experienced going through the decision making processes of living alone, I do welcome your input.
So without going into too many details -
I am relocating to a place where I do not know anyone. Also, I have never really lived on my own before. I always had a support group and easy access for all my needs. I never really needed to fend for myself by cooking, cleaning or anything of that sort.
From conversations with people who have gone through a similar route, most of them advise living with others as roommates or any other communal situation.
Being with female roommates would be a great plus point and I spent a lot of time finding a few people who might be of a similar bent of mind.
Unfortunately, I find that I may be far too particular and conscientious with my requirements than others. Convenience and the fulfillment of my needs comes at a higher price than most people were willing to shell out for.
This leaves me with the option of living alone vs living in a house with a mixed gender possibility. I am not for the latter because of security concerns.
Or I would have to compromise on my requirements and settle down to adjust with a few people.
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I would rather live in an apartment complex with security and a close proximity to my places of interest. I am willing to even pay more for convenience and ease.
However from conversations from many people, some of whom have been living away, it has been mostly discouragement for living in a studio apartment or a 1 bedroom by myself.
The place gets really cold during winter - I expect snowfall and grey weather and it sounds very depressing. I would probably get very lonely.
All of this has really confused and troubled me. I have every intention after I land, to find a good church family that could offer me a support network and I think I would have plenty of opportunities to be social with other young people.
My only concern is that I am spending way too much money than the average person and whether I was splurging out too much on lavish accommodation living and thereby having to cut corners for other social events.
From conversations from people, those social events would involve clubbing to downtown places, eating out at restaurants and other stuff - which I am not really too excited about.
My idea of fun would be traveling to other places, even though I had visited this part of the country some time before.
My family supports my idea of living alone and they would rather I never even worried about the financial aspect of it all.
Part of me thinks this is what stepping out in faith in God would be. To trust Him that I can do this on my own and if I have the means, I should go for this option.
Part of me is really, really scared. This part just wants to say - "never mind. I quit."
I've come so far (with God's grace), that I know I don't want to do that.
This has all been very stressful and hard. It's tough to move to a completely foreign location, out of your comfort zone, without awareness of anything.
It is an adventure and it does require being brave...
I do want to hear if anyone has gone through something similar and can offer some advice or experience. If you live alone, what are the pros and cons.
If you stay with others, what are the pros and cons. What do you think would be the wise thing to do - if you moved thousands and thousands of miles away from home.
Thanks!
This is a thread directed towards singles. However if you are married and have experienced going through the decision making processes of living alone, I do welcome your input.
So without going into too many details -
I am relocating to a place where I do not know anyone. Also, I have never really lived on my own before. I always had a support group and easy access for all my needs. I never really needed to fend for myself by cooking, cleaning or anything of that sort.
From conversations with people who have gone through a similar route, most of them advise living with others as roommates or any other communal situation.
Being with female roommates would be a great plus point and I spent a lot of time finding a few people who might be of a similar bent of mind.
Unfortunately, I find that I may be far too particular and conscientious with my requirements than others. Convenience and the fulfillment of my needs comes at a higher price than most people were willing to shell out for.
This leaves me with the option of living alone vs living in a house with a mixed gender possibility. I am not for the latter because of security concerns.
Or I would have to compromise on my requirements and settle down to adjust with a few people.
*************************
I would rather live in an apartment complex with security and a close proximity to my places of interest. I am willing to even pay more for convenience and ease.
However from conversations from many people, some of whom have been living away, it has been mostly discouragement for living in a studio apartment or a 1 bedroom by myself.
The place gets really cold during winter - I expect snowfall and grey weather and it sounds very depressing. I would probably get very lonely.
All of this has really confused and troubled me. I have every intention after I land, to find a good church family that could offer me a support network and I think I would have plenty of opportunities to be social with other young people.
My only concern is that I am spending way too much money than the average person and whether I was splurging out too much on lavish accommodation living and thereby having to cut corners for other social events.
From conversations from people, those social events would involve clubbing to downtown places, eating out at restaurants and other stuff - which I am not really too excited about.
My idea of fun would be traveling to other places, even though I had visited this part of the country some time before.
My family supports my idea of living alone and they would rather I never even worried about the financial aspect of it all.
Part of me thinks this is what stepping out in faith in God would be. To trust Him that I can do this on my own and if I have the means, I should go for this option.
Part of me is really, really scared. This part just wants to say - "never mind. I quit."
I've come so far (with God's grace), that I know I don't want to do that.
This has all been very stressful and hard. It's tough to move to a completely foreign location, out of your comfort zone, without awareness of anything.
It is an adventure and it does require being brave...
I do want to hear if anyone has gone through something similar and can offer some advice or experience. If you live alone, what are the pros and cons.
If you stay with others, what are the pros and cons. What do you think would be the wise thing to do - if you moved thousands and thousands of miles away from home.
Thanks!
