looking for a guy who is a chriastian and will lov me for me not for someone else

[chel15]

im not just focused on that but im focused on my famil 2

 

[Crypto]

i knw that there are jerks out there but i just want someone who will love me for me not for someone im not and the things that i have done

Wait til you are old enough and mature enough to handle a relationship. You're 15, you have your whole life ahead of you.

 

[GentlemanBobIII]

I know how you feel. My wife cheated on me the the entire time we were married. And several gf's broke up with me because I wouldn't "put out" outside of marriage.

 

[TDWP22]

There's more to life than just dating. You should enjoy your youth and not just focus on boys. The more you keep doing it, the more you'll keep on getting hurt because real love takes time and patience to find it, it's not something you just stumble upon. I hope you're doing well and find other things to get your life busy with =).

there comes a time when you just have the necessity of a relationship with the opposite sex: so you can just talk and spent time together..and no, kissing is not a sin.

 

[TDWP22]

here comes a time when you just have the necessity of a relationship with the opposite sex: so you can just talk and spent time together..and no, kissing is not a sin.

 

[Crypto]

here comes a time when you just have the necessity of a relationship with the opposite sex: so you can just talk and spent time together..and no, kissing is not a sin.

That's what friendship is for.

 

[TDWP22]

That's what friendship is for.

you wouldnt get what im saying....friendship just isnt enough when that time comes...

 

[Ugly]

I can tell you know, you're always going to have problems dating, because you are misunderstanding the whole concept. Lets be honest, the main idea behind dating is to eventually find a future spouse. Yet marriage is all about self sacrifice & doing for the other. Anytime a person approaches marriage with a 'i just want...' attitude, its already starting off wrong. You are looking for a man to fulfill you. Accept, fulfill, whatever the wording you want to apply, bottom line is you are looking for a relationship & a person to make you feel a certain way. It is not the job of a person in a relationship/spouse, or the intent of a relationship/marriage to provide that for you. Finding the acceptance through Christ & the friendships he blesses you with is the correct way. That way, when you do get involved with someone, instead of focusing on what you can get, you can focus on what you can give. Bottom line, you will never be happy in life if you believe being in a dating relationship/marriage is the key to making you feel accepted. That is not what God intended & is counter-productive to true relationships. That is simply putting faith in man. Sure we all like to be accepted, but we have to readjust ourselves to how we get that part of us fulfilled. And its not in dating.
My suggestion, you're only 16. There is no real need to be dating at your age. Its only culture that emphasises the need to date at a young age. I'd skip dating & start focusing on your walk, your faith. Learn what it is to be a Godly spouse, to self sacrifice, & to get fulfilled & acceptance in the manner God intended. That way, once you're old enough to date for the right reasons, or not date, just wait for God to direct you, then you will be ready. Having a proper mindset, & a person of better character.

 

[mybeth]

As what they said you are still young and beautiful creation of our God. You must enjoy your life to serve God, be inlove with Him, serve Him with all your heart... For there is a perfect time for everything.. Don't look for the right one but wait, for the Lord already prepared the man who will truely love you for the rest of your life, coz whatever your heart desire God will give it to you in a perfect time.

 

[chel15]

ok i need help i just got asked out by a 25 year old what should i say

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

ok i need help i just got asked out by a 25 year old what should i say

Try this .... NO



P.S. This shouldn't even be a question. Your 16 he's 25. I can tell you this, he aint asking you out for good intentions, he probably cant get anyone his own age.

 

[Jullianna]

I tried to give you reps for this one, Nod and it wouldn't let me (cos I just did it recently haha), so I'm just gonna sit here and applaud

 

[Liamson]

Try this .... NO



P.S. This shouldn't even be a question. Your 16 he's 25. I can tell you this, he aint asking you out for good intentions, he probably cant get anyone his own age.

What in the world is he thinking? "I never got to go to Prom before."

I was 25 last year and 20 was the beginning of my radar.

I tried to give you reps for this one, Nod and it wouldn't let me (cos I just did it recently haha), so I'm just gonna sit here and applaud

Dunskis!

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

I tried to give you reps for this one, Nod and it wouldn't let me (cos I just did it recently haha), so I'm just gonna sit here and applaud

thanks for the thought though

 

[The_boy]

Yes, we males can be jerks. But not all of us are. Sadly the jerks are often better at being "the nice guy" than the real nice guys. But I would also like to state that while we men can be jerks, women are by no means innocent. I'm 23. I've had 2 girlfriends, both of which stole from me and left. I've been HARSHLY rejected more times than I can keep track of with a computer, and I'm often COMPLETELY ignored. For the life of me I don't know WHY women are so repulsed by me. Those few that DON'T treat me like absolute trash see me as nothing more than a friend and have adamantly stated that this fact will never change. I've also had the pleasure of hearing the "all guys are the same" speech so often that I can practically quote the 1000+ reasons guys are evil. (I apologize, you caught me in a state of irritation because I just recently heard aforementioned speech for the um-teenth time) And Chel I apologize that you were hurt, keep your head up, and don't give up. Just try to make sure that when a guy asks you out you watch him. If you would like an unbiased opinion of something you can ask me if you feel comfortable.

 

[Boanerges]

May I make a thread like this? could it work?

 

[chel15]

Ugly, ive been single for 2 years now and im startin to get back in church like i should ive seen my ex at places the most ive said to him is hey and wats up.......... the thing is with my ex is that he treated me as i never existed......... I have realized tht it is a lil to early to be dating i have talked to other guys...... but they have also wanted things out of me that they are not gonna get for instance this one guy wanted me to txt him a picture tht he was not gonna get and he got all pissed off about it..............

I can tell you know, you're always going to have problems dating, because you are misunderstanding the whole concept. Lets be honest, the main idea behind dating is to eventually find a future spouse. Yet marriage is all about self sacrifice & doing for the other. Anytime a person approaches marriage with a 'i just want...' attitude, its already starting off wrong. You are looking for a man to fulfill you. Accept, fulfill, whatever the wording you want to apply, bottom line is you are looking for a relationship & a person to make you feel a certain way. It is not the job of a person in a relationship/spouse, or the intent of a relationship/marriage to provide that for you. Finding the acceptance through Christ & the friendships he blesses you with is the correct way. That way, when you do get involved with someone, instead of focusing on what you can get, you can focus on what you can give. Bottom line, you will never be happy in life if you believe being in a dating relationship/marriage is the key to making you feel accepted. That is not what God intended & is counter-productive to true relationships. That is simply putting faith in man. Sure we all like to be accepted, but we have to readjust ourselves to how we get that part of us fulfilled. And its not in dating.
My suggestion, you're only 16. There is no real need to be dating at your age. Its only culture that emphasises the need to date at a young age. I'd skip dating & start focusing on your walk, your faith. Learn what it is to be a Godly spouse, to self sacrifice, & to get fulfilled & acceptance in the manner God intended. That way, once you're old enough to date for the right reasons, or not date, just wait for God to direct you, then you will be ready. Having a proper mindset, & a person of better character.

 

[chel15]

i know this is late but i did say no to him my mom and dad would have killed me

Try this .... NO



P.S. This shouldn't even be a question. Your 16 he's 25. I can tell you this, he aint asking you out for good intentions, he probably cant get anyone his own age.