Hi! I am 25 years old and looking to find someone because I am having difficulty finding someone in my circles. I want to be a pastor someday and am excited to see what God does.
looking for a wife
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Young man, your prime years are ahead of you.
Women become more mature when they grow older.
It is better to marry when you are a bit more mature also.
Now it is just time to focus on daily grind. Build up your finances (pay off debts if you have, start investing, buy a home if you haven't already).
I think you will easily find a woman when you are between 30-35 years old, it is better to date a woman who is closer to 30 years rather than 20 years old anyway. Believe me. It is just a fact that human beings (both men and women) develop until 30 years old.
I'm young but I think you're right.
But it's not really about the age though it's a factor; it's about how prepared she's and her depth of knowledge, wisdom and understanding because I know late 30s females who still got maturity issues.
Ironically, this idea of building a life and then adding someone to it rose up around the same time as the sexual revolution in the 60's and 70's (both ideas being equally terrible). As people grow older they become less flexible in which case adding someone to a life that has already been build becomes a much larger clash since both persons are much more set in their ways.
Ultimately, the happiest (and most financially secure) couples that I've known in my lifetime were those who married young and built a life together. Unfortunately, our culture shift since which started with the Boomers (my parents) has increasingly raised up children that don't mature until their late 20's or early 30's because society doesn't expect them to grow up.
That's because it was way cheaper back then to marry and buy or build a house. And there were jobs available...the work was there from age 13!
It isn't that society doesn't expect them to grow up, its because nobody has any money. Rich kids can be living their own independent lives the moment they turn 18.
Why do you think Princess Diana married when she was only 19?
It isn't that society doesn't expect them to grow up, its because nobody has any money. Rich kids can be living their own independent lives the moment they turn 18.
Why do you think Princess Diana married when she was only 19?
My 2nd wife and I were in our 50s when we got married. Both of us were divorced, with marital disasters behind us.
There was a little friction, but even though we were very strong willed and independent, our married life was blissful most of the time. We delighted in each other.
Looking for a spouse is the wrong tactic. Better to tell God you need a spouse, then let Him move the chess pieces in your life.
