Love

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Hey guys, so I have a gf I used to love a lot, and I don't know why it has suppressed with time. I lost my virginity to her, and I regret it so much because God had put in mt headt to stay virgin until marriage. I really don't like how I don't feel love towards her anymore, I try but it's so hard. I really really don't want to leave her, because she's the sweetest girl and pleases me like the biblie says, for example cooking, laundry, and all that stuff without me telling her and that's so nice. Is there any way I can love her deeply again? Was losing my virginity to her or having sexual relationships with her a factor that affected my feelings towards her? Please someone help me with a breathtaking answer. I really don't want to leave this girl, specially now that she has been kicked out of her house because she is 18.
 
Peace be with you bro in JESUS' NAME.
Good morning.
What you should do is this: Return to JESUS with all your Heart and Love HIM with all your Heart. Have desire to know HIM more and more that is, to know and understand HIS WORD more and more. ( For it is written, "He who seek ME with all his heart will find ME.").
Then you will see clearly and know exactly what to do because the HOLY SPIRIT will guide and lead you.
 
Thank you so much! The holy spirit has been telling me this for so long. I've been feeling a need. I will work on it! Thank you so much!
 
Having pre-marital sex changes you in many ways. God made the act for marriage to bond in a commitment for life. When you have sex before marriage its like opening an early Christmas gift before Christmas. There is nothing left for Christmas to celebrate. Perhaps these are your feelings but God can redeem the mistake. Do you see her on dates? Is she interested in you? You could start up a relationship if she is willing and you remain abstinate. Here is a good article on the subject:Pure Again | Focus on the Family Ammabev
 
Premarital Sex is defiantly a sin. Remove yourself from any situation that makes this sin more tempting to happen, ie living together, being together alone, ect, etc. What you need to do is repent first of all. Everything that you do needs to glorify God. Even this relationship. If you aren't honoring God in this, then He will not bless the relationship because you are, in essence, making the relationship an idol, putting it before God.

That being said, reflect upon yourself and make sure that what you aren't doing is trying to get your emotional fixes solely from her. Because we are created to first have a right relationship with God. Once we know His love and have a relationship with Him, all other relationships are more fulfilling because we are first fulfilled by God. Human relationships were never meant to satisfy the deep longing within us for connection with something greater than ourselves.

Thirdly, love is not an emotion. It is a decision. It is an action. You choose every moment to love. In an argument, you may not FEEL love. But you act out love by fighting fairly and choosing not to put the person down. By choosing to be committed. Life will bring so many obstacles your way that will challenge your relationship. But you have to be willing to fight to keep our relationship. Whatever the challenges may be. It has to be worth it to you. Cherish it.

Fourthly, PRAY! Pray for God's guidance in this. Marriage is not something to be entered into lightly because you will be with this person for the rest of your life. [Assuming, this relationship will lead to marriage.] Once you are married, even if perhaps that is not the person that God had intended for you, it certainly is now. Not that we can thwart God's will or plan for our lives.