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Loving Yourself Thread
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I'm still looking for someone to post the command/verse that says "love yourself".
Ok, let's put it this way, ..Do you honestly love your neighbor as much as you already love yourself?
Those that hate themselves spend just as much time belittling themselves as the one who stares in the mirror smiling at themselves.
Ok, let's put it this way, ..Do you honestly love your neighbor as much as you already love yourself?
Those that hate themselves spend just as much time belittling themselves as the one who stares in the mirror smiling at themselves.
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skylove7
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Lol..agreed cross note! Also brother...lol...where is that bible verse that says...Thou shalt walk into a room...and brag upon thyself so much...that thy neighbor will want to hide to escape thou vanity. Lol
Sorry JF but I do know how this works for most,I was there and I was really,really good at it and what is at the core is self love. See the thing is if I can and debase myself,I can feel sorry for myself because things are NOT THE WAY I want them to be. I can then start having pity parties in which I invite all my friends and family,and then when I do that I BECOME THE STAR FOR A DAY,the center of every ones attention because they too are feeling sorry for me. And then that will last for a little while but it wears off and then we go through it again and again and again. The down side to that is people grow tired of it because it NEVER GETS ANY BETTER and you wind up ALONE. (And Yes the Lord took a two by four upside my to get my attention on this)
The cure to it is having a SOBER JUDGEMENT OF OURSELVES and to see ourselves as God sees us and live in that truth.
I can honestly say that I am human and that I study the Bible and I don't love everyone perfectly but I do love them to the best of my ability. I don't think of myself higher than anyone else but I give myself grace. I'm kind to myself. I forgive myself (after I have repented). When I love myself, I can more easily love others because I actually have love to give. When I have self-hate I don't have love to give. Just like hate and hurt can spread so can love. When I love myself I'm secure and I don't have to look for validation from other things or other people. I can rest in the fact that I am so loved by the creator and I can be ok with myself. When I love myself I can give others validation and support. I am more healthy when I love myself.
The verse "love thy neighbor as thy self" is so true because if you don't love yourself then how can you love your neighbor? You can't really the reason is because you have no love to give. In order to love your neighbor you need to be secure in your relationship with Christ and secure in who you are. Being secure in who you are takes self love.
I am so curious what your inner head voice is telling you...I'm guessing it's either telling you that you're trash, that you're not doing enough or that you are such a wonderful christian. I really feel bad for you because if you don't love yourself I wonder what you think of yourself and what you tell yourself. It's sad.
And it's also sad that this thread got ruined for the people who really needed it.
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skylove7
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where on here did I say sober judgement was bad?
Sober judgement is good and there is a time and place for that. However there is also a time and place for self love too. You can soberly judge yourself and still love yourself.
It looks kinda like this:
I'm not perfect by any means. I have a bad habit of lying. I need to work on that and I will work on that. I'm going to start by looking up verses on lying in the Bible. Then I'm going to repent of my sins. Then I am going to forgive myself for my sins. Lying does not define me. This sin does not define me. God defines me. If he says I'm worth dying for then I am worth dying for. I love God enough to kick this habit of lying because it hurts him. I love my family enough to kick this habit of lying because it hurts them. I love myself enough to kick this habit of lying because it hurts me. Father God, please give me wisdom and humility to stop lying. Show me what you need to show me. In Jesus's name Amen. I feel better. I also feel kinda lousy because because my friend walked out on me but I give myself permission to feel that way. It was my fault after all. Father I'm so sorry I lied to my friend. (God: I forgive you. Go and sin no more.) I have been forgiven by God now I need to forgive myself and learn from this. Father please give me the humility and wisdom on what to say to my friend. Thank you. I love you. *goes an apologizes to friend.
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skylove7
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I don't understand how you say the thread got ruined JF? Its a wonderful thread. All threads are not going to agree. Perhaps a blog about how you feel about things in your own opinion may of been better for you, since you feel different opinions ruined your thread?
It depends on where you are in your life. Sometimes you need to take care of yourself before you can take care of others. Sometimes you need to put yourself aside. You would need to put yourself first when you CAN'T put others first. For example if you ever experience a trauma you need to do A TON of self-care. You can't minister to people when you're having flashbacks left and right. Or what about when a loved one dies and you're paralyzed with grief? How can you possibly minister then? When you can't care for others, get yourself in order.
Once you have yourself in order then you can start to put others first. If everything is going great and you just won an award there is no excuse for not ministering to others. Because you can. Heck if you won an award you had BETTER minister so your pride doesn't blow up because there is a difference between self-love and pride. ;-)\
It's like the oxygen mask thing. You have to put yours on first before you can help someone else.
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skylove7
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I do love myself. Lots of us do! But all I'm saying is there comes a point where humbleness needs to step in and take control, before someone turns self love into vanity. That's all I'm saying. Low self esteem is not appealing for your neighbors to hear, true, but vanity is sickening. At least with low self esteem we have a chance to move up the ladder. When someone is vain...they are so high up on themselves,..the only direction is to fall down. That's all my contribution to the thread was. Forgive me if you think our opinions ruined your thread.
Thanks for your OPINION. God's Word still stands. Two Commands...Love God/Love your neighbor.
I was just hoping we could lift each other up on this thread and talk about what it means to love ourselves and others. I wanted us to really talk about where we need help with loving ourselves and I wanted us to do the thing where we say two nice things about ourselves and one nice thing about the person above us. I wanted us to come at this Biblicaly and together. Not all like "I'm right you're wrong!" Because that doesn't help anyone. especially those who struggle with self-hate. :-(
I recently was talking to some friends who struggle with this and I thought, "why not start a thread on CC!" They can't fight over this! It's about loving ourselves! We're Gods creation so there should be nothing to argue about and then I come and like only two people actually followed the prompts and were like "yeah love yourself" and the rest was just bickering!! :'(
I defended my stance so that the people on here who are hurting and self-hating know that it's ok to love themselves. I don't want anyone to hate themselves cuz I know how yucky that feels and it's just so sad. :'(
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Sirk
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yeah so christian of you making me feel like dirt. Is it worth it? Is being "right" really worth it?
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Sirk
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This is where you can love yourself. By telling yourself truth. The truth is that you have a good heart and love people and you want to help people to be kind to themselves. The lesson in this right now is to learn to be kind to yourself by telling yourself the truth about you instead of the lie that you just did. You are not dirt...you are a kind loving person, a good friend etc.
YES!!!!!!!! I say self-love because that's what it is. The Bible says to love your neighbor as yourself. So I just don't see how self-love is a bad thing.
Self- love: being kind to yourself
Vanity: thinking too high of yourself
Pride: thinking that you are better than everyone
JF the thing is we ALREADY do love ourselves,but the thing is we express in the WRONG WAYS. That is the point I am trying to get across to you. God never says that our problem is that we don't love ourselves. There is not one verse in scripture that states that in any way or form. It's NOT THERE.