Thank you Confusedwife1.
Something I have found that helps is that if we REALLY humble ourselves at the feet of Jesus, he will give us the strength to get us through. I will admit to not being able to get this right for the longest time. It is a recent addition to my spirit life. Also, pray agressively against the curses and powers that seek to bind you. Our weapons are not the weapons of this world, but they are mightier than we know. It has taken months for me to feel even the slightest peace in my living hell, but Jesus WILL come through for you if you seek him dilligently.
I also had to hand complete control of the situation over to HIM. It is only when we relinquish control over that which is beyond our duty/responsibility that Christ would seem to want to step in.
It felt unnatural for me, but it was at this point that peace started to descend.
Stand on the promises in the word, bind and cast out your enemies and operate entirely out of love to those around you. Purify onerself first, and let God worry about our spouses.
There is no guarantee that it will result the way we seek, but it will bring us into deeper relationship with God. And at the end of the day, that is why we were created in the first place.
Peace, love, patience, consolation and joy I pray for Confusedwife1 & Lovejoy.
May your love of Christ increase, resulting in your latter days greatly exceeding those of your former.