I'm just going to copy and paste a previous post I made on another thread about dressing modestly:
I used to be the girl who went to church, provocatively dressed and darting towards the single men with a spring in my step. At that point I had just come back to Christ, but still carried some old heart issues that caused me to continue being that way. I was well aware of the affect I had on men, I was well aware of what I was doing. At that season in my life my heart was still holding on to the ideas and thought processes of the world and I let lust rule my life. When I dressed myself with revealing tops and short skirts, I felt equipped and had some sense of power and control. The control made me feel comfortable, which made me feel beautiful.
Now, looking back, I am so glad that I did not enter into a relationship at that point. I had so much maturing to do, and my heart wasn't ready to be faithful to any man. It took a loving and godly friend to point out what I was doing and it hurt her to point this out. She worried that she hurt me and she fasted and prayed that I would see my true value. She wanted to see me free from the bondage I was in. I was so adamant that I was an object, I failed to even think I was a gift, a worthy mystery for someone to solve. My body was constantly revealed to all, but I never thought that it could be an undiscovered territory for someone to travel their fingertips along, or that my body was a map of scars and imperfections someone would one day come to know like the back of their hand. I never though that to understand and know me (in a physical sense) is an adventure. The feelings of unworthiness and 'cheapness' were evident in the way I dressed. This may not be the case for every woman, but it was very true to me.
I was a stumbling block to many men in my old church. Not all men will be affected by a women who dress in a matter that is revealing, but it is the case for most. Studies confirm that men are very visual and that certain images would run through their mind several times without them even knowing it. Why bother being a stumbling block? Why cause your brother or sister in Christ to fall? Because 'society says this...'? The old me was proud and would regurgitate feminist arguments until I was blue in the face, but now, the new me, wants to oppose the ideas the world has blinded me with for so long.
I think its about time we stood tall and created a counter-culture to the world. We are meant to stand out. We are meant to be set apart. We are meant to arouse the curiosity of non-believers and to set a standard. I've had enough of the ideas and perception that this world raises on some holy pedestal. Its about time we raised our eyes up to God and to return to His word, the bible has to say so much about how we dress and how we are to be conducted around and with fellow Christians. We need to stop blending bible and world views until it suits us. When you take in the Word and obey it, you will be surprised how much law and loving boundaries sets you free.
I now wear clothes that do not go above the knee. I wear singlets under tops that have low cuts. Finally, finally I feel beautiful because I am saving my physical body for my future husband. My body will be a gift for him to gaze upon and to enjoy. I am not worried whether I am a stumbling block to others, I don't constantly worry about what I am revealing therefore I am so completely comfortable.
Just to confirm, I don't judge women who wear dresses where the neckline meets the hem line of the dress. How can I judge when I did the exact same thing? But I so want people to break free from that because I remember what it was like to be that person.
Folks asked if that really existed or if I was just using clever terminology to sell my point. Okay, they didn't ask it that way exactly but I've learned to read between the lines...or make things up. 
