I hate to think how many "Christian" men are Christian until they get what they want. My daughter married one. She retains a vestige of Christian belief, but he has no interest whatsoever. They've been married for ten years and have four kids, so it's working. She cuts him a lot of slack and she genuinely loves him. He is a complex character, and I feel sorry for him. But it's how it has drawn my daughter away from the Lord that is most troubling.
Ask the Lord to show you the truth about this guy. Emotions can blind us. That is no way to enter a relationship that is supposed be for life.
The 12 steps were developed by two men with the help of 97 other people, all of whom had seemingly insurmountable potentially life destroying afflictions over which they had no control. The prototype for the 12 steps originated in a Christian community (known as the Oxford Group) using solid Biblical principles; the further expansion of the original steps into what are now known and used all over the world as the 12 steps have been adapted and slightly altered (with permission) to suit the needs of multiple afflictions in hundreds of programs/fellowships geared to created a safe space within which to share one's struggles, challenges, pain, and explore your own history to discover the roots of your own afflictions and how such have manifested in your life, while finding inspiration and hope to likewise change your life to help you overcome whatever it is that ails you while providing you with a broad based community of like minded individuals who are willing to selflessly help you and even inadvertently support and inspire you with their own stories of personal growth, as they freely relate their histories, challenges, and victories. 
). The first few years I went just to listen, as I had not yet found or been gifted the willingness to stop using mind and mood altering substances. But I did listen, even if I did not hear the solution, for that is not what I was listening for at first. When I started going to meetings, I was attracted by people telling the truth about their challenges and struggles in living life on life's terms, drawn to the truth I heard of their suffering, and the pain they experienced in their life situations, their perceived failures and inability to live up to other people's expectations, and even their own expectations. I listened to this for years, for they were articulating for me things I could not put into words for myself. I listened to find common ground, I listened for shared values, and I listened to find myself in their stories so that I could better understand myself and my own suffering, and it was a relief to find such places where these truths were being openly spoken. I had a lot to learn about having healthy boundaries, and how to start expressing my own feelings, and my own truths. That is an ongoing process, and I have made a lot of progress in learning how to live life on life's terms, and especially in turning to God for help, and relying on Him and His wisdom, and His plan for my life. 
