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shekaniah
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I will pray that God will cover her with His grace and love. That His angels will charge over her. May all of the words of God that she has ever read or learned be playing as a sweet song in her mind & spirit. I also ask God to give you the right words to reach her heart, and to give you compfort and peace. In Jesus Name amen
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Brighthouse
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She did not lie to you!! Her best friend is her boyfriend,she was just being shrewd!!( Matt 10:16) You took it wrong is all. A very good girl friend of mine,did this with her mother as well,brought up in a very Christian home, Now HER Mother was a control freak! She made the mistake of telling her daughter my house my rules! Ok!! So when she turned 18, she left her mother, so she could be free. Not that you are in ANY WAY!! like that!!Her Mother sure was though!! And i was so glad for her!! She is now in College and so happy!! Her dad was nice except he was a john, door mat,only 2 words he knew. LOL YES DEAR! What a wuss! Some parents looks through there own eyes, so children do the same. When neither takes the others into consideration,a miss communication can occur. blessing to you.
She did lie, she said she was moving in with her best friend from school Alicia. This boy did not go to her school they met in church. She told me the 150 I gave her for a phone was stolen so I gave her another 100. Now I don't know what is the truth. The last thing I said to her was. Remeber difficult is the way and there are few who find it, so if you find yourself doing what everyone else is doing take a hard look at what is going on.
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JesusIsReal
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This might be wierd, but i hope you hear me out, neither do i know your Daughter nor her Future plans or intentions, since im guessing you know her good, you can tell wich way she will go, she might of heard and listend to the Gosple all her life and all of it is still stuck in her head but people like we all are sinners, neither do i know if your Daughter nor you know about the Difference between Living in the Spirit or by the Flesh, nor if your Daughter ever talked or mentioned to you that she wants to become a Deciple of Jesus Christ or live a Worldly Life.
But lets take both in perspective and asume the worst then best, asume your Daughter chose that as soon as she got out of the House she will start to add everything in her life that she couldnt under your Rules, worldy things, she will try and get the most out of "life" meaning, partying, friends, drugs, alcohol, boyfriends ect....now although she knows the Gosple and knows it isnt right, her sense of "Liberty" and "Freedom" wich Satan clearly will take advantage of has gottan over her and sweeping her away into this world, and all that she knows about the Gosple now is swept aside, not forgoten nor lost, but swept aside, kept aside. At this point there are many things you can do, and i hard many Testimonies of Teens in the same situation, some of the teens in the same situation after living such a life for months and years finaly understand that there is a Void in them, that they tried to fill, and thought in the beginning that getting all that this "worldly life" has to offer should be more then suffecient to fill and add all that is needed to fill all Void in man/women. But they see themselfs and compare there current life with the life they had in there Families home "Hopfully Godly" and notice that the Void started to apear slowly after leaving not only the Family Home but leaving the Word "Bible" itself. This is a breakthrough but will still have to make hard choices, but since its really hard to recover from such a lifestyle and sometimes dont dare to repent, they take more drugs, more alcohol and more partying in believe "this should fill the Void" if it doesnt kill them they will notice nothing has changed, the Void in them is still there, thats were the person starts to repent if he chooses and get to know Jesus Christ, his Peace, giving freely to everyone that comes to him a sound mind and spirit with living water so they may never thirst again in a whole new different light, and there faith in the truth will become very strong.
on the other Hand if your Daughter mentioned to you at some point that she wants to follow Jesus Christ and wants to continue learning, growing in faith and knoweldge, then you shouldnt be worried at all at the moment, she is still a sinner and a lie here and a lie there wich shouldnt be, but if done, gives no reason to believe that your Daughter will throw away all her intentions once she goes out of the home, if she lied about her friend or the money. In that case forgive her, help her, pray for her.
There are some Christians who will Repent from such a life, but there are some who died in that life. If i were you, again this will sound harsh, is to pray that Jesus Christ will do everything neccassary even cause Pain, Sorrow or even Demonic Oppression to your Daughter that she might Cling onto the Lord Jesus Christ forevermore. All man React to Pain and Sorrow, some react to there Faith and Believe, some React to a Vision or Dream, some react to there Calling, some will ignore all and will react to none and choose Death, wich is just Rebellion. So Pray if you believe your Daughter is in Danger, pray that Jesus Christ will do everything neccassary so that your Daughter wont even Dare to consider doing anything without him.
Hope i Helped
But lets take both in perspective and asume the worst then best, asume your Daughter chose that as soon as she got out of the House she will start to add everything in her life that she couldnt under your Rules, worldy things, she will try and get the most out of "life" meaning, partying, friends, drugs, alcohol, boyfriends ect....now although she knows the Gosple and knows it isnt right, her sense of "Liberty" and "Freedom" wich Satan clearly will take advantage of has gottan over her and sweeping her away into this world, and all that she knows about the Gosple now is swept aside, not forgoten nor lost, but swept aside, kept aside. At this point there are many things you can do, and i hard many Testimonies of Teens in the same situation, some of the teens in the same situation after living such a life for months and years finaly understand that there is a Void in them, that they tried to fill, and thought in the beginning that getting all that this "worldly life" has to offer should be more then suffecient to fill and add all that is needed to fill all Void in man/women. But they see themselfs and compare there current life with the life they had in there Families home "Hopfully Godly" and notice that the Void started to apear slowly after leaving not only the Family Home but leaving the Word "Bible" itself. This is a breakthrough but will still have to make hard choices, but since its really hard to recover from such a lifestyle and sometimes dont dare to repent, they take more drugs, more alcohol and more partying in believe "this should fill the Void" if it doesnt kill them they will notice nothing has changed, the Void in them is still there, thats were the person starts to repent if he chooses and get to know Jesus Christ, his Peace, giving freely to everyone that comes to him a sound mind and spirit with living water so they may never thirst again in a whole new different light, and there faith in the truth will become very strong.
on the other Hand if your Daughter mentioned to you at some point that she wants to follow Jesus Christ and wants to continue learning, growing in faith and knoweldge, then you shouldnt be worried at all at the moment, she is still a sinner and a lie here and a lie there wich shouldnt be, but if done, gives no reason to believe that your Daughter will throw away all her intentions once she goes out of the home, if she lied about her friend or the money. In that case forgive her, help her, pray for her.
There are some Christians who will Repent from such a life, but there are some who died in that life. If i were you, again this will sound harsh, is to pray that Jesus Christ will do everything neccassary even cause Pain, Sorrow or even Demonic Oppression to your Daughter that she might Cling onto the Lord Jesus Christ forevermore. All man React to Pain and Sorrow, some react to there Faith and Believe, some React to a Vision or Dream, some react to there Calling, some will ignore all and will react to none and choose Death, wich is just Rebellion. So Pray if you believe your Daughter is in Danger, pray that Jesus Christ will do everything neccassary so that your Daughter wont even Dare to consider doing anything without him.
Hope i Helped
My daughter loves the Lord and was saving herself for marriage. Well a few months back she started having medical problems and they could not do all the test needed because she had never been with someone. The results were that if she waited to long to have children she would not be able to. I asked her how she felt about it and she said ok but this all makes me think it is on her mind. I still pray she holds out for marriage. Well she emailed me and would not tell me where she was only that she lives in thousand oaks, California. She plans to finish high School and get married. Then off to collage. I looked up thousand oaks and the collage Berkely came up and I could hear my little 8 year old daughter say to me momma I want to go for collage at Berkely just like Bevery Cleary. Bevery is a childrens author and her little dream at that age was to follow her. So I know the Holy spirit brings things back to our mind. So she may just be where the LORD wants her.
Then I come on here and Jesusisreal wrote some React to a Vision or Dream, some react to there Calling. Berkley was her dream.
on the other Hand if your Daughter mentioned to you at some point that she wants to follow Jesus Christ and wants to continue learning, growing in faith and knoweldge, then you shouldnt be worried at all at the moment, she is still a sinner and a lie here and a lie there wich shouldnt be, but if done, gives no reason to believe that your Daughter will throw away all her intentions once she goes out of the home, if she lied about her friend or the money. In that case forgive her, help her, pray for her.
Well I am still sad but I know GOD has his hand on her so now there is some peace. Thank you.
Then I come on here and Jesusisreal wrote some React to a Vision or Dream, some react to there Calling. Berkley was her dream.
on the other Hand if your Daughter mentioned to you at some point that she wants to follow Jesus Christ and wants to continue learning, growing in faith and knoweldge, then you shouldnt be worried at all at the moment, she is still a sinner and a lie here and a lie there wich shouldnt be, but if done, gives no reason to believe that your Daughter will throw away all her intentions once she goes out of the home, if she lied about her friend or the money. In that case forgive her, help her, pray for her.
Well I am still sad but I know GOD has his hand on her so now there is some peace. Thank you.
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needmesomejesus
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This totally sucks, but she's at the age where you gotta let her go. You've taught her the way and led by example; you've done your job. Just remember Philippians 1:6 being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. Assuming she is saved Christ will draw her back into his arms.
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JesusIsReal
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Amen needmesomejesus, that scripture gives me hope everytime i find out that i cant change myself no matter what i try.
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JesusIsReal
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@shilo, your daughter seems to be brought up right, and its good to hear that the mother knows that she will not depart from Jesus Christ and the Gosple Teaching, you may wish to know were your Daughter resides or her current condition, be it in Health, Spiritual or Life Paths. Wish should not be absent in a Mother or Father, if its not Wearing the Mother or Father's down, were then a Great Worry will overcome one, and drain all there thoughts and attention away from Jesus Christ. This you should use to gain a new Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ, to pray new Prayers for yourself so you may Believe or even know that the Presence, Attention, and Face of the Lord is Turnd not away from your Daughter but towards, and his Arms and Hands leading all things that is good to his sight so that your Daughter wenn grown and matures, may work and be a women with great testimony to the World.
Take your worries away from your Daughter but not your Love, but turn to what you believed in for years, Jesus Christ and start seeing him as a God that works also out of the jurisdiction of your Home lol.
Jesus Christ lead you in all thruths and raise you in new faith in him.
Take your worries away from your Daughter but not your Love, but turn to what you believed in for years, Jesus Christ and start seeing him as a God that works also out of the jurisdiction of your Home lol.
Jesus Christ lead you in all thruths and raise you in new faith in him.
Thanks to all of you who took time to hear me and help lift this burden. As we carry each other's burdens, we will fulfill the law of Christ to love each other as ourselves. We need always to speak with the grace of GOD in our mouths to people in pain. We should not throw rocks at someone who is in pain already.Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
2 Cor. 1:3-4
3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.
2 Cor. 1:3-4
3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.
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JesusIsReal
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Brighthouse
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Hi Shilo, I do not want to leave you hanging,please allow me to explain something to you. First I do not believe you are a bad parent! 2. I am not judging you in any way. But here is why I said what i said to you,perhaps you will understand why I said it.
When I was a small boy,I was told by my parents there was a Santa Claus,they lied to me,then they told me there was a tooth fairy,they lied to me,then they told me there was an Easter bunny!, they lied to me,then they told me of Jesus? Oh NO!! Not this time, will they fool me!!
When confronted, and yes I got hit a lot,because I could not keep my mouth shut!! LOL They told me ,why mark those were little white lies,all parents tell there children this. Now let me ask you,is this right? because of all these lies as a little one,by the time they came to Jesus,i sure did not trust in there words anymore!
That is why I am giving so much grace to you child. What she did was wrong! But who among us has not lied? Many parents do not remember the words they spoke,what they remember are the words another speaks unto them, they become very hurt by them,and who does not understand this?
I did not come to Jesus until I was 22 years of age because of the lies told to me,by my parents. Words matter!! many adults do not realize the power of there words,until another turns them around on them. Then they do. That is my only point. I am not rebuking you in any way,I just want you to see,what I saw. I hope the very best for you,and your child,I hope she repents and you both grow closer to each other! Blessing to you!
When I was a small boy,I was told by my parents there was a Santa Claus,they lied to me,then they told me there was a tooth fairy,they lied to me,then they told me there was an Easter bunny!, they lied to me,then they told me of Jesus? Oh NO!! Not this time, will they fool me!!
When confronted, and yes I got hit a lot,because I could not keep my mouth shut!! LOL They told me ,why mark those were little white lies,all parents tell there children this. Now let me ask you,is this right? because of all these lies as a little one,by the time they came to Jesus,i sure did not trust in there words anymore!
That is why I am giving so much grace to you child. What she did was wrong! But who among us has not lied? Many parents do not remember the words they spoke,what they remember are the words another speaks unto them, they become very hurt by them,and who does not understand this?
I did not come to Jesus until I was 22 years of age because of the lies told to me,by my parents. Words matter!! many adults do not realize the power of there words,until another turns them around on them. Then they do. That is my only point. I am not rebuking you in any way,I just want you to see,what I saw. I hope the very best for you,and your child,I hope she repents and you both grow closer to each other! Blessing to you!
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Bobbyking
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Hi Shilo
Your Daughter has made a choice to move out and live with her boyfriend.
Although she is physically living in another place. that does not mean that your prayer for her is hindered.
Continue to love her. Connect with her, through SMS, email and phones. Let her know that you love to talk to her regularly (e.g. once a week).
Through your communication, encourage her to walk closer to the Lord. Send her scriptures to inspire and motivate her. Ask her about her spiritual life, her Church, her friends. Be a Mom to her.
Personally, I do not agree that a woman should live with another boy, especially when they are not married. I do not think that this is right in the eyes of the Lord. If this is also your conviction, make it very clear to her. TELL HER that you do not agree in this part and the reason why: It is not God's plan for a single woman and a single man to live together (and iinvolve in physical relationship). Yes, she may disagree or retort. That's ok. Let's keep it that way. (BTW, assuming this boy is GOD's plan for her, that does not mean that they can start living together before they tie the knot).
In your closet, pray that God would convict her of this wrongdoing. Ask the Holy Spirit to open her eyes to see what God wants in her life. And keep on praying and praying. And see in your heart that she will recognize and accept God's word.
God does not disappoint those who pray earestly.