My Dilemma

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Hey Everyone

My dilemma is I am very shy with girls. This has been their since childhood. As a boy i was in a rich children going school from a not so well earning family, so not many attracted to be friends with me. Moving on could not go to college and i started working, so their it was always professional behavior. Now as i grow in Christ, my personality has developed but this area still remains a mystery. I work with a lot of youths of my age for leading them to do God's ministry but because of my shy nature i still cannot communicate well with girls. I feel alone as other guys interact well with girls, but i feel odd one out in their discussions.

May be someone could guide me how to improve on this.

Thanks
Ravi
 
Hi Ravi,
I think all relationships or friendships are complicated at first, there are barriers that need to be removed until know the other.
Communication is a matter of training. Maybe the first friendships do not run very well. Okay, try again!
Try not to see your shyness as something bad. have you ever thought that God might be ridding you of bad relationships?

God Bless you!
 
My avoidance on this matter has led to certain issues lately. I cud sense many times, girls find me to be ignorant of their thoughts coz i don't respond too well. Its not so difficult to communicate on serious or professional matters as it is in casual or friendly chats. They find me biased with my frankness being more towards boys in my team or group. As u said i have to practice more...;). Also, yes, i do consider God rids me of bad relations. I am only concerned about it from my general behavior towards girls nothing more.
 
I am older and have sons, so maybe I can help you some. Force yourself to talk to girls or women that you do not find at all attractive. Find a female to be a friend & just hang out with. At the same time, force yourself to be friendly and just say "hi" to gals at church. Once you get that down, begin to make some sort of small talk - like at the coffee counter or whatever. I read about this in a book about this very subject. Try it & remember, girls are people too, they are probably nervous too ;)
 
Tinergirl said:
I am older and have sons, so maybe I can help you some. Force yourself to talk to girls or women that you do not find at all attractive. Find a female to be a friend & just hang out with. At the same time, force yourself to be friendly and just say "hi" to gals at church. Once you get that down, begin to make some sort of small talk - like at the coffee counter or whatever. I read about this in a book about this very subject. Try it & remember, girls are people too, they are probably nervous too ;)
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Never thought it like that..but i guess this could be a constructive start. Thank you....:D
 
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