My son

[Angel24]

I have a question i could use some advice on. My ex wife cheated on me and had my son with another man. I have been with him since he was born and I love him with all my heart and idont want his real dad who is getting out of prison to see him. Is that wrong am I being selfish?

 

[BLU]

I have a question i could use some advice on. My ex wife cheated on me and had my son with another man. I have been with him since he was born and I love him with all my heart and idont want his real dad who is getting out of prison to see him. Is that wrong am I being selfish?

Pray hard about it, and or he may be a nice guy. love him too.

 

[whoopdardoo]

I have a question i could use some advice on. My ex wife cheated on me and had my son with another man. I have been with him since he was born and I love him with all my heart and idont want his real dad who is getting out of prison to see him. Is that wrong am I being selfish?

This can be a difficult and heartbreaking situation to be sure. On one hand I am assuming your motive for your desire to keep your son's birth father away is to protect him from harm or a bad influence. Understandably this could be the case. If it is a safety issue by all means it is yours and your wife's responsibility to keep your child safe as God would have you do. You have loved and had a hand in raising your son and are a father regardless of genetics. However, on the other hand, please be sure your motives are not hinging on jealousy or some other reason God does not approve of. I have a daughter who is adopted and many times I have been asked "what would you do if she wanted to see her birth mother?" My answer to that is this, I am also her mother. I am the mom who saw and helped pull her first tooth, shared in the school play, wiped her bottom, was there while she had the flu, encouraged her when she did well and scolded her when she didn't. I'm the mom who taught her how to ride a bike, be a lady, enjoyed the childhood years, endured the teen years (lol), and was with her when she married & gave birth to a child of her own. These are memories and bonds that no one can replace or take away. If someone else chooses to love my daughter then my daughter is blessed with those who love her and hopefully enriches her life. But the special bond we share is unique to her and me only.
Know what God's word says, it builds your faith. Always put God first and He will direct your path. May God bless you and your family during this time and always.

 

[Chico_Zimbabwe]

I have a question i could use some advice on. My ex wife cheated on me and had my son with another man. I have been with him since he was born and I love him with all my heart and idont want his real dad who is getting out of prison to see him. Is that wrong am I being selfish?

I think are genuinly being protective of your son, not selfish. However, unless you've legally adopted him, you may not be able to prevent his biological father from seeing him. I'd check with a lawyer and take legal action if necessary. It doesn't sound like the guy is a good role model anyway.

 

[Sparkling_Tears]

There is nothing wrong with how you feelings,but sadly the real father has rights to see his son. I understand that you love your son(you are
his father in every way,other than biologically) and that you want the best for him. Just make sure that he knows you love him,that you are there
for him,and stay with him through all things,no matter what.
I don't know whether the real father loves him or not,or if he is a good man or not. But just try to explain to him how you feel,and see how it goes.
Also pray,and hard,stay faithful,and trust God always-He knows best.
God Bless!