My step sister is younger and more beautiful than me :/

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I know how terrible this sounds but it is just so disheartening. My step family is non religious and my step sister is so much prettier than me. It makes me feel so bad about myself because I never grew up with a sister and got one at 21... and now everyone pays attention to her

Can someone say a prayer for what I’m going through so I can Be better at interacting with my step family and feel less self pity?
 
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Sister you are precious in God’s eyes no matter if you are short ,tall, black , white or whatever your physical appearance is . He loves his children. See yourself like God sees you.You are beautiful ❤️
I will pray for the situation in the family . Let your family see Jesus in you no matter what.
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So the attention you used to receive from your family is being transferred over to your new sister? They want her to feel welcomed, and don’t you want her too as well? Why don’t you make it a point to spend time with her, get to know her, and bond with your new sister? In this way, her beauty will be applauded even by you, because you will want her to be confident about her self. Why? Cause you will love her.

Surely she as a woman like you has dealt with the pressures placed on her by society and meeting certain standards. Maybe you have a lot more in common than you think?
 
Sometimes we assume that because someone is attractive that their life is pain free. It can be very lonely to have men approach you for your looks rather than who you are. It is also lonely to be subject to jealousy. When other women are jealous they do not have your back, care for you or allow you close to them. Real love and friendship can be harder for an attractive woman. Honest.
I had a number of really beautiful friends in university and I saw their pain. Findly people they could trust was a fight.
I appreciate you for being transparent with your struggle. I respect that. What I would do is ask God to make your heart soft towards her. Ask him to help you see her through His eyes. I have had to do this with difficult people in my life. I promise you that she has her sorrows.
Also know that whether she is more attractive or not, a person's personality will win the day. A person's looks is not enough to be truly attractive without personality and character. Forget about her looks. Be friendly, fun, interested in others, and kind and you will attract the sort people you desire. Hugs.
 
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Court_11 said:
I know how terrible this sounds but it is just so disheartening. My step family is non religious and my step sister is so much prettier than me. It makes me feel so bad about myself because I never grew up with a sister and got one at 21... and now everyone pays attention to her

Can someone say a prayer for what I’m going through so I can Be better at interacting with my step family and feel less self pity?
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It's easy to see an attractive woman and see it as things are easier for them. And in some ways there's probably some truth to that.
But from the women I've known who had that mainstream attractiveness it's often not an easy life when it comes to people.
One woman in particular I remember shared these sorts of struggles.
Men don't care who you are. They see a pretty woman and their goal is sex. Who you are as a person is irrelevant to them. Therefore no men ever get to know you as a person.
Women get jealous and thus at best avoid you, or at worst talk trash about you behind your back and spread lies. Therefore no women ever get to know you as a person.
And in this case her own father never bothered getting to know her. So being pretty had no effect on her familial relationship.
I found all this out because I got to know her. Which had shocked her because she said no one had ever taken the time to get to know her. I knew her better than her own father or husband (who was a jerk and used her as arm candy).

Have you considered her looks have nothing to do with family giving her attention? As another user suggested, perhaps try getting to know her. Because remember my friend who said women were often jealous and stayed away? That was painful to her. Being given attention but always alone.
 
You are so beautiful and unique, the Lord knows it and you should too. There is none like you beautiful! You are amazing in your own ways....and it is true, so true ,the Lord loves you so much.
 
Court_11 said:
I know how terrible this sounds but it is just so disheartening. My step family is non religious and my step sister is so much prettier than me. It makes me feel so bad about myself because I never grew up with a sister and got one at 21... and now everyone pays attention to her

Can someone say a prayer for what I’m going through so I can Be better at interacting with my step family and feel less self pity?
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Hi Court_11

There one scripture that comes to mind. Phillipians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

I definitely say prayer for you. But you also should be content in all circumstances.

God is very much interested in your salvation. And He is calling you into deeper intimacy in order for external matters and materialism should not affect your happiness.

You will need to have a real hard look at where you stand with God.

May the God of all comfort you in this time.
 
Ask God to remove any envy, and get to know your new sister more. My cousin won a talent pageant/beauty contest a few years ago. She is a beautiful person inside too, but I know about her inner struggles as well as chronic illness (Crohn's disease). Guess what, she doesn't think she is that beautiful.
 
Court_11 said:
I know how terrible this sounds but it is just so disheartening. My step family is non religious and my step sister is so much prettier than me. It makes me feel so bad about myself because I never grew up with a sister and got one at 21... and now everyone pays attention to her

Can someone say a prayer for what I’m going through so I can Be better at interacting with my step family and feel less self pity?
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Isn't there a fairytale about this? "Mirror, mirror, on the wall..."

Remember, God looks at the heart.
 
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Come on now and snap out of that nonsense. Welcome your new sister to the family and don't say or do anything to cause any strife.

There will always be someone more younger and beautiful than you. At 21, its a good time to keep those words in mind, because hun you'll be 22 next year, 23 the next year... You see where I'm going with this?

So smile, cheer up, snap out of this gloom. And don't worry about who is younger and more beautiful.

And hope that you yourself never find yourself in a place where someone is envious of you for being younger or more beautiful than them. Because when a person is envious of you, they sure can be mean. Don't become that mean person to your step sister.
 
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