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Hello, I just needed some Godly advice.

I'll start out by saying I am very quiet and timid person. When things are bothering I tend to keep it in myself. I try to smile and just let things go, I want to pick my battles. Last year I when through a really tough time with my fiance of 8years, leaving me for other women, I didn't see that coming so I thought I gave up on relationships. It just so happend that I met someone, and I fell in love with him.

His sister is why I felt the need to write, and ask for advice. Many times she is really inconsiderate. She makes fun of me being skinny (she is over weight) and I try to smile, even though it is hurtful. Sometimes she is in a terrible mood and just gets angry, ignores me if I say hello or acts like I am the reason why she had a bad day at her work. My boyfriend is moving and it just makes me sad because he'll be far away. He asked me to move in with him, I said I dont know yet...once I finally gave him an answer, which was yes, he was happy then the next day he said he's not ready. Later in the week he said he wants me to move in, then again changes his mind. I had the courage to tell him, its confusing me and infact makes me sad. Today while my boyfriend left the room she asked me if I am moving in. I said, "Tito said no" and she said " he's not ready! and smiled" right after she started telling me how theyre roommate hasn't found a place to live so she's going to stay with them and started expressing how great it will be. I got sad, but I tried to pray and pick myself up. We all went to get lunch and his sister said to me, why do you always have depressed resting face and started laughing. I snapped, and I walked out of the resteraunt. They followed me and he took me home. When I got out of the car I said I do not have depressed resting face and she walked after me I closed my door on her. Later she texted me never talk to her again. and my boyfriend said never talk to him either.
I took a taxi to there place, on impluse and when I got there I just apologized to both of them and left.
I feel embaressed for yelling that at her, and I prayed. I cried for hours and I am really sad that I may have lost my boyfriend. He's been very good too me. I feel like a fool.
I am not sure what I am asking. I think I just need someone to talk to. I pray everyday that God will bless my relationship with this guy, and so far it has been amazing. I know breakups happen everyday and this isn't even a real problem. I just felt the need to write to you guys, I dont know..

Thank you for reading
 
Uh...wow..you have really opened up a can of worms here. First of all.....it is very evident that you apparently believe it's okay to "MOVE IN WITH A GUY" just because he asked you to. What he is really saying is "I need sex, woman...and by you saying "YES" To moving in with me...I can fulfill my needs". What kind of standard do you have for yourself? It can't be too high if you allow all family, friends and acquaintances to dictate your moods and emotions, enough to 'cry for hours" and 'feel like a fool".
This entire scenario you just posted is a spiritual matter, between you and GOD! IT is not about a very immature acting sister, a shifty no commitment boyfriend. IT is totally about you NOT having a spiritual walk with JESUS CHRIST, the one who loves and understands you more than anyone else. IT is HE that you need to make a commitment to by saying "JESUS..I totally depend on YOU, I need YOU in my life, I will lay all my burdens down at YOUR feet, JESUS! Forgive me of all my past blunders and sins. Give me a new fresh start so I can serve YOU the rest of my life, putting YOU first!" Read His WORD as a guideline. You will find real goodness in JESUS CHRIST...not from a boy who wants you to "MOVE IN WITH ME, NOW!" Allow the Holy SPIRIT to be in your life. Attend a holy spirit filled church....realize your silly willy shallow past friends need JESUS too and pray for them. DO not use the internet as your soap box. Do not let anyone rob you of the joy you have in CHRIST but first, you have to have CHRIST. You must never seek the favor of others to justify your happiness.
"Smile, and the world smiles with you. Frown, and it turns away".
 
So... he didn't want to talk to you because of what you said to his sister? Did he break up with you or was it a fight? either way there is something not right there. He's gotta be hearing the negative things she's saying, and he's not speaking up for you and defending you. yes she's his family, but her presence should not dictate or control the relationship. What you need to do is sit down with him and tell him how she makes you feel. Also, please be careful and don't compromise yourself. Living together may seem exciting and make you feel like you guys will grow closer, but you'll be opening a door full of temptations. If he's pressuring you, maybe it's time to really examine his motives for being with you.
 
When we lift the covers from our feelings
We expose our insecure spots
Trust is just as rare as devotion
Forgive us our cynical thoughts
 
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