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Ok firstly glad to be here,im 19 and i know nothing about dating,im extremely shy around girls and the problem is i want a girlfriend not for fornication but one who will wait until marriage,which brings me to i kinda think about sex all tha time lately and not sure if i do get a girl,if i will resist the sexual urges.so i have 2 major problems.also how is college like for christians,will i get christian friends.what about temptations im really tense about everythingi :(
 
Well I would highly recomend that you would just pray day and night about whats troubling you, but remeber theres a time for each season so patince would be a huuge factor. As far as being shy goes dont worry about it people tend to grow out of it after a while. I myself is evidence and i was exactly like you forever praticaly but the more i got intouched with God The more I understood and you will To if youhave a Little Faith. : ]
 
Firstly, you don't 'need' a girlfriend at all. You may want one, but needing and wanting are two different things. If you feel that sort of 'need', then there is more likely a problem in your walk with God that you are not allowing Him to fulfill you.
Also, if you're struggling with sexual issues without a girlfriend, why do you think it would be wise to have a girlfriend? A girlfriend would be nothing but temptation.
The last thing you need right now is a girlfriend. What it seems your greater needs are is to strengthen your walk with God, and focus more on adjusting to school and doing well in school.
As far as what it will be like in college as a Christian, that's tough to answer for anyone not living in Kenya, or wherever it is you plan on going to school. Experiences in the US may be different than in Kenya, so it can't really be answered by most.

Temptations are best fought through scripture. When Satan tempted Jesus, Jesus resisted Satan's temptations using the scriptures. So learning scriptures that apply to your temptations and then resisting the temptation by saying those scriptures is the best way. Also, reading our bibles helps to strengthen our spirit, renew our mind and help us have more control over our sinful bodies.
 
I get what your saying- that maybe i want a girl for the wrong reasons even though i tell myself its not for sex.but sooner or later i'll have to learn how to just be able to talk to them without sweating my palms out,also about college,i did not have plans for college or getting in a relationship for that matter because i wanted to join the army after high school but my national id hadn't been processed yet so i missed the chance at the time then i hd time to think so i decided to change my plans abit so im still kind of wanting to join the army next year june but if i wont pass selection then i will go to college which is more likely because my mom doesnt want me to enlist due to whats happening in somali.funny story the priest at my mom's church is in the army and he got shot in the leg during the war on alshaabab(he's still using clutches),he told the church they were actually going for counseling, becasuse of what they saw etc so anyways thanks :)
 
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