ken i want to build on what penned said. i think a lot of it's in our heads. we THINK we want... a bigger car, a better girl friend, more money. we were hard wired with basics to help us procreate, survive, etc, both genders. God issues them out at birth and we distort them. overeatting, sexaholics, politics you name it. i think it helps a lot to know we are not puppets, we can use self control and thrive. if that makes sense.