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My husband recently left me and wants to seperate .
We have been together for 9yrs known each for 12yrs only married for 1 yr .
I snapped at him and the next day I found he had left and his wedding ring on the table .
He has been gone for a month we have seen each other a couple of times generally talking about small stuff. We have had alot to deal with over the last few years he has FMS and suffers depression however over the last 12mth I have been overwhelmed with looking after a friend and having post concussion syndrome and a few other issues .
I have snapped a couple times at him however never yelled called him names nothing. He believes by me picking up after him Im treating him like a child by making appointmenys for him I not giving him a choice and controlling him . He has never mentioned this before . had I of known I wouldnt have done it .For those reasons he sees it as abuse .
Since leaving he seems to have no regard for my feelings doesnt want to discuss anything.
Finances house our dog nothing .
He randomly sends messages out of blue after not wanting to speak to me . Tells me I look lovely and had great time but the says something different and sometimes very nasty the following day
I love him and want to work things out
Im seeking counselling for myself and would like marraige counselling with him but at the moment he declines .
It seems like everything I do or say to him is wrong
Looking for advice or suggestions .
 
My husband recently left me and wants to seperate .
We have been together for 9yrs known each for 12yrs only married for 1 yr .
I snapped at him and the next day I found he had left and his wedding ring on the table .
He has been gone for a month we have seen each other a couple of times generally talking about small stuff.
We have been there for one another and had an amazing 8yrs Our wedding day was the best day of our lives because we both Knew we were marrying our bestfriend .
He does suffer from Depression and FMS and it has got worse over the last 12mth
I have been overwhelmed with looking after a friend and having post concussion syndrome and a few other issues .
I have snapped a couple times at him however never yelled called him names nothing. He believes by me picking up after him Im treating him like a child by making appointmenys for him I not giving him a choice and controlling him . He has never mentioned this before . had I of known I wouldnt have done it .For those reasons he sees it as abuse .
I have admitted my faults .He just doesnt seem to want to know .
Since leaving he seems to have no regard for my feelings doesnt want to discuss anything.
Finances house our dog nothing .
He randomly sends messages out of blue after not wanting to speak to me . Tells me I look lovely and had great time but the says something different and sometimes very nasty the following day
I love him and want to work things out
Im seeking counselling for myself and would like marraige counselling with him but at the moment he declines .

It seems like everything I do or say to him is wrong
He is my Husband and my Bestfriend
Looking for advice or suggestions .
 
Reposting here won't help get responses.
Many, but not all, users here are from the US and it's between 2-5 AM.
The weekends tend to be slower here as well.
Also you posting in the section for new users to be greeted is going to get less reads. You'd be better off posting in the family section.

That being said I had a long response and thought I posted it, but it's nowhere to be found.
So perhaps try putting this in the Family forums and giving it some time for people to see it.
Forum responses can be minutes to hours. If you're eantojg faster responses perhaps try the chat rooms. Not sure if anyone's in there now, and sometimes it's hard to get noticed, but it may work.
 
Welcome here you can discuss with bible smart people and possibly make new friends,hope you like it here!
 
Accepting "All things working together for good to them that Love the Lord." Does this come as a shock to you: To be thankful in the situation, that God will work for good, with His Spirit in you, to bring you close to Him and no longer codependent. When you are learning this, if there is hope for your husband to escape the snare of the enemy, he'll come around. You must be accepting the situation that you can't fix, actually the person you can't fix to your liking. By the way I had a conflict with a friend today a brother that I cant fix and it scares me: why are you not expressing any fear? has God made you invincible already? When I was a young believer thirty some years ago, I told the Lord: Lord I'm so weak but your invincible, He said: I'll make you invincible, that hasn't happened yet. Yesterday he told me: You could fall apart, I was with the same friend at the time going to a church meting. I asked the Lord what He was referring to, He first said that I knew, it came to mind that I loose sight of Him easily over the love of woman. Then He said: By not staying close to me. Today I see the danger, discouragement blinds. "Wait on the Lord and He will strengthen your heart." I am believing this as well, and the Lord told me as well: To enter into rest.
 
I'm sorry you're going through such a difficult time. It's hard to know how to move forward when another party is a key player. The fact that you are seeking counseling for yourself is a big step in the right decision. Sometimes that disinterested party can help us see things we can't when we are so close to the situation. If he won't go, then there really is not a lot you can do except go on each day to try and get healthy yourself. My prayer is he will want to also seek counseling and want to work things out and your marriage be restored. Please don't forget to take good care of yourself. Hugs and prayers from Texas
 
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Posting phone numbers is Also prohibited. You're here to advertise and it's quite sickening for you to call it "helping". You're not as slick as you think.
 
Stop posting in a public forum. Public. Get that? If you post in public then you should expect to have people respond.
And no I don't know you, but character can be assessed still.
 
Trust God during this time and pray about it daily. Spend time with God read the Proverbs and Pslams 91. Do and go were peace is felt. The Holy Spirit will guide you. Love yourself and take care of your mind the evil one will try and play with negativity. Stay still and just stand and God will do the rest.
 
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