Newlywed Divorce

[Tinuviel]

Ember, where did you get that signature? lol We must've read the same book...

 

[ember]

Her attitude on here sure doesn't reflect that she has repented, or even WANTS to. jmo

aww shucks blue....repentance does not take place in 5 seconds for most of us, eh?

I'm still at it LOL!

there are so many what ifs and maybe this and maybe that....God will reach the heart that belongs to Him in spite of itself

I believe that...I would stake my life on that...He loves us in spite of ourselves!

 

[MsSuzanna]

Sin looks so inviting until we have to deal with the circumstances. Your bad judgement is not Gods will. You were rebellious when you slept with him out of marriage and quite frankly,you were married to him in spirit the minute you did. Im sorry if I sound harsh but the brazen reality is that it seems you have exemplified bad judgement from the time you had sex out of marriage. God will forgive you but now you have to deal with the mess you created
Walk the talk.....life is less messy..................

 

[MsSuzanna]

Sometimes people are more in love with the notion of marriage than they are in love with the person they marry. Not saying that's the case here, but it does in fact happen.

Yep! A foundation was not built.The only thing created here was a baby from two people who exercised very bad judgement out of lust. Now reality has set in and they have to live with the consequences of the sin.

 

[ember]

I can't speak for others,only what I said. I told her that I also met my husband online and took my time to get to know him. Thats not self righteous or holier than thou,it took time,patience and a lot of nasty comments and pressure from family who said I'd never get married. It took a lot of lonely weeks when he wasn't able to come and see me and I had no car to go and see him.So sometimes it was a full month before I saw him again. Its not easy to take our time but it ends in a better result.

Now she said ,in her own words,that she did not know her husband. So I AGREED and said,yes you did rush it. I said nothing about sex at all,when she did or didn't have it,even though she put those details out there,I said nothing about that.So for agreeing with her I get blasted and now mocked. She said I "judged" her,I hear that a lot on here,apparently people don't know what the word means. I did not judge her,I agreed with the details she gave.

a person will cough up what is really bothering them if you press the right button...even if you press it accidentally

that accounts for half the ridiculous knee jerk responses in these forums LOL! Christian to Christian or otherwise

I have buttons too ...duh

no worries...I love you in Jesus if that means anything...folks are gonna lash out when life gets real

 

[ember]

Well, I could say a lot of things about making mistakes and I could do a lot of finger pointing, but that wouldn't help, would it? I just want you to know that I love you as a sister in Christ. I feel for you in your situation, I'm praying for you. More importantly, God loves you, and His love is perfect. He will not let you down if you are truly His child. I cannot tell you what his love will look like, because sometimes it looks so UN-loving our human minds cannot even grasp it. But hold tight to Him and he will work it out the way He thinks best for you and your child. Remember, He is eternal and can see everything. Even when we do not feel His love, or feel like He has been unloving to us, it is only a feeling.

16 years old and more wisdom in this post than many of the others from middle aged people

what you said about God's love sometimes looking unloving, is very true...it goes that way because we just do not understand how finite our views are from the point of our eternal God and how much sin distorts even our best reality

Ember, where did you get that signature? lol We must've read the same book...

one of my favorite verses..Father of lights...I can almost picture that...no darkness or sin...only goodness and purity
and no shadow of turning...God IS

 

[kaylagrl]

a person will cough up what is really bothering them if you press the right button...even if you press it accidentally

that accounts for half the ridiculous knee jerk responses in these forums LOL! Christian to Christian or otherwise

I have buttons too ...duh

no worries...I love you in Jesus if that means anything...folks are gonna lash out when life gets real

You know we all give the advice we think is right. No good to dis each other over it. I didn't judge her,I really didn't. Im a long way from perfect and anyone who knows me will attest to that. I made mistakes that could have turned to worse mistakes. I knew I wasn't in the will of God. Thats the only point I was making to her,dont rush and wait for God before she jumps. Thats not judgmental, its just truth. She not at the point to hear that yet. Maybe down the road she will be. But I appreciate you and I dont want to knock heads.We all see things from a different angle because we have different experiences. Blessings !

 

[Tinuviel]

one of my favorite verses..Father of lights...I can almost picture that...no darkness or sin...only goodness and purity and no shadow of turning...God IS

It has been a long-standing favourite verse of mine too God is amazing. Truly awesome, if I may be allowed to use the word in its older sense.

 

[ember]

ps...no grudges Utah...not on my side anyway

if you can dish it out, I guess you can take it, eh?

 

[blue_ladybug]

well there's the rub, eh?

did you notice she conceived before they were married...2 weeks before?

part of growing up before God, is taking responsibility for our own actions and the results they bring

yes...the baby is innocent...so what now...that just hurts

Whether she conceived before or after the marriage really doesn't matter. What matters now is what she chooses to do next. Had she exercised common sense and good judgement BEFORE taking a hay romp with some guy she didn't know, and bothered to use a condom, she wouldn't be pregnant now and it would be alot easier for her to get out of this mess. But as usual, people don't stop to think before they hop into bed. People never stop to think to use protection when they're hot and horny. :/ Hopefully from now on, she'll put her common sense and good judgement into practice..

 

[ember]

You know we all give the advice we think is right. No good to dis each other over it. I didn't judge her,I really didn't. Im a long way from perfect and anyone who knows me will attest to that. I made mistakes that could have turned to worse mistakes. I knew I wasn't in the will of God. Thats the only point I was making to her,dont rush and wait for God before she jumps. Thats not judgmental, its just truth. She not at the point to hear that yet. Maybe down the road she will be. But I appreciate you and I dont want to knock heads.We all see things from a different angle because we have different experiences. Blessings !

I agree with you...I think the same...and that is not judgement

however, we all have to learn that if someone throws our best advice back in our face, we should just wipe if off

we just all so need to remember that Christ died for our sins...we killed Him

yes...a person often already knows the answers to the questions they ask

I made all kinds of excuses when I was living in sin...you would not believe...like as if God was going to overlook it because of the way I felt

well I felt a whole lot worse afterwards and God caught me and healed my heart...I literally begged Him over and over to take away the feelings I had for this man because it was killing me...and He did....He had mercy on me and took them all away...as though it had never happened...

you know, He does remember we are dust....and as we are, we should have mercy in our turn

just kind of reflecting and thinking out loud here...God is good!

 

[ember]

Whether she conceived before or after the marriage really doesn't matter. What matters now is what she chooses to do next. Had she exercised common sense and good judgement BEFORE taking a hay romp with some guy she didn't know, and bothered to use a condom, she wouldn't be pregnant now and it would be alot easier for her to get out of this mess. But as usual, people don't stop to think before they hop into bed. People never stop to think to use protection when they're hot and horny. :/ Hopefully from now on, she'll put her common sense and good judgement into practice..

all true...and she knows that

I made mention of the time as someone else kind of hinted that God was in control of it all?

I know you don't think so and of course He is not in control of our lives in that manner

anyway

 

[coby2]

Whether she conceived before or after the marriage really doesn't matter. What matters now is what she chooses to do next. Had she exercised common sense and good judgement BEFORE taking a hay romp with some guy she didn't know, and bothered to use a condom, she wouldn't be pregnant now and it would be alot easier for her to get out of this mess. But as usual, people don't stop to think before they hop into bed. People never stop to think to use protection when they're hot and horny. :/ Hopefully from now on, she'll put her common sense and good judgement into practice..

Wahahahahahaha if it were up to me I'd now also have a kid with the guy I married within 3 weeks. Luckily my ex had me sterilized.

 

[Utah]

LOL!

you are such a baby utah

if you had not jokingly asked me to marry you months back because you liked the way I posted

if you had not long ago given me a rep and stated that you really liked the humor I presented the truth with and liked numerous of my other posts

you have made jokes about women and basically, in my opinion, denegraded them more than once with your bathroom humor

you make fun of the gifts of the spirit and have done so in a bathroom humor kind of way...yeah you just can't stand me at all because I know what makes you tick

you will never help someone by whacking them with their sin...do I have opinions? of course I do...just like you do..which you express quite strongly..perhaps you just prefer your women a little less...intelligent?

You're on Planet Delusional if you think I ever showed you any interest. And if I hiccupped and did in fact say those words, not only was it a joke, and a bad one at that, but it does not discount for the lack of respect I have for you. You smack people around here all the time but like a typical narcissistic fascist you can't handle being correctly called out, while I, on the other hand can handle being corrected, and appreciate when people do so. That's what differs me from you. You have the wrong portion of the horse showing for your avatar, no doubt about that.

 

[MsSuzanna]

You two need to STOP. This is NOT a battleground

 

[blue_ladybug]

all true...and she knows that

I made mention of the time as someone else kind of hinted that God was in control of it all?

I know you don't think so and of course He is not in control of our lives in that manner

anyway

Of course I think God is in control of all this. I don't think it, I KNOW it. But still he COULD have left the baby out of the lesson he's teaching this couple now. And hopefully she will learn this lesson and not repeat it again..

 

[Utah]

ps...no grudges Utah...not on my side anyway

if you can dish it out, I guess you can take it, eh?

A grudge? You're not that important for me to have a grudge. Carry on.

 

[Utah]

You two need to STOP. This is NOT a battleground

Okay. I'm done.

 

[Born_Again]

Wow, and the OP is long gone LOL And yet we press on LOL

 

[blue_ladybug]

Wow, and the OP is long gone LOL And yet we press on LOL

Yep, another typical hit-n-run thread. Notice how she abandoned ship when we gave her a dose of the truth? I doubt she'll come back, and even if she does, she will only give insults and I-don't-cares.. :/